Yokulahlekelwa kunye guy, indlela usinde imalile

Kukho iindidi ezimbini zabantu. Eyokuqala kunzima kakhulu kunikwa ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuba ukwahlukana kubo, ukuba kukho into awuzali. Okwesibini, ngokuchaseneyo, hambisa ibingengomcimbi kunye lula sahlukana. Ukuze aphinde iimpazamo ulwalamano entsha, kubalulekile ukuqonda unobangela ekuweni endala.

Ezinye abameli besini siethe, ndaphule off ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakhe, ibuza: "Indlela sisinde yokwahlukana lo mfo?". Umntu uya ukusebenza kunye nentloko kwaye iqala ukwenza umsebenzi, ngokukhetha sodwa. Umntu, phezu koko, ishiya ebomvu dolophu. Amantombazana bedanile kumntu wesini esahlukileyo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuqonda imeko. Bona ke andifuni ukuba amaqabane ezintsha ukwakha ubuhlobo. Kodwa oku ndlela yo kuma ntsako. Ungathini na ngabantu abonwabileyo, ukuba akukho ecaleni kwakhe ezazihambisana, lowo uya kuxhasa ngamaxesha anzima. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba aphile ngaphandle kwezinye mata. Ngamnye kuthi ufuna kancinci ukhathalelo kunye nobushushu.

Abafumana yokwahlukana a guy senza anze. ingxoxo yangaphambili uqale kwakhona. Kwakhona, kanye kwakhona, siya ukunyathela phezu iharika efanayo. Ukuze ube noyolo umntu, aze afumane iqabane umphefumlo wakho, kufuneka ukuba ushiye ngokuchanekileyo. Nantso into siza sithethe.

Okokuqala kufuneka ukuba ichaphaza zonke "i". Ukuba ubuhlobo ndidiniwe, nceda yiba nesibindi kunye phantsi oko. Akukho mfuneko kubiza yangaphambili, ukuphefumla efowunini, lindela kuye emva komsebenzi. Ngamafutshane, musa ukukhangela ukuba iintlanganiso. Ukuba oku kuthe kwenzeka ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kunye guy, kufuneka uye, kwakanye bonke, hayi emva. Ukuba ngaba unikwa ukusebenza, uzama ukuya kwindawo enye, apho na ex yakho, kufuneka athobele umgama welizwe. Zama ubuncinane ithuba elifutshane ukuya kwindawo ethile, kwaye ngexesha ungabe efanayo.

Zama ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, utshintsho, umzekelo, umsebenzi, kunye nenombolo yefowuni. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, linda kwenye indawo. Kufuneka into eza kukugcina uxakekile, mayiziswe intloko yakho neengcinga ukuze luzole. Emva ukuhlukana kunye guy engalunganga, kunzima ukuba nje ezimbalwa kwiiveki zokuqala, uze emva koko uzifumanisa ucinga ukuba akukho kuphinda ucinga ntoni kwisithabazi solawulo ex yakho, neengcinga zenu zigcwele kunye nezinye izinto.

Cinga ozithandayo. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa ulwalamano lwabo ngaphambili kwafuneka ukuba bahlabele. Eneneni, ngokufuthi kuyenzeka ukuba amaqabane ethu Ninganeli oko bayayithanda ngazo. Kwaye siphosa lo msebenzi, nje ukuba ukukholisa intanda yakhe. Ngoko lo mzuzu xa ungakwazi ukunandipha yakho Sasikuthanda. Lixesha lokuba hayi ubomi "Wasi", nangenxa ngokwakhe. Ngapha koko, oko unqande ngokupheleleyo wena iingcinga ezimbi.

Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba ngaba ubukhulu becala ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kunye guy, musa ukukhangela iziphoso wena. rhoqo kakhulu kubangelwe ukuhlukana esezantsi nokuzixabisa. Kuyinto sizalwa amadoda kunye nabafazi, kodwa abafazi kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba ucudise ngokwabo. Ukuze imivumbo yakho ndibaphilise, kuthatha ixesha, maxa wambi iminyaka. Kwaye ukuba ayizange Kwathi ilize, kufuneka sifunde uthembe besini esahlukileyo. Eyona ndlela ilula - ukutshintsha isangqa lwentlalo. Kukho abahlobo bokwenene, kunye nabahlobo ukuze ukuzonwabisa, nabo sichitha ixesha lethu free, sibe ukuphumla, yiya amaqela. Ngoko, kunye nabahlobo bakho baya kuba nzima ngakumbi, kodwa kunokuba babe ngabahlobo kuze kuphinde kuvele ezinye. Kufuneka kuhluzeka ngaphandle. Abahlobo bokwenene baya kusoloko kukho wena, kodwa yokulahlekelwa umhlobo, kunqabile ukuba azisole.

Indlela yokusinda, esekungcoleni kumyeni wakhe? Nokuba ukuba sihlale wahlobana wangaphambili?

Ngokuqinisekileyo uthi "ewe" okanye "hayi," akunakwenzeka. Kufuneka uqhubeke ukusuka imeko, ukuba babe nabantwana kunye, ishishini. Kulo mzekelo, ufuna ukuba okanye hayi, kufuneka ukuba babe nabahlobo. inkcubeko lizwe, unqulo nako. Ukugcina ubuhlobo, ngokufuthi zangaphambili amaqabane Abangawugciniyo umgama ngokweemvakalelo, bona ngqo kuchaphazela ubomi omnye komnye. Zashiya ingqondo yobango, kwaye ke abafuni ukubona kuva ex lwabo omnye umntu. Ukongezelela, baya kuba ngabazithandayo nje, njengokuba konakalisa ukwakha ubuhlobo obutsha. Mhlawumbi, umntu ngamnye kufuneka isigqibo ngoko ufuna ukuluphelisa ulwalamano lwenu. Kuyimfuneko ithuba lokuyihlolisisa le meko kwaye ufumanise kuqala zonke kuye ngokwakhe. Kodwa ukuba ugqiba ekubeni uhlale abahlobo, okwesihlandlo sokuqala kuyimfuneko nangoku ukuthatha sokuvala. Oku ukuze eyayiza kuba zonke iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo kudlula, kwaye baye bakwazi ukuthatha ujongo nobungcathu kwi imeko.