I-Psychology yamadoda ngobudlelwane nomzekelo wokukhetha umngane

Ngokutsho kwezenzululwazi zaseMerika, iincwadi ezingama-90% malunga nobudlelwane zithengwa ngabasetyhini. Ubulili obuhle buthetha ngakumbi ngezinto ezikhethekileyo zokusebenzisana namadoda, abafazi basoloko beya kwi-psychologist malunga nokuthetha ngesini esahlukileyo, bahlala bebingelela ngezobudlelwane. Le meko yemicimbi, ngokukodwa, ichazwe kwimithetho yeBhayibhile. Uthi umfazi okhaliphile ulungisa ikhaya lakhe. Indlu kweli phepha kufuneka iqondwe nje kuphela ngoqoqosho, kodwa kunye nolwalamano olukhethekileyo. Kodwa amadoda, ubuncinane, ngaphandle angabonakali ukubaluleka kwezi ngxaki. Ngoko i-psychology yamadoda ebudlelwaneni isifundo esinzima, siya kuhlalutya ngomzekelo wendlela amadoda afuna ngayo eyodwa.

Yintoni i-psychology yokukhetha umhlobo wobomi? Kuninzi ukususela kwinqanaba lokumisela iparameter kukubonakala kwamehlo. Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba umfazi anganelisa iimfuno zakhe. Oku kudla ngokungafuneki mntu.

Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uzive ecaleni kwakho njengendoda yangempela. Ungalungiselela njani oku? Unokumcela ukuba alungise okuthile okanye ulungise into ethile kwikhompyutheni yakho. Unokumbuza umbuzo onxulumene nomsebenzi wakhe kwaye kubalulekile kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, u-economist unokubuza malunga nezizathu zeengxaki zehlabathi, kunye neenkwenkwezi malunga nendawo engumnyama. Lungiselela ukuphulaphula ngononophelo kwaye ucacise imigaqo entetho yakhe.

Okwesibini, i-psychology yamadoda ebudlelwaneni kukuba kubalulekile ukuba bahlale bekhululekile. Oku akuthethi nje kuphela ukuba awubizi ngemibuzo ngexesha lonke. Ubuntu kubaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane nabo. Ngokunjalo, akuyi kuguqulwa. Mshiye lo msebenzi kumama, unokuthi, mhlawumbi, umxolele. Akufanelekanga ukufundisa, ngakumbi ngokucacileyo. Amadoda ahlala kunye nabasetyhini ixesha elide, abagxininisa ukuba bayawuhlonela imibono nemikhwa yomntu omthandayo kwaye abayi kuzama ukutshintsha umntu wendoda. I-psychology yindoda ebudlelwaneni kukuba ihlale yodwa, ifumana ithuba lokuba kunye nomfazi. Zama ukutshintsha ukubukeka rhoqo, ubuncinane, iinwele kunye nokwenza. Oku kuya kumxelela ukuba awuyena umntu okhuselekileyo kwaye akayithandi ukunqanda.

Okwesithathu, kwanabantu abangenakuxhumana nabo bafuna ukukhanya. Bathe kwimida yokuqwalasela kwaye uyazi ukuba lo mfazi uyavuya naye. Iingqondo zentlalo ebudlelwaneni kubonisa ukuba uyindoda eqaqambileyo neyindoda, elwa neyowesifazane. Oku kuyimfuneko yamandulo, yezinto eziphilayo. Ungayisebenzisa njani? Ukuhleka ngamahlaya akhe, hamba naye kunye nama-comedies angenangqondo (ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yakhe uya kuzibona ehlakaniphe kakhulu), ncedise ukuba azinze ubudlelwane kwiinkampani. Yaye uya kuba yinto engenakunyuswa. Iingqondo zengqondo zesilisa kunye noluntu zihluke kwabasetyhini, abaninzi abantu bakuthola kunzima ukubopha ubudlelwane kunye nokubanceda ngokulula. Zama ukwenza iimeko ukubonisa iitalente zakho. I-psychology yamadoda ebudlelwaneni iyabaxhobisa ukuba balwele ukufumana ibhinqa elifanelekileyo. Pheka kwinkampani, ukuba ungumpheki, cula nge karaoke, ukuba unako ukukwazi. Ukuba unesizathu sokuziqhayisa ngawe, uya kuhlala eyakho ixesha elide.

Okwesine, kumadoda kubalulekile ukuba uzive kakuhle kwinkampani yowesifazane. Emva koko uyeka ukucinga malunga nobudlelwane kwaye uqala ukuzonwabisa nje nenkampani yakho. Njani ukuphumeza oku? Unokuzinyamekela phambi kwakhe. Musa nje ukugubungula iingwele ngaphezu komlomo ophezulu kwaye ungabeki iicucumber ezidumileyo ezijikelezayo amehlo akho. Hlanganisa iinwele zakho, yenze imilomo yakho, ulungele umgca phezu kwekhosidi. Oku kuya kumbonisa ukuba uyamthemba. Lungiselela ukutya nalo, kusondele kakhulu. Ukongeza, kuya kunceda ukumbonisa izakhono zabo. Ukuba awunalo ukhetho olukhethekileyo malunga nomkhiqizo weemveliso, landela icebo lakhe uze ukhethe oko ayeza kukhetha.

Ubudlelwane bamadoda bunzima kunabesifazane, kuba le yinkcubeko yethu. Ukusuka kumadoda kulindeleke ubugcisa obunemveliso kunye nobuchule bokwakha. Ngoko ke, amadoda amaninzi abanetalente ebudlelwaneni okanye aphelise amandla abo, okanye azive bengenaso isibindi. Vula umntu wakho italenta efihliweyo-kwaye uya kukubulela.