Ukuthintela isisu kunye neziphumo zawo

Abe nosana abe umama - okubaluleke ulonwabo ebomini yonke umfazi. Okanye nganye? Mhlawumbi le nto icacisa ukuba liyanda inani abafazi izisu. Ngokutsho ezinye iingqikelelo, wonke umfazi wesithathu ebomini bakhe ubuncinane kanye wabhenela kule nkqubo. Intsingiselo eli gama eyoyikekayo uyazi ngamnye kuthi, kodwa xa kufuneka senze i ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, abaninzi nangoku mathidala ukuba balahle umntwana, akunamsebenzi nokuba kuthatha ntoni. Kodwa kuthekani iimvakalelo unina yaye yonke loo nto?

Ukuqhomfa kuye kwaba yinxalenye yobomi bethu elide. Nguye lowo awayihlangula xa kufuneka aphelise nokukhulelwa, ngamanye amazwi, ukuba ukumbulala umntwana. Nangona le nkqubo iye wapheliswa ngumthetho, yokuba besoyika onke; abo anento ukwandisa izinga wokuzalwa, lowo uza ukwenza isisu, yaye umfazi lowo waba nabuganga kuyo. Ukuqhomfa kunye nemiphumela yayo noba amantombazana elivisayo. Kodwa njengoko akazange achaze ukuba abafazi undesirability ze unciphise zokukhulelwa, isisu, oku akuthethi abe ngaphantsi.

Ngokutsho manani, izisu badla kwenziwa ngabafazi nabafikisayo abatsha. Izizathu oku kwahluka kakhulu: bephosa omthandayo, kodwa hayi zihambe ekuseni kakhulu, njl Kodwa yonke into eyenzeka ebomini ukuthintela umntwana? Kuyinto bubudenge ukuthatha ubomi silwanyana kuphela kuba lalingekafiki efumene imali eninzi, ezingenazo yezindlu yaye omnye ngaphandle uyise, ukukhulisa umntwana kunzima kakhulu. Ngokobuqu, Ndiyakholwa ukuba sifanele sibe wenziwa isisu kuphela xa kukho ubungqina zonyango. Ewe, yenzeka ukuba oogqirha Makube umfazi kuzala, ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu. Kodwa nalapha, yonke into ekufuneka esikalini ngobunono kwaye hayi ukusika emagxeni. Nabo bonke abanye, ukuze uchithe ubomi, ngeke ibe umqobo ukuzalwa komntwana lowo.

Kodwa isisu ibhinqa kodwa akukho namnye unako ndikukhanyele. Ukuba nangoku wagqiba ekubeni athabathe inyathelo lithemba, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba isisu kunye neziphumo zayo - oko ngenene imbi. Xa kusenzeka ukukhulelwa, umzimba ulungelelanisa ngokwawo kwinkqubo ephethe umntwana. Kodwa xa inkqubo yonke lomncedis ngenxa isisu, umzimba uza kanye uthuke. Ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini wakhe - oku ke kuqhelekile. Umzekelo, ngenyanga emva kokuba isisu siphambuke evela kwishedyuli, zinokuba nzima kwaye kubuhlungu, kodwa hayi rhoqo. Wonke umfazi ufanele azi ukuba emva kokuba isisu, akasakwazi babe nabantwana. Ukongeza, kukho umngcipheko omkhulu zibambe naluphi na usuleleko, kuphazamise iihomoni kunye ngokubanzi aphulukane intsingiselo yobomi. Isisu kunye neziphumo zayo kufuneka ngokucacileyo wacacisela wonke umfazi okhulelweyo abaye wagqiba ukuba balahle umntwana. Ukongeza, ugqirha kufuneka bazame ukwenza yonke into umfazi omithiyo kangangokuba watshintsha ingqondo yakhe. Ke inkazana leyo ithe waphikelela, yaye isisu, nangoku kufuneka abe okwethutyana phantsi kweliso logqirha. Netuwa emva kokuba isisu ngegazi uphawu ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Hayi ukubeka off, ngoko nangoko funa uqwalaselo lwamayeza.

Kukho uluvo lokuba ezi ekuqaleni isisu, ukuba ngaphantsi kwalo neziphumo. Enyanisweni, isisu kwakunye neziphumo zayo azikho na ngokunxulumene ngqo omnye komnye, ngoko ke kunzima ukuba bathi xa kanye umphumo uya kuba ngecala. Ewe, kungcono ukwenza isisu kwi kwixesha elifutshane, kodwa akukho namnye unako ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into aya kuba nempumelelo. Zonke iifom okhoyo isisu (medical, mini-isisu, lonyango) sesona soyikiso kumfazi, kwaye mthethweni, ebizwa ngokuba yi-izisu mthethweni, kwiimeko ezininzi iphele kakubi.

Ngoko ke ufuna umfazi uye wafunda ukuba sibuxabise ubomi, yaye bakhe kuphela, kodwa umntwana ethwele phantsi entliziyweni yakhe. Akukho nto kweli hlabathi azinakulinganiswa ngumama, kunye ngeemali ezinkulu, ngelishwa, akayi kuba nako indawo yawo. Kakade ke, isisu, kwaye uya kuba kude; kodwa ufuna sikholelwe ukuba baya kuba kakhulu ezincinane.