Ekaterina Cronhaus kunye nencwadi yakhe

U-Ekaterina Cronhaus namhlanje uyaziwa njengombhali wencwadi emangalisayo "Ndingumama ongekho?". Wayebhekiselele indalo yakhe kubasetyhini abangathandabuzekiyo ngokuzimisela ukuba nomntwana, bahlale befuna iimfuno eziphezulu kakhulu kwaye besaba ukuba bangazifumani kamva. Umlobi-nkcukacha uCatherine Cronhaus uthetha ngoluphi udidi olubalulekileyo oluphambi kokubonakala komntwana kwintsapho. Incwadi kulula ukuyifunda, ibhaliwe ngokuhleka, ixhaswa ngamava ochaphazelekayo.

Catherine Cronhaus. Biography

Umbhali wazalwa ngo-Apreli 27 ngo-1984. U-Ekaterina Krongauz ungumlobi wezentatheli, umbhali, umbhali weetekisi ezininzi ezishiye kwi-intanethi. Ngo-2009 wagqiba izifundo zakhe kwiYunivesithi yase-Moscow State Pedagogical. Wazinikela ixesha elininzi lokufunda isihloko sobudlelwane bomzali wabantwana kwaye ulungele ukwabelana ngamava akhe nabafundi. Ngesinye isikhathi, iCronhaus iholele ikholomu kwiphephancwadi elithi "Snob", wayesebenza njengomhleli-oyintloko-"Isixeko esikhulu".

Ngomzuzu ngumfazi omncinci ophumelelayo, unina wabantwana ababini - uLyova noYasha. Amava akhe ahlobene nabantwana kunye nesimo sabo sengqondo emva kokuzalwa kwabo, wabonisa encwadini ethi "Ndingumama ongekho?". U-Ekaterina Krongauz ubude efuna iimpendulo kwimbuzo yakhe ebuhlungu. Ngokombono wakhe, ngamnye umzali, ngokuqaphela okanye cha, ufumana ukuqonda okungenakuqondakala phambi komntwana. Indlela yokuphatha ukwesaba kwakho, umbhali kwaye uxelele kwisicatshulwa sakhe sokuzonwabisa.

Ukulungela ukuba nomntwana

Akukho nentsapho encinci ivakalelwa ngokupheleleyo. Akukho mfazi onokuba ngumama ade aqaphele uvuyo lwenkathalo kunye nokufudumala apho ujikeleza khona umntwana wakhe. Umbhali uqhubeka engcamango yokuba awukwazi ukumthanda umntwana kusengaphambili, uze ubelethe, awuyi kubona indlela enza ngayo amanyathelo akhe okuqala. Kubuhlungu kwaye ukuphosakela ukufuna kuwe izimo ezifanelekileyo zokukuvumela ukuba ube nolonwabo nolonwabo kwindlela yokuthetha nomntwana.

Namhlanje abantu abaninzi banxulumanisa ukuzimisela ukuba nomntwana, okokuqala, kunye nokuphila kakuhle. Ubuntsapho bobuhlanga, ewe, kubalulekile, kodwa le meko ayifanele ibe ngumqobo wokucinga: ngaba ndingayikhulisa indoda encinci okanye akunjalo? Ukulungela ukuba nomntwana, okokuqala, ingqiqo yangaphakathi, kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, umnqweno wokunyamekela, ukunika umntu ucezu lomphefumlo wabo.

Ngaba sidinga umnikelo?

Kubonakala kubafazi abaninzi ukuba ukuze umntwana wabo akhule kwaye avuyiswe, kufuneka bahlukane kunye nolonwabo. UCatherine Cronhaus uyayichaza le ngqungquthela malunga nesidingo sokuzidela rhoqo. Uzisa umfundi ekuqondeni ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba umntwana akhiphe esikolweni, alahle ubomi bakhe, aphelise ubuhlobo kunye nezihlobo. Ewe, umfanekiso womama ngokwawo ubheka umnikelo othile. Kukho uluvo olusasazekayo kuluntu ukuba unyana okanye intombi ayikwazi ukuphakanyiswa ngaphandle kokunyanzelwa, ukukhathazeka kunye neentlungu. Ukunyamekela nangaliphi na imeko iya kwanda, kodwa akufuneki ukuba uzibingelele.

Umama omncinci, ongathandabuzekiyo, unelungelo lokonwaba, ukuzaliswa kwengcali. Kodwa bangaphi abafazi abakwaziyo ukuzonwabisa ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokufumana unina? Phantse konke ukwesaba kuhlushwa: kwenzeka ntoni ukuba andiyikulawula, ndingayiphatha njani yonke into?

Uziva unetyala

Le nto iyimpahla ehlukileyo, efanelwe ingqalelo ekhethekileyo. I-Cronhaus encwadini yakhe igxininisa imbono yokuba abaninzi abafazi bafumana iimvakalelo ezingalawulekiyo zecala phambi komntwana wabo. Ngelo xesha, ukufaneleka komzali okukhoyo akuqwalaselwa. Yonke ilungu lezesondo elifanelekileyo linaloo nto, apho lijika liba "libi" kwaye lingenakufanelekela unina: ayiyikunyamekela ingqalelo, ivelisa imvumba, ayinayo ixesha lokufumana imfundo ephakamileyo, njl. Kubonakala ngathi ngamanye amaxesha sizenza iingxaki thina kunye Siye sihlupheke kubo. Akuyimfuneko ukuzama ukulungelelanisa. Khumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye ngendlela yakhe inomdla kwaye iyingqayizivele. Nangona ukwakhiwa komfanekiso othize, ihlabathi liya kuba nexesha lokutshintsha amaxesha amaninzi. Kubalulekile ukusebenza kunye nevakalelo zecala . Njani na? Ngaloo Catherine uxelela incwadi yakhe ephawulekayo.

Inomdla kumntwana

Umama usoloko exhalabisa malunga nosana: uyaphiliswa, ugqoke ngokufudumele, angabinqabile, akagula? Uluhlu lunokuqhubeka ngonaphakade. Inomdla kumntwana ufanelekile, kodwa uyaphanga ukuba aphile nje kuphela kwintombi, kodwa yintsana. Kuphela ngokwenza izinto ezimangalisayo ezithengwayo, umntu unokufumana amava ngokupheleleyo kwihlabathi. Musa ukumnciphisa umphandi wakho omncinci.

Ngaloo ndlela, uCatherine Cronhaus encwadini uyabhenela kubhinqa-oomama ngombono wengqondo kunye nokuqonda. Ukhankanya imizekelo emininzi yokuba imfundo yokuzimela kunye noxanduva lusemandleni okulungiselela umntwana wakhe ngamnye umzali onomdla.