Indlela ukumelana nokukhathazeka ezahlukeneyo iimeko?

Uchulumanco ubalule zingqondweni nasengqondweni, nto leyo ibandakanya abantu xa kuthe iimeko ezahlukeneyo, ngokufuthi ezinxulumene ne yokuthetha noluntu nabo bonke bakuthathele ingqalelo kwabanye. Ukuze ufunde indlela yokuhlangabezana namaxhala kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, enokufunyanwa izibonelelo Self-Government ukusuka ezininzi iisayikholojisti dumeke. Nangona kunjalo, ulwazi olungako, ngenxa yokuba kusekho ezifunekayo kunye nokukwazi ukulawula imeko yakhe engqondweni.

Ukukwazi ukulawula i yenye kunzima ukuphumeza ukuba umntu ngamnye, ekubeni abantu abaninzi kakhulu kunokuba nzima ukumelana ezahlukeneyo ithi ngokweemvakalelo, ingakumbi, ukuzama ukulawula kubo. Uchulumanco yonke wabonakalaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa umntu eqala ukuba neentloni; ezandleni ilizwi igubha livela, kukho ingqiqo ukuphoxeka kunye umnqweno bahlukane ingqalelo kakhulu kumntu yakhe. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba iyeza lungxunguphalo nangoku ezaqanjwa ngabantu, ngoko ke omnye ufumana wazikhethela iindlela apho uyakwazi ukugcina ezolile yaye awuzukubonisa imeko nangokweemvakalelo kwabanye.

Kukho iingcebiso eziliqela jikelele, emva koko uya kukwazi ukunciphisa ifuthe imeko ngokweemvakalelo ukuya ubuncinane. Ngoko ke:

1. Ukubukela umoya wakho. Kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu ukufunda ezinye iindlela yoga eya kukuvumela ukuba ngaphakathi ubuncinane ngexesha lokwenza uthotho olulandelenayo ezithile kwaye bafikelele zoxolo kunye nokuphefumla. Le ezinxulumene ngqo isimo sethu sengqondo, yaye ngaloo ndlela ngaye u azivale wena kunye ndizole.
2. Autosuggestion nge-odolo zangaphakathi. Yenzani amaqela eziliqela kunye nesimo sengqondo esihle, apho ungenza ufakelo izenzo ezithile. Ukuze ufumane inkcazelo engakumbi malunga nendlela yokuhlangabezana namaxhala ngoncedo self-ngomlingo zifumaneka iincwadi zezifundo ezininzi of Social Psychology, ingcebiso apho kufuneka usebenzise.
3. umsebenzi Physical. Xa imincili abantu bengazi ubophelela, ngenxa sesindululo wayo ngandlel nemvelo. Yimani ngxi kwaye senze ngayo. Kubhetele ukuba uthanda kancinane (ukuba kunokwenzeka) kwaye uzame ingqalelo kwezinye izinto, kungekhona ukunikela ingqalelo abantu abakufutshane kubo. Kufuneka nje bacinge ukuba abakho. Kunye noqeqesho zingaphindi bafunda khona.

Ingxaki eliqhelekileyo kubafundi kukuba uviwo (ingakumbi phambi kwakhe) ulwazi betekisi ngokupheleleyo intloko ngenxa sihlangabezane. Oku kukhokelela kuxinezeleko ngakumbi engqondweni, njengoko abantu kuva icwangciselwe wena up for ukusilela. Indlela ukumelana indlela ezichulumancisa ngayo uviwo okanye ukunciphisa ukuba inqanaba elincinane? Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, ukuba kuyimfuneko, kuqala kwiinto zonke, kwangaphambili ukuba zinike isimo sengqondo ukuba iimviwo mbuzo, uya kukwazi umoya walinganisa ukunika impendulo echanekileyo. Xa kungekho kwenzeka ukuba agxile ukusilela.

isiqingatha sabantu bonke kukuphazamiseka Phantse iqalisa ukuba neentloni, ekufezekisweni kwale nkqubo enefuthe elibi jo ngakumbi. Anozizi nemihlathi na impendulo ngokwendalo umzimba, leyo kwenzeka ngenxa yegazi kwemali nolusu eliphezulu. Oku kungenxa yokuba kubhaliwe oqaphelekayo kakhulu, abantu abaninzi baxhalabile malunga nendlela ukuba neentloni yimincili kwaye ukulondoloza ibala zendalo. Impendulo apha kwakhona kulele phezu komhlaba kwaye luxhomekeke ngqo ngendlela umntu uyakwazi ukulawula imeko zabo neemvakalelo.

Ngelishwa, i iresiphi esebenzayo jikelele injabulo akukho namnye owakha kodwa kwemoto, ngoko indlela yokujamelana ubumnandi wonke umntu uzenzela isigqibo ngokwakhe. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukususa akhululeke ngokwasengqondweni ngoncedo utywala, kodwa ukwenza oko akunconywa, kuba oko abe likhoboka.

Ngaloo ndlela, eshwankathela zonke ngasentla, ungenza kwisigqibo engundoqo kufuneka esweni imeko yengqondo-ngokwasemoyeni, esebenzisa onke amathuba, kwakunye ukuze bafumane amava nasekuthetheni esidlangalaleni. Ekugqibeleni, ngenxa yokungabikho kwenkathalo, uya kufunda ukuba bazilawule ezahlukeneyo iimeko.