Indlela ukuphuhlisa azithembe?

Uyoya abantu abahlala ubunyani elinganiselweyo, yena angabi nako ukuhlola imeko efanelekileyo, ondingcikivayo ngokwakhe cala ngalinye ziyangqinelana na ingcamango kukuba endingafanele kubizwa ezinqwenelekayo. Umbuzo kukuba indlela yokukhulisa i-self-ukuzithemba, maxa wambi utyelela umntu ukuthandabuza ixabiso I zabo, kukodwa ebangela ingcamango shamefaced le impermanence lokubakho:. "Andiqondi bafanelwe ulonwabo, imisebenzi elungileyo, imivuzo ephezulu, etc; esazi yonke into ngenxa yoko, mna ilungelo lokuba ukucinga malunga umsebenzi okanye ubomi obonwabisayo, kodwa ndicinga - yaye ngenxa yoko ndikubulelayo mna kufuneka bohlwaywe ".

Into efana ingcinga yokulahleka ngokwakhe umntu, ngenxa yokunqongophala nokholo izakhono zabo ehamba ecaleni nokuzixabisa elisezantsi. Uninzi izakhiwo zethu iqala ebuntwaneni, njengoko kunjalo kunye nokungabikho ukholo ngokwabo kunye namandla awo. Ngokutsho izazinzulu zophando, ukuzithemba / ukungazithembi - oku mfanelo ngokwemvelo, yaye ngoko ke siyakwazi ukuba nempembelelo inqanaba ixabiso self na.

Ukuba akukho nakanye wacinga ngalo mbuzo ukuze kwakhiwe ukuzithemba, ngoko sinako ukuthetha ekuqaleni umendo kwi "ukuphilisa": njengoko bengqondo bathi, uqonde ukuba kukho ingxaki, uthabathe inyathelo lokuqala ngayo emzimbeni wayo.
Iingcali ukucebisa ukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo? Bacebisa ukuba woyise uloyiko lwabo kunye namathandabuzo? Yintoni ukucebisa njani ukuzithemba kwakho?

• Kuqala kwinto zonke, simele kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuze bazikhusele adibane nabantu izinto ezikubangela ucinge ngayo iintsilelo zakho yalutho. Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga, ihlazo kunzima, ukudideka, nje balahle imfuneko ukunxibelelana nabo (kakade, ukuba kunokwenzeka) ekuhlaleni ethile uMnu N;
• inyathelo elilandelayo - esweni abantu ukuzithemba kwaye khuphela nokuziphatha kwabo. Khetha umntu okuxabisa ngokwakhe. Khangela kuye ngenyameko, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqaphela ukuba akukho egqibeleleyo, yena, ngathi uninzi lwethu, kukho ethile, kodwa ubukho babo akasibandezi umntu ukholo ngamandla abo. Akoyiki ubuthathaka yayo, akukho shy ngabo, yaye ngoko ngoyaba nxazonke zabo. Oku ngathi postulate ezaziwayo-kakuhle: Ukuba ufuna ukufihla into evela kwabanye, walibeka kweyona ndawo esekuhleni;
• ndicinga indlela yokuphuhlisa ukuzithemba, mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba kufuneka ingqalelo ekupheliseni iintsilelo zabo. Kwaye kukho inyaniso, kodwa yintoni ukuba kujoliswe iimpawu zakho? Bhala kwiphepha elingabhalwanga iphepha ngokwemeko yazo, cela izimvo nezihlobo. Lifunde ngokuvakalayo, kwixesha elizayo, xa uthe weza ukumthethisa ngokwam kuba yinto encinane elandelayo;
• Bendigxeka ngokwakho ukuba "unetyala" nganye, ukugxekwa kufuneka kunceda ekucaciseni oonobangela ngesiganeko, kwaye ukudala bengasenasazela buqu ukuba ukusilela epheleleyo;
• Cinga ngekamva lakho, yintoni ofuna ukuphumeza, yintoni phupha? Phuhlisa isicwangciso ukuze kufikelelwe ezinqwenelekayo. Qala ezincinane, avuyisane ngokwakho xa kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze into ethile ebalulekileyo. Xa ufumanisa ukuba uyakwazi ukufikelela iziphumo ezihle, impumelelo akabuya umva wayo kunye kwityala elikhulu. Yenza ithemba xa kukho into engaphumeleliyo. Xa amazwi uThomas Edison, le ndlela iqinisekileyo empumelelweni - kwakhona kwaye kwakhona ukuba uzame kwakhona;
• indlela ukuphuhlisa azithembe? ... ukufunda ukuxolela wena iimpazamo elidlulileyo ngokufuthi musa ukuvumela ukuba phambili, ukoyika unyathele kwi iharika enye paralyzes nathi. Ukususela kumaxesha ngamaxesha lokucingisisa elidlulileyo, kodwa musa ukuvumela ukuba ekulawulayo. Ukuziva unobutyala, iintloni, yaye akayi kuvumela ukuba baphumelele. Lahla kubo. Tshintsha elidlulileyo, thina asikwazi, kodwa ukususa ngesiphoso ukusuka kwizifundo yobomi (kwaye oku ngamava ethu, ezidlulileyo), siyakwazi of;
• ungasoli iintsilelo zabo nabanye abantu, ukuze nina sibabandeza la ithuba lokuba inkosi ebomini bakho. Abantu abaphumelelayo ukulumela ngokuqinileyo utshintshe ngokwabo, nto leyo enika ithuba ukulinganisela kwakhe xa ubomi bethu yeyela isaqhwithi;
• zama ukuvavanya imeko ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Imboniselo kwi ngaphandle kakhulu njongo ngakumbi yaye unengqiqo. Ngoko ke bafunda ukuba sinyamezele abanye novavanyo ziingcathu ngakumbi izenzo zabo. Ngelo xesha ufunda ukwamkela amadlala ngendlela eyakhayo kwaye usebenzise ukuze kuzuze bona;
• sibunandiphe ubomi bakho, Ulibengezelele ukuba imitha yelanga, nihambe ngezikaTshiwo ngokusebenzisa izadunge, ukuhamba nabantwana - owasungula ngokwawo iimpawu yobomi "yokwenene", thina ephosakeleyo yaye ezihambayo kude abakuso. Yenza ixesha lokuba wena, phulaphula umculo owuthandayo, ukwenza izinto ozithandayo - sibe nethuba enye kuphela ubomi, nokuba ukuchitha eli xesha ngokwasemphefumlweni ukudangala?

Umbuzo ukuze kwakhiwe ukuzithemba, akukho impendulo eyodwa echanekileyo. Thina sonke ezahlukeneyo, ngamnye kuthi lenze olwalo Imeko bakhe ubomi, uloyiko lwakho namathandabuzo. Kodwa oku kubalulekile. Ingongoma ibalulekileyo: ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ukutshintsha, ukuba sikulungele ukuvula ucango ukuze sonwabe? Kwiimeko ezininzi, ubomi kurhaxwa izandla zabo ...