Indlela yokunceda umntu uphume ukudandatheka ngokukhuselekileyo

Ukudakumba - yinto ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo luphawulwa mood udandathekile, ukuphazamiseka yokucinga inkqubo, iyalibala kunye nokungakwazi ukuba uzive ulonwabo fun. Kwimeko enjalo, bambalwa abantu bayazi ukuba ukunceda ngayo umntu. Phumani ukudandatheka ngokwakho - ukuba kwakungelula. Okokuqala, chaza isizathu wayo ophambili kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje.

Omnye wonobangela eziqhelekileyo ngokudandatheka yomntu mihla nentswelo kuluntu - ukunqongophala unxibelelwano ngomlomo nangezenzo kunye nomnye umntu, ukugxojwa kwimisebenzi yomntu kuluntu. Ngamagama alula, ngaphandle pat emagxeni, unkabi, ukuhleka nokhuthazo umntu yeyela imo unxunguphalo. Ndayihluthwa ithuba lokuvakalisa uvuyo lwabo kunye neemvakalelo, umntu uqalisa ukuzibandakanya emphefumlweni-ukukhangelwa, nto leyo ngokufuthi ekhokelela nemiphumela emibi kakhulu. Umzekelo olothusayo lobuninzi nasekusweleni mpatheko yedwa okanye bavalelwa bodwa entolongweni. Kuyinto ezi iindawo lokuvalelwa boyika kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba kukungabikho konxibelelwano - yindlela engaphephekiyo kudakumbo, ubugeza schizophrenia. Indlela yokunceda umntu baphume edandathekile unike vivacity ukuba imini yonke kuya kunceda kukhathalelo elula oluntu kunye nothando.

kwabantu owaziwayo uZygmunt Bauman ichaza uluntu namhlanje njengoko yomntu ngamnye, apho wonke umntu ohlala yedwa. Yaye kusizisa kwisizathu sesibini sokuba ukuthandwa ngokudandatheka - namabhongo kungaqatshelwanga. inkcubeko Modern neenqobo zayo ukuzimela, ukukhula kunye nokhuphiswano kudla ishiya ngaphandle inxalenye enkulu yabantu. Kuluntu enjalo, kumabonwakude, iibhodi, amaphephandaba, thetha njalo inkcazelo kukuba kuphela umntu ityala yonke imbandezelo zabo. Kwihlabathi elinjalo oko ayamkelwa ukucela uncedo, kwaye kufuneka athathe ityala kuphela ngokwabo. izinto ezinjalo iingcinga ngenkalipho nokuncomeka Akusoloko kunjalo, kuba ihlabathi lifumana izinto ezenziwa ngumntu akuxhomekekanga.

Emva entry elide ukuzigqithisa kwi nomba ukunceda njani umntu uphume ndidandatheka ngokukhuselekileyo. Ezibiza kakhulu kwaye ukhetho engcono ndibhenele ugqirha abaqeqeshiweyo. Russia liya ukwamkela inkcubeko eNtshona Koloni, nto leyo esebenza psychotherapists Abayi kudana, kwaye nendlela. Ngoko ke musani ukuboyika ileyibhile "crazy" okanye "abagulayo", ukuba nifuna uncedo abaqeqeshiweyo. kufuneka siqonde Kodwa ukuba eyona nto ephambili ekulweni ukudakumba nawe. Akukho ingcali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abemi kunye aneziphiwo uya kuba, akanako ukunceda umntu uphume ukudandatheka ngaphandle inxaxheba ebonakalayo.

Enye imbangela ukudakumba umtshato. Ngaphezu kwama-60% yazo zonke imitshato ababhalisiweyo eRashiya iba, ngokufuthi ukushiya isibini zikwimeko odandathekileyo. Kubonakala, izalamane kunye nabantu ikufutshane uyakwazi ukunceda umntu uphume ukudandatheka. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, nani kufuneka ufune uncedo bengqondo abaziingcali. Abahlobo kunye nezalamane ayikwazi ukunceda, ngenxa yokuba baxakeke ngokweemvakalelo ethubeni wabalingane ubambe enye emibonweni meko.

Musa ukulibala ukuba nayiphi na imeko kuyafuneka ukuba ukujonga izinto ngokungaqhutywa luluvo. Xa urhulumente odandathekileyo ukuphumeza cala kuvavanyo akwenzeki, ngoko kufuneka sifune uncedo onamava, elizimeleyo, yaye ngoko, akumbona imeko evela kumacala onke oogqirha. Bayazi ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukufumana njani edandathekile, lo gama kugcinwe kwabo "I". Kwaye ekugqibeleni, musa ukulibala amazwi uSigmund Freud: "Ngaphambi kokuba gciwane wena oxinezelekileyo low self-ukuzithemba, qiniseka ukuba awusebenzisi singqongwe Idiots."