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Ngokwe-manani ze-amagunya ezimbini ezinkulu ehlabathini (Russia kunye United States), malunga ne-30% yabantwana bakhuliswa kwiminyaka yakutshanje, iintsapho ezinomzali omnye. Isizathu soku iba mtshato (ukungcola) ngabazali, ukunqongophala sokuqala ubudlelwane usapho (ukuzalwa ngaphandle komtshato), ukufa unina okanye uyise. Ezingazaliswanga ngokupheleleyo intsapho, Kakade ke, hayi isivakalisi. Kwintsapho onjalo umntwana nayo angakhula uphuhliso efezekileyo ngengqondo kunye comprehensive. Kodwa akubi njalo. Ezinxaxhileyo kusengenzeka. Kwaye kaninzi ngokwaneleyo.

Ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba umntwana uyakhula ngokwayo, ngaphandle imvelaphi kunye nophuhliso ukucalulwa ezahlukeneyo, kufuneka intsapho apho kuya kuhlawulwa umntwana kwicala ababhinqileyo (umzali) kunye inkunzi (uyise) - intsapho epheleleyo.

Psychology ucacisa uphuhliso bangonwabi, iingxaki zokuziphatha kunye patoharakterologicheskie ikakhulu ukunqongophala lentsapho ngokupheleleyo umntwana. nomzali ibonisiwe amakhwenkwe pre-school kwi moodiness kunye nodlame, obstinacy elimsulwa nkqu tick; amantombazana amaninzi kwenzeka manghanghamela. Uvalo kubudala esikolweni ukumka apha kuphela, kodwa kunokuba kwandisa. Kunye neengxaki zokuziphatha abe ucaca ngakumbi. Oku kungenxa luvo breakdowns unina, abazali esiphikisanayo nje kuphela komtshato, kodwa ixesha elide emva koko. Ukongeza, kuba abantwana indlela ebaluleke kakhulu ngokwaneleyo yesazisi isini, leyo ukunika intsapho ezingaphelelanga akakwazi.

Umqalisi kokwahlulwa umenzi a kwicala obhinqileyo (unina), enerisekanga kwezinye iimeko, ukuthamba ngokugqithisileyo indoda yakhe kunye 'ukungakwazi ukuhlala' wakhe, ngoxa abanye - ibinzana loya kakhulu kwaye engqongqo yokonganyelwa. indima omncinci, Isimanga, udlala abazali nokuba likhoboka lotywala.

A ebangela neurosis amakhwenkwe Ityhwatyhwa - engekho yempembelelo kayise, kunye kwe ngokweemvakalelo ukugadwa unina. Amaxesha amaninzi, oku kwakhona ngenxa nabanye, hayi ngaphambili wavumela, unina kongquzulwano kunye nabazali bakhe. Umama indlela kuzisa lobudlelwane abantwana, waba kubo omnye umthombo nefuthe elibi kwengqondo.

Maxa wambi kukho "ukufumana enye indlela ngokuzenzekelayo" Umama negative unyana wakhe xa ekhula kakhulu njengoyise. Ingakumbi xa kuphela iimpawu zangaphandle i ilifa, "wena nje osisiyatha," "Nawe, akakwazi ukwenza nto", njl Ngamanye amazwi, unina unika ufakelo olongezelelweyo kwi kwabuya enye umntwana wakho. Ngenxa yoko - ukungazithembi, ukuba neentloni, okanye ngokuchasene noko, uchuku kunye nokungabikho kolawulo.

Xa iintsapho ezinomzali omnye apho umama inxaxheba kwezemfundo, ulwalamano kunye noonyana bakhe ngxabano ngaphezu kunye neentombi zabo.

Iintsapho ezaphukileyo, unina usoloko ubuyela ekhaya nabazali bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, baxhasa intombi, bafumana ubutshaba malunga owayesakuba ngumyeni kum namhla ngandlela. Yaye njalo nokuba uyazi, ukudala nempembelelo olongezelelweyo elibi psyche, uxinzelelo phezu komntwana, obala yenzondo kwaye recriminations umzukulwana ngokufana kayise, esongeza amava ebuntwaneni.

Ngamanye amaxesha oomama Kwathi ke buck koogqirha, kwiitheraphisti, ootitshala kunye namaqela ootitshala-ngobusuku eziguqulweyo kunye nezikolo yokuhlala ehostele. Ukuba ezishiyekileyo ukuhlala nonina, ukuthatha unonophelo lwabo ngabantwana ngokusesikweni kwahluka encinane xa kuthelekiswa balondolozelwe kuzo abantwana abakhuliswa ngumzali-mabini, kodwa umahluko kwi wolawulo - kubalulekile. Amantombazana kufuneka izithintelo abangaphantsi kwe amakhwenkwe. Kunye noxinzelelo ngazo ngaphantsi kakhulu. ulawulo olungqongqo ngokunxulumene abantwana ngenxa nomnqweno ukuba kude ikopi iimpawu kayise kunokwenzeka. Ngoko ke ityala, izisongelo kunye nesohlwayo emzimbeni ngokunxulumene emakhwenkweni rhoqo esebenzayo. Kwaye, icala, wasala yedwa nentombi yakhe, umama libhekisa kuye ngenyameko alibeke. Okunye kuba ebona njengokunatyiswa ngokwalo kunye, intombi enqwenela sanqena elithile ngokwakhe.

Ukwahlukana abazali kuchaphazela intombazana kakhulu ngakumbi xa ebotshelelwe ngaphezu unina noyise. maleko izidubuli ukuba mandundu kunye nokoyika yokulahlekelwa ngunina, ie ukoyika ubulolo kunye ikheswa. Baphulukene uyise, amantombazana kusenokwenzeka ngaphezu abafana boyika ukuba aye ukuzibamba uMama. Baya kuloyika ukuba unina akazange nakanye eze umva, okanye ukuba into yenzeke. Yandisa babune jikelele, uloyiko eziqhelekileyo ngelo ndisemncinane. Kamva - iSifo: ixhala neurosis, neurosis wayevele. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo - neurosis, ukuba likhoboka lento ethile disorder: izithethe ezinenkohliso, iingcinga ukusilela, ukungakhuseleki, ukucalulwa.

Xa yobudala obutsha sele izandi iimpawu ngokucacileyo edakumbisayo-bangonwabi: mood udandathekile, ukudakumba, nathemba, ukungathembani, uloyiko rhoqo, ukungabikho nentembelo ngokwakhe, amava ngenxa yokusilela emananga, ukuqina ngamadlelane wesini esahlukileyo, ukuhla ekwenziweni kwezigqibo.

usapho ezingagqitywanga nyani isivakalisi. Umbono ngaphakathi ubudlelwane nomntwana, yokusonga emva sokonakalisa usapho, ukuba uhambe uxinzelelo extra kunye nophuhliso ukucalulwa ezahlukeneyo. Musa ukulibala into eziphambili: umntwana ukuba ityala ngenxa yokuba akukho ubudlelwane abadala. Ezinomzali omnye novelwano usapho, inkxaso nokuthatha inxaxheba ziyimfuneko kwindawo yokuqala umntwana, ogama isiphelo kuye isonjululwe ngaphandle kolwazi okanye imvume ...