Indlela yokuziwayo

Omnye uphupha ubutyebi, abanye banomdla kwisayensi, kwaye abanye abantu bafuna ukuthandwa. Emva koko, umntu othandwayo unamathuba amaninzi. Uyabonwa kwinkampani, uhlala eyazi indlela yokufumana ulwimi olufanayo nabanye abantu, kwaye kuluntu olutsha ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa. Ubomi bomntu onjengaleyo bubonakala njengengqungquthela yamanzi, kuba umntu ovela kweli candelo unemiba eyahlukeneyo kwaye uhlala ephumelela yonke indawo. Uninzi lwabo bafuna impendulo yombuzo wendlela yokuba bathandeke ngayo, banokuthi banelise iinqwenela zabo okanye balandele iphupha. Iiyunithi kuphela zinenjongo yokwenene yokuba ngumntu onjalo. Kwaye bakulungele ukwenza umgudu wokufezekisa.

Intombazana inokucinga malunga nendlela yokuthandwa ngayo, ukuze ukhange umntu omnye (onokuthi athande amantombazana enqolobane ehluke ngokupheleleyo). Ukuthandwa akuveli ekuqaleni. Ukuze ube yinto enjalo, intlalontle kwaye iyimfuneko kwiinkampani, umntu kufuneka afunde ukuseka oonxibelelwano. Kwaye ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala kuyimfuneko kumntu othandwayo. Emva koko, abanye abantu banokuba neentloni okanye bahlale bebahlobo babo.

Ungathanda ukuthandwa njani ukuba izakhono zonxibelelwano ziphantsi kakhulu? Simele siphuhlise. Umzekelo, kwenziwa ngempumelelo kwiikhosi ezizodwa. Kwaye abafundi bezo zengqesho, njengezintatheli kunye nezenzululwazi, bayaqhubeka bephucula ezo zakhono kubo bonke ubomi babo. Ngoko musa ukwesaba okungaziwa. Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala baze baqhelane. Kwaye abantu abanentlalontle banokuqulunqa kalula oonxibelelwano.

Inyaniso kukuba abo bantu besaba ukuba ngabokuqala ukuba bathethe, bahlala bexhalabele ngezinto abacinga ngazo. Olu loyiko luyinto engenanto kwaye luyingozi. Ngaphambi kokuba ithandwe, umntu uya kufuneka abhekane neengxaki ezininzi. Kuphela ngokutshintsha, unokufezekisa injongo. Ukuthandana akukona igama elithi "ubunkokheli". Iinkokheli zivela xa ziyimfuneko, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ziba ngabantu nje abaziwayo kwinkampani. Kodwa ukuze ube yinkokeli, iqela kufuneka libe nenjongo, apho liya kubakhokela khona.

Umntu othandwayo akazimisele ukukhokelela abantu kwindawo ethile. Inokuyonwabela ekunxibelelaneni okanye nokuba ngumzekelo, nangona kunjalo, umsebenzi wayo uhlukile. Ngaphambi kokuba uthandwa, kufuneka ufunde ukuba yendalo. Ngaphandle koko, esikhundleni sodumo lomntu "wakhe" onokufumana idumela njenge-poseur kunye nomntu oyisiphukuphuku. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuba mnandi kuluntu ngaphandle kweepathos ezigqithisileyo. Unokuba nje ulungile kwaye uhlekisayo, kwaye kuya kubakhokelela abanye. Nangona kunjalo, umntu akanako ukuthandwa, usebenzisa ukuhleka nokuhlambalaza. Ukuzithemba kwakhona kuyindlela efanelekileyo, enokukunceda ukucima imeko.

Umntu othandwayo akafihli iitalente zakhe kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, nangona ihamba nayo imfihlelo. Izinto ezithandwayo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo zingaqhelekanga kwaye zitshitshise. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza kwi-serpentarium. Unokwenza i-yoga okanye uhlobo lobugcisa. Akukho mntu emhlabeni ongenalo italente. Iimpawu ezinjalo ziyimpawu ezahlukileyo zomntu, kwaye kufuneka ziphuhliswe. Indlela yokuthandwa, ukuba konke oku akunalo ixesha? Mhlawumbi akufanele ubadume kakhulu?

Namhlanje enye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokufumana ukuthandwa yi-intanethi kwi-Intanethi. Umzekelo, kwiintanethi zentlalo. Kuphela le ndlela ithatha ixesha elide. Emva koko, uya kufuna ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuziphatha kweqela lakhe, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo-iblogi. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuzama ukufumana udumo, simele silinganise zonke iingxaki kunye nenkunkuma yeso simo esitsha. Mhlawumbi umphefumlo ufuna into eyahlukileyo, kungeyiyo inkazimulo kunye neencasa zesikhashana?