Lumo: kutheni umntu Andizoyiki izigidi zabantu?

Uyakwazi siqhele ukuva ukuba umntu owoyikayo abantu. Abantu abanjalo behlupheka kukungabi luzithembe kwaye udale ngeenxa baziqwebela isangqa. Ukoyika zabantu - luhlobo yabantu ukucalulwa, ukucekiswa lwentlalo. Ukuze bahlukane kuyo, kufuneka amava, kufuneka ukunxibelelana eninzi, kodwa nangenxa yokuhlonela ukwenza kube nzima kakhulu.

Xa umntu woyika abantu, woyika kakhulu wonke umntu nayo yonke into: ndoyika ukunxibelelana nabantu abatsha, waba udidekile kwiqela enengxolo, ukuba abayazi nokuba ukwenza umnxeba. Nayiphi na imeko apho umntu kufuneka ukubhenela ingxoxo, kwenza kube pretty luvo.

Kodwa bonke abantu bayakwazi utshintsho. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu woyika abantu, kodwa ufuna ukoyisa le ethile, kuya kufuneka ukuba basebenze nzima baze ukuya hi ndlela yo vava. Into esemqoka ukuba inkuthazo.

Ngoko ke, kuqala ngayo ukuqonda imvelaphi kunye oonobangela noloyiko.

Kutheni Andizoyiki izigidi zabantu?

Njengoko umthetho, ukoyika unxibelelwano - oko ke kukoyika abaselula. Le lumo kunqabile emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini. Ngokubanzi kwenzeka olufikisayo kwiminyaka yesikolo (ukususela kwiminyaka 10). Isizathu sokuba loo kunye inkohlakalo abantwana, xa yonke iklasi yonke iityhefu a isiphukuphuku, kwaye inkohlakalo ootitshala, abo bahlekisa iyivume, ezinzima kunye nenkqubo yesikolo, olusekelwe phezu lokululeka kawonke phambi kwabo bonke ontanga zabo ...

Isizathu sokuba umntu owoyikayo abantu, kwaye zisuswe, ukubanda okanye isimo sengqondo akanankathalo yabazali ebuntwaneni okanye ukwenzakala ngokwasengqondweni ngenxa yeengxaki entsatsheni.

Kwaye kukho iimeko apho unobangela isahlakalo yokoyika abantu ngokubanzi akwenzeki.

Evame boyika abantu abaphethwe lumo?

Ukuqiniseka. Ndoyisiwe. Shame. Abantu woyika abaqondi okanye, mbi, yintlekisa bathotywe esidlangalaleni. Umntu onesifo sigulo, kusoloko kubonakala ukuba lonke ixesha emva kwakhe, ukubukela @UnathiKondile, xa wenza impazamo kwaye wenze into engalunganga. Yena usoloko ukungaqiniseki izenzo zabo nokuziphatha, woyika kwaye uziva lihlazo. Kaloku, kakhulu phantsi ukuzithemba ngakumbi kuphela kwandisa meko. Konke oku kukhokelela kukuba umntu engena yena ungafudumezi contact. Kodwa yedwa soze ufumane amava kwaye balahle yokoyika.

Ngoko ke, lo imveliso kule meko - ukuhlangabezana ubuso bakho ukoyika ngobuso ukuba uphume 'ityala' yakhe ukuba bafumane amava.

Ukulwa izothuso

Kulo mzekelo, ungaya neesemina zoqeqesho ezizodwa, apho ufunda zonke ubuqili zonxibelelwano kunye ukoyisa uloyiko lwabo. Qiniseka ukufumana uququzelelo lamaziko oqeqesho asekhaya kunye ubhalisela kwezinye izifundo. Emva kwabo kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba woyise uloyiko lwabo kunye nezakhiwo.

Ungabona yincutshe-ngengqondo. Namhlanje yindlela esebenzayo yokulwa loo loyiko ngomlingo, unyango zokuziphatha, ngomlingo kunye nezinye iindlela. Enkosi kubo, uyakwazi ukubona izinto ezibangela lumo nokuphuhlisa indlela ukujongana nazo.

Wena Ungathatha ingqalelo ekhethekileyo "amacwecwe ukoyika." Beta-blocker athandwa kakhulu namhlanje. La machiza telela uloyiko kunye nokunciphisa iimpawu zayo (lingcangcazela ilizwi lakhe, okanye neentende ebila).

Yaye khumbula ukuba imizamo yakho ulingana phezu! Ngapha koko, unxibelelwano ezamahala uvuyo olukhulu izisa kwaye ivula amathuba enkulu kunye namathuba emisebenzi kunye nobomi zobuqu.