Ukubunjwa kwesihloko: "Kuthetha ukuthini uvuyo, okanye Yintoni enonwabo?"

Inwaba ayinayo inkcazo ecacileyo, kuba inentsingiselo yayo kumntu ngamnye. Ukuqonda ukuba lithetha ukuthini eli gama, kufuneka uzame ukuhlalutya kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo, umzekelo, ngokuphendula imibuzo embalwa esiya kuyiqwalasela kweli nqaku.

Yintoni eyenza intombi ivuyiswe?

Umfazi ngumntu onobuqili, obunobungozi, obuthathekayo, xa kuthelekiswa nomntu, kwiziganeko ezahlukileyo, iimeko zobomi ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngokusondeleyo entliziyweni ziqonda ixesha elithile, zixhalabele ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. Ukwahlukana kunokuchazwa ngokungapheliyo. Kodwa ukuba uyathintela isihloko solonwabo, ngokuqinisekileyo lo mfazi uya kubhala uluhlu lwezinto ezidibeneyo ezingamenza ajabule.

Umfazi onoyolo uthetha ntoni? Ubukho bomntu onothando, owaziyo nolononophelo ngasecaleni ngokuqinisekileyo luyinye yezona zinto ziphambili zentlalo yolonwabo. Yindoda eyanceda umphefumlo womfazi ukuba uzaliswe ngeemvakalelo ezikhuthazayo ezikhuthaza nokuzithemba. Kakade ke, akubona wonke umntu onokwenza umfazi onwabileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, konke kuxhomekeke kumntu onokubangela ukuba uvakalelo olufanayo lubizwa ngokuthi "uthando", kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye lunika ulonwabo.

Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungakhankanyi ngempilo, ngaphandle kokuba kunzima ukucinga ukuba uyavuya kwaye ujabule. Impilo yabathandekayo, abantwana bawuthandaza ngamnye umfazi.

Abasetyhini abaninzi banikela indima ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwabo kwezobuchwepheshe, ukuphucula imeko yabo yezemali, iimeko zezindlu, oko kukuthi, kwiimeko ezikujikelezayo ebomini, nakwinto ebangela ukuba bathuthuzelwe.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nayiphi na intombi ibonakala. Ubumnene bunikeza iimvakalelo ezingenakwenzeka kumntu onomntu, okwenza ukuba azithembe, uyamnceda ahambe ebomini nentloko yakhe ephakamileyo.

Ukuqonda into eyenza owesifazane onwabileyo, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha umzekelo ummeleli wekontoni kwaye unike ukuziva umhlaba wakhe ongaphakathi kwaye uqonde ixabiso lakhe. Akukho namaphethini enjabulo aya kusebenza kuwo wonke umntu.

Ubuntwabisayo obunentsingiselo kuthetha ntoni?

Ungazama ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo. Ingaba isincoko esithi "Kusho ukuthini ukuba ngumntwana onoyolo ?" Ubuntwana lixesha elimangalisayo kakhulu, apho uvuyo kunye nokulawula okungakhathali. Ngoko kufanelekile, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onokuthi oko kwakunjalo xa babengabantwana. Ubuntwana buzaliswe ngeemeko ezahlukileyo, ezithatha ixesha elide zibe zizikhumbuzo kwaye zibangele ezi zizwe. Enyanisweni, ulonwabo kubantwana lithetha into ehlukile kunabantu abadala. Ngoko ke, xa ucinga umbuzo wobomi obonwabileyo, kunengqiqo ukuphendula, ukubuza njengomntwana okanye ukubuza abantwana ngokwabo.

Akukho mntu uya kubambana, kwanabantwana ngokwabo, okulungileyo xa umntwana ejikelezwe ngokuthandana, abazali abanakekelayo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana aqonde kwaye azive ukuba uyathandwa, ukuba uya kuxhaswa kwaye ancedwe, uya kuba novelwano kwaye acinezele. Akukho namnye ongatshintsha umama noyise.

Ngaba amathoyizi angenza umntwana ajabule? Kwaye kutheni? Ngomntwana, badlala kude nenxaxheba yokugqibela, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, enye yeyokuqala. Kubalulekile ukuba ubone amehlo avulekileyo ngokumangalisa kunye novuyo xa umntwana ethola idoli entsha, umshicileli, umyili kunye nokunye. Impendulo yalo mbuzo ayiyi kukugcina ulinde.

