Amaxesha amaninzi, Nibuzana izalamane, siva kwidilesi ngezityholo ukuzingca nesigxina lufanayo ngokwabo - abazali, abantwana, umyeni, inkosikazi. Ngexesha ingxabano umntu akafane acinge ngendlela amazwi akhe ayinyaniso - ingqondo ukuzikisa iimvakalelo. Kwaye ukuba ukuqonda ingxaki yokubanda, nesidima?
Ingcamango yokuzingca
Igama livela kwisiLatini ingcambu ego, t. E. "I". Ngoko ke, xa umntu uziva umhlobo ongcono, ufanelwe - oko ukuzingca. Ukuba ufuna ngokwakhe ngaphezulu, unonophelo, ingqalelo, uthando, amalungelo - ukuziphatha okunjalo ibonisa ubukho ezi mpawu xa mlinganiswa. UMzalwana akafuni ukwabelana kunye nodade wam inencasa, indoda akafuni ukunceda umfazi wakhe ngeenxa zonke endlwini - kuba nalo yokuzingca. Esikolweni, siyazi ukuba usisimntwiso Larra, iqhawe webali Maksima Gorkogo "Endala Isergil". Yintoni kaloku igama njengoko buso?
Ukusuka Larry ku Danko
Khumbula ezakudala! Larra, unyana ukumkani intokazi emhlabeni, lutshwebeleza, iintaka, ukuba linyuke handsome, linebhongo lokuba nokukratsha, wayekholelwa ukuba unako ukwenza yonke into: Khetha le amantombazana eliligugu wesizwe, ebe iinkomo, abadala buzo enye yamadodana kunye ukubulala babeyibiza ukuba babengafuni ukuvuma nokongama kwakhe . Le ukuzingca, akunjalo na? Abantu efanayo uhlawule ngenxa kokuqalela imithetho jikelele? Akukho nokungalali ubomi, akukho - mthetho! Ngisho nomhlaba ngokwawo akathanga akunanze ukwamkela ukufumana ngeenxa ukufa kwakhe. Larra kwabo- nakala ukuba nokungafi engenabantu. Ekuqaleni, uTshawe wavuya nkqu le miba: ukuba ukuzingca wathetha naye. Kodwa Kwadlula iinkulungwane, yaye ubulolo baqalisa ukuba bahlaziye ubhalo Gorky kaThixo. Kodwa sebyalyubtsem akukho mntu ufuna ukuba imicimbi - oko kukuthi inyaniso! Kwaye ke malunga ngqo Larry - omnye usisi, Danko. Abantu wayemthanda ngaphezu mna, ngaphezu kobomi bakhe. Kwaye intliziyo ibetha wazikrazula ukusuka esifubeni sakhe kuwo. Zombini abalinganiswa ihlanganise ekwimo kanzulu kwifomu esulungekileyo kwaye kuyanda lokuzingca - iintlobo ezimbini malunga lokuqonda koluntu.
Funa umahluko
Njani ukuba iyaphikisana? Abaninzi! ubomi zokuzingca ngokwabo, ngokwenza into ngenxa yayo. Kwaye ukuba unceda abanye abantu, kuba akukho akanandaba. inzuzo Personal - ayala zonke izenzo zakhe. Lo saziwe lula, oko unako ukutshintsha nto. Ngenxa kuyanda nokuzingca - antonymous amagama. Self-umbingelelo, amalungelo kunye nomdla omnye, umnqweno wokwenza into entle okanye luncedo ukuba umntu, kodwa oko kusonakalisa ngokwabo - abantu afanelekileyo ezifana Danko, "ilanga egazini," njengoko thetha iqhawe ukuhlalutya uncwadi.
