Yintoni eyenza indoda ibe yindoda, ngokutsho kwabasetyhini

Iingcamango zobuninzi zihlukene kakhulu namhlanje. Kwiminyaka emva nje Iimbono zobugcisa bezo zesini zenze iinguqu ezibalulekileyo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, iimpawu eziphambili kunye neziphakamiso malunga nokuba yiyiphi ibhinqa kufuneka ibe yintoni, kwaye yintoni eyenza indoda indoda ingagxininiswa.

Yintoni abafazi abayicinga ngayo

Bonke abantu bahluke. Wonke umfazi unelungelo lakhe, eliyakhelwe ngenxa yokumisela iimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba le ntombazana ikhula kwintsapho ecebileyo, ngoko uyise udla imodeli ekhethekileyo kuye kunye nokukhetha okulandelayo kwintsebenziswano ebomini. Ngaphandle koko, umbuzo malunga neempawu umntu ayenayo, uzinikela impendulo ngokwayo, ekhokelwa ngamava akhe okuphila, kunye neembono zabantu abahloniphekileyo, abaninzi beentombi.

Uninzi lweengqungquthela zenzulululwazi lunikeza uluvo lwemilinganiselo ephakathi kwiimpawu ezibonakalayo, ukuba ngokwemibono yabasetyhini .

Amandla akhona. Yintoni ayimfuneko?

Eyokuqala amandla. Kuthetha ukuthini ngabaphenduli beeminyaka ezahlukeneyo? Abo bancinci, banokucinga ngengqondo yomzimba. Le ndlela ibonisa umnqweno wendalo wokufumana ukukhuselwa okuthenjelwayo nokuzala umntwana ophilileyo. Abasetyhini abasele "iminyaka yobuhle" be-30, banxulumanisa ukubaluleka okukhulu kumandla okuziphatha, kubakho isibindi nobunzima beqabane, ukuhlaziya, kunye nokuziphatha okubalulekileyo njengokuba ukwazi ukuzithoba kwiintsilelo zabanye kubaluleke kakhulu.

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Injongo ibambelela ngokuqinisekileyo phakathi kwezo zinto ezikhethwa ngabafazi. Akufanelekanga ingqwalasela yesiqingatha esilungileyo sabantu ukuba akayazi into ayifunayo ebomini, kwaye nangona kunjalo ke yena owaziyo, kodwa akenzi nto. Umnqweno kunye nokukwazi ukufezekisa yinto eyenza indoda ibe yindoda. Oku kuthathwa njengabasetyhini kuphela, kodwa kunye nabameli bezesondo ezinamandla. Nangona kunjalo, nangenjongo enokulinganisela. Ukuba umntu kwisigqibo somsebenzi onombuzo akathandabuzi ukungathandabuzeki, i-flaxes intrigues kwaye wenza izenzo zokuziphatha kakubi, ngoko akusiyo yonke intokazi eya kumphatha ngokuhlonipha nokuqonda. Ekugqibeleni, uPetr Petrovich Luzhin ovela kwincwadana enkulu kaF. M. Dostoyevsky "Ulwaphulo-mthetho nokusohlwaya" naye wayeyindoda enenjongo, engazange imvimbele ekubeni yindoda.

Kungekudala nje kunokutsho

Imbopheleleko yintoni eyenza indoda ibe yindoda. Ukuba uthembisa, yibani nomusa, yenzeni. I-Word-tin. Kukho into enjenge-anecdote echaza indlela uyise ovuselela ngayo unyana wakhe ngengcamango yokuba indoda yangempela kufuneka ibe neempawu ezimbini eziphambili: ukunyanzeliswa (ukuba uthembisa, uya kuyenza ngokuqinisekileyo) kunye nokunyamezela (akuzange kuthembise nantoni na into). Oku, kunjalo, ihlaya, kodwa abafazi abathandi ukuxoxa. Amadoda nawo akabahloneli. Akunandaba ukuba umntu uthetha, into ephambili kukuba intetho yakhe ayiyintsiphu. Ngamanye amaxesha kukholelwa ukuba ukuxhomekeka kukubonakalisa ubulumko. Oku, hayi, akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukuba akukho nto ithethayo, kukulungele ukuthula.

Ukuhleka ekusebenziseni kwendoda kufuneka kukhishwe ngokupheleleyo, baxolelwa kuphela nje ngeyona nto inengqiqo yendawo yabasetyhini.

