Phakathi izithethe ezininzi, izithethe namasiko, aye athunyelwa ehlabathini lonke, indawo olulodwa awayephantsi ekuthiwa-ekunene ngobusuku bokuqala. Isiko kukukhanyela zobuntombi lomtshakazi, abo babesandul 'ukudlala umtshato kwaye oko kuya kuba ubusuku lokuqala luthando. Umyeni ngathi, labenzela ithinzi ayokuba ngaphandle imilingo kwenzekayo, kunye defloration lomtshakazi, okanye, ngendlela elula, eyona baqale ukulalana ebomini bakhe yenza omnye umntu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, oko uNdikhoyo feudal, amafa omnini labemi, abahlala kumhlaba wakhe, okanye inkokheli kwisizwe ezininzi, okanye mhlaba, nto leyo eye ngamakhoboka amakhulu eziliqela. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, umyeni umtshakazi yanda na enyulu. Kwaye kwamanye amazwe ngqo kwi kumtshato kunye umtshakazi kwafuneka enze neentlobano zesini ujika zonke iindwendwe into eyindoda. Emva izibuko le ndoda ubufanasini kwakhe isipho. Emva kwale nxalenye kakuhle msitho womtshato ubuhlobo phakathi umyeni kunye nabahlobo bakhe kumgca uMtshakazi waba namandla.
EYurophu ngamaXesha Aphakathi ilungelo ngobusuku bokuqala kokuba kumGaqo mthetho. Oku kwakukholelwa ukuba uphethe, okanye naliphi na inkosi encinane feudal wanika umfazi oselula uhlobo isiqalo ebomini, buqu bemkhanyela uMnini omsulwa. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umtshakazi ixhasa ngokupheleleyo ilungelo ebusuku yokuqala, ukususela ngelo xesha elikude imvakalelo weenkolelo naziimvakalelo zonqulo ukuze bonke-zidla abakhwenyana iziqu ulonwabo xa isithandwa labo waphuma phakathi kwebhedi yomnye umntu.
kwiinkulungwane eziliqela kamva umfanekiso itshintshile. Iya isanda, kungenzeka ukuba kumkhawulela umyeni, abangazange ufuna ukwabelana zakho umtshakazi ozithandayo kunye neenkosana abadala kunye namacala, enika ilungelo ngobusuku bokuqala. Wakhetha ukuba ahlawule, ukuze uhlawulele ngengqibelelo ngumfazi wakhe. Kumazwe amaninzi eYurophu Asia neentlobano zokwazana umtshakazi endaweni ezinye izenzo lokuhlambulula. Baba kwafuneka ukunyathela phezu ebhedini amanga nomtshakazi okanye olule umlenze wakhe ngapha ebhedini. Kucingwa neentlobano zesini elilinganayo.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngobusuku bokuqala namathole osinika ezibonisa ezininzi kangaka enengxolo kunye lenkathazo bahlala inxaxheba kwinkqubo emsithweni, ukuba umtshakazi yaye ndonwabile ukunikela isihlalo wakhe umhlobo okanye umntu odlulayo. EMakedoni, umzekelo, ngokuthumela i kushada igumbi apho ukuchitha ubusuku wabo wokuqala aze azilungise ngokunika ilungelo lokuqala ebusuku lomtshato, PALS eziliqela wamvusa ingxolo nanto, bamtyabula epanini yabetha ngeentonga ezindongeni. Emva koko obugutyungelwe somnyango igumbi yaye ekhohlo ukuya emva kanye nemizuzu emihlanu ukuze uvule umnyango ucele ukuba yonke icinyiwe, apho amaphepha kunye imizila igazi, yaye kutheni elide kangaka akukho ndaba.
Kwaye xa ikhasi kwathengwa, nabafazi abadala bebewuthwala ngokutsha vseobscheee, imihlali abakhaphi bomyeni bangakuzila wayengekho isiphelo. Ngenxa yoko, ilungelo wamagazi ubusuku bokuqala wazinika umyeni. Bedsheets ukuba hang out kwindawo esemboniselweni, uze emva koko waziqhekeza amaninzi zeebhekile, "njengoko amagophe, ngoko abantwana abaninzi baya kuba abaselula." Kwaye ke amandla oko, iigrafu, abaqeshisi, izidwangube kunye nabanye abafana nabo, ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ngokulinganayo umsitho emsithweni, nangona kuphinda beqonga nje isiko, ngokunjalo abe sisithethi sembeko, oko akuzange kumthintele ukuba babe fun nabo.