Ukususela Dictionary of Life ukuvula izithuba
Kungcono kukunceda uqonde ukuba yintoni na ukuzingca, izifanokuthi ilizwi. Okokuqala, lo Narcissism (okt. E. Self-uthando), ukuzingca (phantse kuyafana), kunye nokuzeyisa inzala. Iingcali zengqondo baye bathi umntu yanamhlanje ayikho kuswela self-uthando. ke ndiyanibongoza ukuba lokuzingca? Makube lee oko! Sinikezela ixesha elininzi ukusebenza, zokusombulula iingxaki zemihla ngemihla okanye elifutshane, amagxa WHO usapho, yaye zonke ezi nje abanalo ixesha wenze into elungileyo ngokwakho. Kwaye ngoko thina ukhalaze malunga nempilo ukudinwa yokuziphatha, ukungabikho ubomi obububo. Sisiphi isigqibo lulandelayo koku? Uthando wena - ngokuyimfuneko into embi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba akazange athathe ngeendlela hypertrophied! Kodwa self-inzala - edla kwesicwangciso ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kufuneka boyise kubo. Nangona kusini na!
ikrele kabini-mbini
Yintoni eyona ngxaki inkulu ukuzingca, apho sidibana kubomi bemihla ngemihla? I-mbini yobuntu bakhe. Xa kucingwa nguloo sebyalyubtsem? Ukuba le "abanye" ukwala ukwabelana nathi asethi zabo - ixesha, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, ulwazi, imali, njl Umbuzo yomthetho .. Kwaye xa umntu Obingelela inzuzo yakhe olungaka, ngoko ukuthetha, kunaye ilawulwa? Zengqondo bakholelwa ukuba nomnqweno wokukholisa, ukuba babe nesimilo esihle. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha olubonisayo (onikelayo) ungabunikeliyo ngokwayo kule ngxelo. Kubonakala ukuba injongo ephambili yezenzo ezilungileyo, ngokubanzi, ngumnqweno ukuze akhangele amehlo abanye ngaphezu koko umntu amelwe kukuzicingela ngako? Ukuba 'umtsalane ibonwe nesisa "ingaboniswanga, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho promotivirovali nto ayizange ukuba iminqweno ezichaphazelekayo. Loo nto nje "zokuzingca" okubi, kodwa thina ziingelosi? Vumelanani nale ndawo kunzima kumntu avareji, ngokuba nzulu ezantsi, wonke iqwalasela ngokwakhe 'elungileyo kakhulu ". Kwaye lo imvakalelo - enye izenzo Narcissism! ngengqiqo Continuous!
"Mna" + "Mna" okanye "Thina"
Njengokuba evinces ngokwayo ukuzingca kobudlelane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi? Lo mbuzo umdla kakhulu. Ngamafutshane, impendulo kukwazi ukwakhiwa wenjenje: "Wena uhlala kum, nam ndiya kuphila ngokwakho." Oko kukuthi, umnqweno banandiphe zonke ukuba iqabane unokukunika, yaye namnqweno uphendule uhlobo. Kuwo onke amanqanaba ama-ngokubakho isibini eso waphawula lwemigangatho: uzithanda - enye ivumela ukuba umthande. Apha kuba ukulingana, ukulingana apho unako. Umntu usoloko avumelane iqabane, nokuba kumayelana kukhetha ngokwesondo, ukhetho izitya isidlo sakusasa, sasemini isidlo, ukusasazwa iimbopheleleko ikhaya, ukuthenga izinto kunye nezinto, izinto, izinto ... Ngoko ke, xa ulwalamano yale hlobo akwenzeki replacement ngamanye "mna" ukuya jikelele "thina". Ukuba kunokwenzeka, phantsi komqathango omnye: enye abalingane emtshatweni ngokupheleleyo negates ngokwayo, inokuyiphelisa ubuntu babo, iimfuno zabo, ziya kuphulukana ubuntu bakhe. esibuhlungu! Akukho indawo ngokuvumelana, oku kulingana kwaye kuphakamisa nothando lwabantu, akukho ulonwabo. Yaye kwixesha elizayo, enyanisweni, esi sibini mhlawumbi.