Bahlobo, amabanga amahle esikolweni, enesilwanyana sisilwanyana esiqinisekisiweyo sokumnandi kunye nokumomotheka ngobuso obuhle.

Iyintoni intsapho evuyayo?

Kukho uluvo olusasazekayo lokuba ukwabiwa ngokufanelekileyo kweembopheleleko zendlu kuya kusombulula iingxaki ezininzi, iingxabano kunye nokukhokelela kulonwabo. Kodwa akusiyo yonke into elula. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafundi banikwa umsebenzi wokubhala isicatshulwa ngesihloko esithi "Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba usapho olonwabileyo kwintsapho". Kwaye kuthiwani na? Mhlawumbi, kunzima kakhulu ukuphumeza isihloko esithi "Intsapho Yonwabile". Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantu abalawulayo ukudala indawo ebonwabileyo kwintsapho, inani leqhawulo lomtshato liyakhula, kunye neinyembezi ziphuma kumabhinqa nakwamehlo abantwana, ubudlelwane nomnye buzele umsindo kunye nenzondo.

Luhlobo luni lentsapho lubonwa njengolonwabo? Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwintsapho enjalo, uthando, ukunyaniseka kunye nokunyaniseka komnye nomnye kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwakhona, musa ukwakha into enhle ngaphandle kokuhlonelana omnye nomnye. Abantwana banamathela kwaye badibanisa indoda kunye nomfazi ekupheleni. Njengakwezinye izindawo, ngaphandle kwempilo naphi na, ngoko ke abathandekayo abanempilo, abantu basekuhlaleni bazalisa uvuyo indlu kunye nosapho. Ukuba konke oku kuxhaswa yimpilo-ntle, yonke into ihamba ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ukubuyiselana komzimba kunye nokuthula kwengqondo kwenza kube lula ukuqonda ukuba ihlabathi lihle, kwaye yonke into enayo namhlanje iyinto efanelekile yokuphila.

Ngaba unako ukuthenga ulonwabo?

Lo mbuzo ubamba impendulo engalunganga, abaninzi abantu bakulungele ukubhala umsebenzi wonke ngesihloko esithi "Kuthetha ukuthini ukuvuya ngaphandle kwemali." Ngaba bonke bazimisele ngokucacileyo ukuba ulonwabo alunakuthengwa? Ngaba oku kunjalo ngokwenene? Kutheni na? Ngaba ayikho unyango ohlawulwayo ophelisa ngesiphumo esihle-ukufumana ngokupheleleyo, akunakuvuyisa? Ngaba akunakunyulwa ngumntwana ngokumthengela umdlalo ongeyilangazelela? Ngaba umntu akanako ukuthenga intlalonelo yakhe intombi yakhe ngendlela yokwenza intsimbi? Olu luhlu lwemibuzo luyakwazi ukuqhubeka ngonaphakade. Umgca wezantsi kukuba, ngelanga, akukho nto ixhomekeke kwimali. Emva koko, ukuba yonke into yayixhomekeka ngokwezinto eziphathekayo, ngoko bekuya kubakho abaninzi abantu abanolonwabo.

Ngaba kulula ukuvuya?

Wonke umntu ufuna ukuvuya. Kunokuthiwa kukuba abantu abaninzi banonwabo injongo yabo ebomini, kodwa kunamagama ahlukeneyo. Xa ufumana oko ukulindele, kuza uxolo lwengqondo, uxolo kwaye uqala ukuvuya ngokukhululeka, wona kanye amaphiko ahlala athetha ngokukhula. Ewe, kulula ukuyonwaba. Into ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo apha kukuba akukho mntu umona, iiglozi kwaye akenzi abonwabileyo besabe baze bafihle oko bakufezile. Kulixesha eliphakamileyo lokuba abantu bafunde ukuvuya ngabanye kwaye ngaloo ndlela baphule yonke into engeyiyo ngaphakathi kwabo, enenhlanhla ayiyi kuyenza.

Esi sincoko ngesihloko esithi "Kuthetha ukuthini uvuyo, okanye Yintoni enonwabo" ibonise ukuba ulonwabo aluba nemida. Wonke umntu uyavuya ngendlela yakhe. Wonke umntu udinga into ethile engayitshintsha ubomi bakhe ibe ngcono, wonke umntu unalo. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuba uqonde oko kufunekayo ukuze wenze uvuyo.