"Magic" namabinzana ukuze nokuba ugcine incoko nzima

Ngamnye kuthi kanye waziva udidekile ngexesha incoko, yaye ngokuqinisekileyo akafuni ukuba babuyele kulo meko. Njengoko omnye imithetho ubugagu, akukho iimeko ezingenako kungaphuculwa ngoncedo zemihlathi ezikhethiweyo kakuhle.

Nazi Abancedisi abathembekileyo abasixhenxe nalungela na umzuzu ukugcina incoko nzima.

nezincomo

Okunye Kudla ngokuba nzima kuthi ukuba ukukhumbula igama umhlobo omtsha, ngenxa yokuba uninzi ingqalelo sethu sijoliswe koko siya kuthi elilandelayo. Elinye iqhinga isebenzayo ukukhumbula igama ngaxeshanye, ukunqanda ukuphoxeka nesikhundla interlocutor kuye ngokwakhe - undincomayo, lo gama phindaphinda igama elitsha. Ukuba ngoko bathi kuni, umzekelo, "Alice, mna ngokwenene ilokhwe yakho, ngokwenene nguwe," ngoko ke igama uya kukhunjulwa ngokukhawuleza nomhlobo omtsha kuya kuba mnandi ukuva undincomayo. Ukusebenzisa nezincomo efundisayo kunye avulekile kuya kukunceda ukhumbule kuphela kwabanye, kodwa ukuze ukhunjulwe. Ukongeza, emva kokuba amazwi amahle idilesi yakhe umntu uba lula incoko, nto leyo eya kunceda ukuphepha ukuphoxeka.

imibuzo

Uphando lubonisa ukuba bahlole impumelelo incoko nabantu abatsha esekelwe ayisekho into wathi, isithethi. Ngaphezu koko, abantu abaninzi mnandi ngakumbi, ethetha odwa, zokuzonwabisa, amava kunye namatyala yobomi kunokuba esidla, esela kunye nomculo. Ezi data kunokusinceda ukwenza intetho ogqibeleleyo kuqala interlocutors bakhe. Njani? Ukubuza imibuzo enengqondo - abo musa ukuba iqabane lolwazi lobuqu, kodwa kwangaxeshanye ibonisa ngokucacileyo umdla bethu ubuntu babo. Ungacela malunga kwiiklasi owuthandayo ngaphandle komsebenzi, indawo oyithandayo edolophini. Kuphephe imibuzo anganika iimpendulo monosyllabic, kwakunye nemibuzo malunga nomsebenzi, ubomi kunye nezopolitiko. Enye ukhetho olunoluncedo imbambano siganeko kulindeleke yonyaka umzekelo.

Amaqhina kunye otgadki

Ukugcina incoko umdla eminye imiba akunakwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuba nomdla interlocutor wakhe, ukuba abe ngu- "umdlalo." Omaziyo kufuneka zibe ngohlobo bomdlalo intenetya, kungekhona-ndlebe kunye nomphathi abafanelekileyo. Indlela enkulu nowokuchwayita incoko akanakwaziwa. Emva kokuba togokak safunda malunga zokuzonwabisa, iindawo ozithandayo, njalo njalo, ungabuza, "Uyazi yintoni Ndabona izolo kwi cafe yakho oyithandayo?". Okanye, "Makhe ndiyaqikelela ukuba bhanya ye sezipho olukhethayo!" Le nqubo uliqabane incoko ngokweemvakalelo ngakumbi.

mood

Akukho nto ilunge ngaphezu kokuba iinzame ngempumelelo nomxhelo uwabo. Ukuba umthombo akanamdla kakhulu kwimpumelelo incoko, cela ukuba ukuvavanya imini yakho kwisikali point ezilishumi. Oku kuya kunyanzela liqabane ukuba bacinge kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba achaze indlela zokuhlola. Xa umelwe kukuba impendulo, nokuba yinto eqinileyo ezimbini, cela umthombo, yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ekuphakamiseni Luqikelelo ubuncinane ukuya ezintlanu. Kungenzeka, akunyanzelekanga ukuba enze nantoni na, kodwa isenzo noku.

uvelwano

Yinto yimfihlo, kwaye mhlawumbi esona sixhobo sisebenzayo yokugcina nayiphi isithethi, nkqu lo mfundi kakhulu. Abantu kufuneka uvelwano, kwanokuba asinakuyikhanyela loo nto. Thina sonke Kuluvuyo ukwazi ukuba umntu ucinga umsebenzi wethu nzima, kwaye ukhulisa abantwana ababini kunye dog - ishishini lwenkohliso. amagama alula "ukuba mhlawumbi nzima kakhulu 'kuya kwenza interlocutor bazive bekhululekile kakhulu ngakumbi.

Tips

Ekusekweni uyise United States umenzi odumileyo uBenjamin Franklin wabhala ukuba le ndoda ndancedwayo ukuba sikulungele ukwenza kwakhona ngovuyo ngaphezulu kunalowo esinceda. Amazwi akhe zingqinwa izifundo ezininzi. Ukuba ucela uncedo ekusombululeni ingxaki, ingcebiso, izimvo zobungcali okanye zobuqu umhlobo omtsha, ebeya ukuziva uvelwano kuwe. Mhlawumbi oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ngamnye kuthi othanda ukuva umntu luncedo nabanolwazi. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba babe nesimilo entle interlocutor, cela icebiso kuye. Ke okona kubalulekileyo, axele ukuba uya kufumana iimbono zakhe umdla yaye iluncedo.

ukugqitywa

ingxoxo ngamnye ophumeleleyo ifuna ukugqitywa zaziwa ngokuba nomusa. Ungaze uvumele yencoko umngcangcazelisi, gxwa esi sigaba nzima xa kungekho icala uyayazi into ukwenza - ukuqhubeka okanye ayeke. Xa kuziwa ekupheleni kwayo, wabuphelisa Ilula usebenzisa ibinzana elithi "Andiyi ulawula ingqalelo yakho." Musa ukulibala ukubulela interlocutor kuba ixesha ebalaseleyo echithiweyo khumbuza ukuba baye bakholiswa ukuhlangana kwenu.

Ukuba embadleni, unako ukuphelisa incoko ibinzana elithi "Ndavuya ukuba baxoxe, kodwa kufuneka ndithethe into umhlobo wam ngaphambi kokuba amagqabi." Musa ukulibala malunga umthetho umnxeba nempumelelo; kukulungele ukuba ukuphazamisa kuye kwincopho, kunokuba ayinike sehla emhadini.