ubudlelwane Family kunye nemarike
Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ukuba bayahlelwa umngeni egoists ezimbini? ngaxeshanye okanye kukhokelela ekuthiwa syndrome of kanomadudwane, xa elinye 'abathandi' ukutya nje elinye, okanye ulwalamano lwabo luya kuba luhlobo analogu yemakethi ntsapho. Kulo mzekelo, indawo indoda nomfazi iza kutshintsha thile. Nangona ngaphambili umgaqo lubalaseleyo waba: "Ndifuna ukuba wenze (a) endikuthandayo, kodwa (a) awufuni" - kodwa ngoku ikhowudi lwentsapho izandi ezahlukeneyo. Ezizezi: "Ukuba ndithe ndanixelela uya kwenza into oyifunayo, yintoni eyayiza kuba linyathelo wakho?" Okanye, "Ndiza kwenza ukuba uluzalise." Kwaye ke ubeke phambili iimeko okufanayo. imizekelo efanayo ukuzingca zenzeka rhoqo kakhulu emtshatweni lula, kunye nezikhokelo neentlobano elizayo kumiselwe kwisivumelwano emtshatweni. Ewe, kwaye kukho umtshato, ubukhulu becala, sifunda izisulu.
Xa nobubi bendlela kuhamba
Kwezoshishino, izinto ezibalulekileyo ezifana nokuthembeka kushishino, ukuthembeka, ukunyaniseka, ubambiswano. Ukuba bathe yenziwa kwinqanaba usapho, ukuze kube kubi bonke njengoko kubonakala xa efika kuqala. Ewe, indoda kwakunye nomfazi inokuba kakhulu ukuba thethana kwangaphambili. Kungakhokelela kuqoqosho jikelele njenge joint venture. Ngaba bayancedana kwiimeko ezinzima, t. To. Bubutyebi (kuzo zonke iindawo!) Enye nenye inzuzo. Xa ababili enjalo ngabantu nokuqala baphathane kunye nemizwa yabantu. Kakade ke, ukuba ayitshintshi kanye beneentloni, apho siye sathetha.
Ukuba ukuzingca nenengqondo
Xa iincwadi Russian kwenkulungwane XIX esidibana ngayo ingqiqo umdla ezifana "yokuzingca willy-liqhubeke" yaye "egoism nenengqiqo". Umbhali yokuqala - mhlalutyi talantlivayshy VG Belinsky. Nantso indlela amagqabantshintshi evgeniya Onegina kunye UGrigory Pechorin ukuba - Heroes iinoveli ze Pushkin kunye Lermontov. Yintoni ukuthini Belinsky? igama lakhe, yena wacacisa, indoda lokuzingca uzelwe. Ngolo hlobo ke uba kuchatshazelwa iimeko zokusingqongileyo. Idla ngokuba uluntu elinoxanduva into yokuba umlinganiswa othile yaba ugwenxeke kwaphela ngokupheleleyo, mntu ulimeleyo kwaye batshatyalaliswa kusengaphambili. Ke uvule emthethweni Boomerang - kwaye umntu uba umbhuqi isiphetho nabanye abantu. Le meko yahluke xa egoism kakhulu- ifakiwe. Lo mqondo Ndaziswa itshantliziyo izihlwele umbhali-wentando nezentlalo N. G. Chernyshevskim kunye wagwetyelwa kwinoveli "Yintoni ntoni?" Yintoni kubume bayo: ukuzicingela ngokwabo, eminye, disadvantageous kuba kakhulu yokuzingca. Its uyithande ongezanga ukunceda, akazange athembele mntwini. Ndiyavuma, kuba osileyo uzibeke ngendlela loo engumoya indawo! Ngenxa yokuba nobudlelwane nabanye yakhiwe ngendlela efana ukuba kungqubana izilangazelelo zobuqu yamntu mnye, ngokubanzi, ukuba abanye abantu. Umzekelo, xa uthe weza cafe, wayalela ukutya, onwabele ivumba kunye ukunambitheka izitya, yaye ecaleni elowo kuni makabeke emlonyeni wakhe zaya escorts abe umntu hayi evshy, isidlo sasemini akuyi kuya kuba elizayo. Kodwa akuba kakubi amahlwempu, yaye uya kudla amahlwempu, yaye konakalisa umdla wakho. Kufanelekile, akunjalo?
Njengoko sele sibonile, ukuzingca, egoism ngokufanayo. Kwaye njalo kuyinto thabatha!