Usapho kunye nabantwana

Isimo sengqondo kwintsapho ibonakalisa nayiphi na umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini. Ngokomlando, kweli lizwe apho abalimi behlaselwa khona, i-Orthodox "yenkwenkwezi", kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ininzi yamadoda "ayithandi". Ukulinganisa ngokubanzi kwenza kube nzima kumntu ukubonakalisa amandla okuzalwa okwenyama yomlimi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha amadoda, akakwazi ukubonelela ngokuphila ngokufanelekileyo kwiintsapho zawo, azizange azihlonele. Abasetyhini bakwazi ukugcina ubunjani babo ubuninzi, kwaye bangaqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ininzi yeentsapho esiziphetheyo ngenxa yemigudu yabo. Ikakhulukazi abafazi bayayixabisa xa abayeni ngokwabo, bengakhange bakhumbuze baze bavuselele into eyenziwa ngumntu. Oku kubhekisela kumsebenzi onzima osebenzayo ngaphakathi kwendlu, olunye ulondolozo olunzulu kunye nokuphunyezwa kwemigaqo yokucoceka.

Indawo ekhethekileyo yeso sengqondo kubantwana. Nguyise omele afundise oonyana besilisa, kunye nezakhono ezahlukeneyo zokunika ubomi. Inxaxheba yakhe kwimfundo yeentombi sele ikhankanywe. Isimo sengqondo sabantwana abasandulisayo sichazwe ngokuhlakanipha kwisalathiso sabantu: indoda yangempela, abantwana abangaziwayo abayithintelo, kwaye isidenge kunye nesakhe siwumthwalo.

Musa ukuziqhayisa

Ingakumbi umntu umi kwindawo ephakamileyo yophuhliso, ngaphantsi afuna ukuhlaziya isithunzi sakhe. Kutheni ukunyanisekisa oko sele sele kwanele? Kodwa ngokungazi kwaye zithatha ulwazi kunye nolunye ulwahlulo oluthembekileyo ukukhwela ngokuzithandela kwiindawo zokunene nezisekhohlo "zeempumelelo" zakhe. Umzekelo ocacileyo we "ipikokisi" enjalo ivela kumfanekiso oqingqiweyo kaSvirid Golokhvastov ngumlobi ophawulekayo uMn. Staritsky. UGogol's Khlestakov akangaphantsi kuye. Ukuqhayisa akuyona into eyenza indoda ibe yindoda, kodwa ngokuphambene noko.

Impumelelo yenziwe ngokuzimela

"Wazenza ngokwakhe", - ngoko iNgesi yabiza umntu ophumelele kwimpumelelo yakhe kunye neetalente, kungekhona ngokubambisana okanye ngokutshata ngokutshata. Kwenzeka ukuba umntu wokwenene uzuze ilifa, kodwa uya kwenza konke ukuliphindaphinda, kwaye akayi kuvumela inkunkuma yakhe. "Yonke into yentsapho!" Ngaba isiqubulo sakhe. Kodwa abaceli kunye nama-parasites kubafazi abazukanga. Umfazi wokwenene unokukhetha ukunyamekela kumntu onempumelelo ngokuthobekileyo oye waphumelela yonke into ngokuzimeleyo, kunomntu osisityebi oye waphumelela ukuphila kakuhle, ukulungelelanisa nokuthengisa isazela sakhe.

Kubonakala

Abasetyhini banjengabantu abanobuhle nabasondelene, kodwa bacasulwa yimimoya yabo yokugqithisa ngokubonakala kwabo. Umnqweno wokunxiba iimpahla kunye nezicathulo kuzo zonke izihlandlo kwaye nayiphi na imimoya iyancomeka, ngokungafaniyo ne "shumotchnitsy". "Unokuba ngumntu onengqiqo kwaye ucinge ngobuhle beempiki," - uthetha iklasi. Njengoko kuyo yonke imicimbi, ukumodareyitha kuhlobisa "zombini umntu omdala onobuhlungu kunye nomfana."

Ungubani, indoda yangempela?

Ukuzisola kwam okukhulu, ububele abuzange bangene kulolu hlobo "lwesigxina esiphezulu" semilinganiselo yamadoda, esixabiswa ngesigqibo esihle sabantu. Abafazi abanobulumko kuphela, abaye bafumana ngamanye amaxesha izifundo zobundlobongela bexesha elizayo, bayakwazi ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwesi sici somntu esichazwe ngasentla. Ukukwazi ukuqonda, ukuzisola nokunceda, kungekhona ngamazwi, kodwa ngezenzo, luphawu lwembini yamandla, kunye nenjongo yomphefumlo. Akungabazeki ukuba indoda elungileyo iya kuthanda intsapho yayo, inabo bahlobo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba impumelelo yakhe ayiyi kuphelelwa.