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"Njengoba nje wena musa ukuchitha ngokwakhe, akuthandeki ukuba uza kuphumelela ummangali '

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Uya kumangaliswa ukuba nangona mna yezengqondo ngemidlalo, musa ukubeka injongo ephambili neembaleki ukusebenza eliphezulu. umnqweno wam onyanisekileyo - ukuba bafunde ukuba ngaphakathi simahla ukususela isiphumo ukuba abantwana baye bafunda ukuba sibunandiphe ubomi, nangona ngokoyiswa kukhuphiswano, ukuba ahlale phezu iimpazamo zabo ukuze zazisa kwabo, nokuba inani lamanqaku. Ngapha koko, lonke ixesha emsebenzini, ngokufuthi ndibukele ndawo efanayo: emva uthotho ukoyiswa, abaninzi ezayo ukungakholelwa ngokwabo, ibonisa ngamandla kakhulu ngenxa yoko, yaye oku ntshikilelo nangakumbi nasengqondweni. Ukuba ukunyuka ombane, luvo amandla, kunye nethuba lokuba sisebenzayo mdlalo uncipha kakhulu. UThixo abe nabo, kunye neziphumo .... kodwa emva ukuzithemba umntwana, wakhe zempilo yengqondo, yaye isimo udandathekile, ukunqongophala ukuzithemba kunye uhlobo ziboniswe ngqo kwi impilo yomzimba.

Ukuba isikali ukubeka iziphumo ngokwasengqondweni (kwaye ngokwasemzimbeni) zempilo entle, ukhetha ntoni? .. Ndikhetha zempilo. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndiya Sicebisa ukubeka kwindawo yokuqala ukuhlakulela uhlobo mbaleki-nemithi, xa intliziyo apho kunokwenzeka khona ukuba nesimo sengqondo kwilahleko kunye nokukwazi ukuba ukumthethisa wena iimpazamo, kwaye bathabatha izigqibo yaye ukuwalungisa kwixesha elizayo, ukuhlonipha welinye icala (akukho umona, intiyo) ngoba yiyo into umdlali likuvumela ukuba ukubonisa isidima wendalo. Ngumchamo, fane, umsindo - konke oku luphawu ukungakhuseleki kunye nomnqweno onamandla kakhulu lokuphumelela, ukuba ibe bhetele kumdlali welinye icala. Ngoku makhe sicinge ukuba kutheni kufuneka ukuba sibe ngcono kunabanye? Ngubani yaye yintoni sifuna ukubonisa? Ngaba nawe uya kungqina ukuba ungcono kunabanye abantu? Kunokuba indoda singaqiniseka ezolile, onemfesane, nomonde, intlonelo, azithanda. Kodwa xa sixhalabile kuba abanye yakuthetha ngani (kwaye ngesiquphe ucinge: "wimp, isiphukuphuku isiyatha"), apha kulapho iqala khona iingxaki. Ngubani kudala le ngxaki? engqondweni yethu! Thina ukuzithelekisa nabanye, ukuzibeka uqikelelo "Mna ngcono okanye babambekile", endaweni yokuba xa uzithelekisa naloo esasinakho kwixesha elidlulileyo (kwaye oku injongo a kakhulu ngakumbi kwaye sinika ithuba lokuba ukuvavanya ingcinga ephilileyo ukuba okanye hayi senza inkqubela).

Thina ngokwethu bakhokelwa ukukholelwa ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile musa nje ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, uze uqiniseke ukuba "ukutsiba kwi" umntu. Society ikhuthaza uluvo ngamandla. Iqhayiya yesikolo, umzi, ilizwe kufuneka ube yintshatsheli! Kwaye phezu iimpawu zomntu akukho mbuzo. Mhlawumbi lo iqhawe yokugula wobulali, uyabawa, bakrwada, njl Kwaye ukuba ucinga ngayo, kusenokufuneka ukuvavanya ngokwawo phezu iimpawu zabantu? Mhlawumbi kufuneka sibe nebhongo abafana uhlobo, unovelwano, nesibindi? Ndisenantoni na ukusebenza lweembaleki?

