Ngaba ukufumene kangaphi inkcubeko kukothuka?

Ngaba wakha wakuloo meko apho nako ukubuza indlela, okanye andikwazi, nithi, sebenzisa indlela ifowuni pay esitratweni? Okanye, ubunzima abanawo kwinkqubo yokuzalisa imoto yakho okanye xa uzama ukuthenga iimveliso evenkileni? Le meko iye sibi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ukufumana indlela yokuphuma, ie, umnxeba ongxamisekileyo ukuba umntu, niwuzalise imoto, ukuba bathenge ukutya? Kwenzekeni? Ngoko ke, singatsho ngokuzithemba ukuba kuye kwafuneka ukuba yokothuka inkcubeko enye.

Ngubani avakalelwa kwindawo yokuqala? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abasuka kwamanye amazwe, abafundi abafunda phesheya, abakhenkethi okanye noosomashishini, kuqala got ngaphandle kwilizwe lakho.

Kweli nqaku ndingathanda ukucacisa kulo mqondo, uthethe ngezinto ezibangela ukwenzeka kwayo kunokwenzeka, kwakunye ukuba kube lula indlela yokungena kwindawo entsha zabantu.

1. athuke neNkcubeko. le nkcazelo

shoka Culture kuthiwa uhlobo emzimbeni okanye (kwiimeko ezininzi) nobunzima ngokweemvakalelo ukuba kuvela ngenxa Sangena, ngenkcubeko angaqhelekanga ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kusetyenziswa kule ndawo? You can! Noko ke, le lithathelwe yenkcubeko kwiimeko ezininzi ziya kuba imincili, lijikelezisa, Isimanga, fun. Ngaphezulu, kufuneka ube ukulungele oko akubonileyo ke zange bafezekise izinto endandilindele ukuba okanye enye into edidayo.

Hi ndlela leyi, le ngcamango maxa wambi kusetyenziswa ukubonisa imeko jikelele, kanye kuloo nto, abantu nje kufuneka baziqhelanise nendlela entsha nenkqubo, esazi ukuba akukho bafunda ngaphambili zenkcubeko okanye ukuziphatha akukho msebenzi elide.

2. neNkcubeko Shock kunye nezizathu ukuba ivela

Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu sifumana le meko xa esiza kwilizwe elitsha ngokwabo, amasiko zahluke kuyaphi kwezo amasiko amrhawula kuye yangaphambili, ikhaya kunye kwindawo ahlala kuyo.

Nangona ukuba uthatha, umzekelo, ilizwe elikhulu ezinjengezo eRashiya, ungenza ngokulula ufumane yokothuka inkcubeko, uhambisa, umzekelo, ubomi elikomkhulu, okanye, phezu koko, xa besiza le sixeko simaxhaphetshu kangaka kunye isingqisho otyebileyo ebomini. Nje nommandla ongqongileyo kwezentlalo uyakwazi ukutshintsha kakhulu kangangokuba ukujongana nale meko ngokufanelekileyo baya kuphela kakhulu isibindi nokuzimisela.

Eyona nto kukuba ngamaxesha enjalo umntu ngamnye kukho umzabalazo zengqondo amatsha kunye namadala kunye nenkcubeko kunye nezithethe. Uhlobo ingxabano kwinqanaba lokuqonda yakhe.

bazi Kungenjalo yengxinano impembelelo, wonke ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo nga kufumana inkcubeko kukothuka. Kuthetha ntoni kusiya? Ngokuqhelekileyo evela izinto ezinkulu ezimbalwa, ezizezi - phezu neempawu ngamnye, inqanaba ukufana kunye neqondo umahluko kwiinkcubeko, kwakunye nenani izinto ezongezelelweyo endithe bekubakho ukutya, imozulu, intlalo-ntle eziphathekayo, amasiko, isakhiwo iimpahla, inkolo, usapho, kunye nomgangatho wemfundo, ulwimi.

3. Acute inkcubeko kukothuka. Imizekelo iimilo ezahlukeneyo

Wazi njani ukuba amava ukothuka inkcubeko lokwenene? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuqikelela xa oku kuya kuphela ethile imeko okubuhlungu kwaye kubuhlungu?

iisayikholojisti Modern bahlule izigaba emininzi yeli xesha, nto leyo idla ezibangelwa ukufudukela kwelinye ilizwe:

• "Honeymoon". Ngeli xesha, omnye uqala ukubona ukuba kwakusenzeka ebizwa ngokuba "iiglasi rose-umbala." Yonke indawo yakhe entsha ibonwa ngovuyo nangenzondelelo. Umzekelo, rhoqo ukutyelela iindawo ezintsha kuthi, thina kuqala okokuqala abathanda ukutya engaqhelekanga, izakhiwo omangalisayo, imikhwa kuhlekwe abantu bendawo.
• "Reconciliation", ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka emva ezimbalwa iintsuku, iiveki, kwaye kwezinye iimeko kwiinyanga. Thina baqalisa ukukhangela eziqhelekileyo kuthi isangqa abahlobo, ukuba ikhale phezulu abahlobo, abahlobo nezalamane, lungiselela ozithandayo izitya ukususela ebuntwaneni.
• "Sahlanganiswa." Kweli nqanaba, lo mntu uyayeka ukuba asabele ngokwasemoyeni eyenzekayo emhlabeni. Ubomi uba kufutshane kangangoko yosuku yesiqhelo ekhaya.
• "Inkcubeko kukothuka umva." Xa kunjalo, ukuba ngaba bashiye amakhaya abo ngonaphakade, uya kufuneka kubuya, yaye ke ngoko, kuyimfuneko kusengaphambili ukuba zilungele sikuso entsha ngokweemvakalelo.