Xa Ndandifuna ukuba ngengqondo best emidlalo kummandla Samara. Ngoku kubonakala funny kum. Kutheni? Ngubani yaye oko kufuneka zibonakalise? Oku kubalulekile, ndiya nesihloko yenzululwazi, izatifikethi odume kokugqiba izifundo okanye hayi? Mhlawumbi okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba ndithe njengoko ingcali kunokunceda leembaleki, yaye indoda leyo Mna wonke ...

Ndiqinisekile ukuba amabhongo zethu ezonakalisa kuphela ubomi. Amabhongo ngenkani ukusulela ugxile kwi ukuzonwabisa izinto zakho ozithandayo, kwaye ukufezekisa le yoko, ngoko badane xa ngaba isiphumo singesiso ukuzuzeka.

Utsalele Mhlawumbi weva binzana isoloko isetyenziswa iisayikholojisti kunye zobulumko ezininzi zo, "Yiba apha ngoku," yaye ngokwenene formula sengqondo kubomi. Phila, funda kuba mzuzu langoku, makabe ngokupheleleyo, endaweni ukubaleka phambili kwaye bazobe oko ekuyileni imifanekiso ezoyikekayo lokungaphumeleli. Wati wena, ngokufuthi kakhulu, sicinga elizayo akukenzeki, okanye hlisa iingxaki meko edlulileyo, ukoyika akazange ngokungathi oko kwenzeke. Ngoku abaninzi kangaka, nalo uxinzelelo rhoqo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, impendulo ezingonelanga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Yaye ngenxa engenangqondo ngokupheleleyo indlela ekulahlekeni ngesiganeko (umzekelo), masithi kwenye indawo kwilizwe elikude imfazwe kunye nosana nje sifuna ukusinda, kwaye kwezinye iimeko yendlala omnye umntwana singenanto singayidlayo, yaye kwenye inyikima enye .... yaye ngoku uthelekise imeko yakho ngemeko yabo bantu ... Kwaye ngoko ke musa etyeni ukuba abe ligqabi "wabulawa" ngenxa ilahleko? Ewe, ilahleko - oko kuhle, ukuba isifundo, uvavanyo isimilo sethu, eli lithuba ngokwalo ukubona ngoku, lithuba ukuziqeqesha ukuba gqolo kwiimeko ezibangela ... Kwaye xa ukhumbula kakhulu malunga naloo nto, ngoko emva komzuzwana isimo sengqondo esinjalo phumeleli lukhuni umlinganiswa nokulungiselela ezinzima ngokwenene ebomini, apho kuya kufuneka nethemba, nokuzeyisa kunye self-nokuzithemba.

Abanye abantu, akuba kwala kancane yokufa, ukusinda ngokungummangaliso, kuba ixesha elide ujonge iintsilelo ezingenamsebenzi izinto encinane ebomini, ngenxa yokuba xa kuthelekiswa abuhambi iingxaki ezinkulu ngokwenene ... Ngaba kufuneka ukuba iimeko ngokwenene eziyingozi beluya kuyiqonda into yokuba zonke ezinye izinto siza ibenze - ngokwenene ububhanxa? Mhlawumbi nje ixesha ukukhumbula ukuba eyona nto iphambili ukuba akanatyala, kodwa isimo sethu ebomini, ukukwazi ukunandipha izinto ezilula sibuxabise ubomi.

Ndiya kubingelela sivumele amabhongo ukuthatha ukuba intsebenzo lweembaleki kungafezekiswa, okanye ndingathi, kwaye oku kumele usithe ubomi bethu. Kodwa ukuba sibe nesimo sengqondo esihle nokukholwa ngokwakho, ngoko ke yindlela yokuphumelela iphezulu kakhulu. Ngoko ke, funda ukonwabela inkqubo umdlalo (izinto ozithandayo) kakhulu ibaluleke ngaphezu kokulinda ukuba umphumo.

"Ukukhululeka," yoko, kuba apha kwaye ngoku, ngokufuthi khumbula ukuba ngokwenene ezibalulekileyo ebomini uze ubone indlela ukuzithemba, uvuyo noxolo uya kwenza ubomi ngakumbi, kunye nokuphucula intsebenzo lweembaleki - kuya kuba nefuthe icala sengqondo esinjalo eyakhayo yokujongana ebomini.