Kutheni umntwana ekhala ephupheni? "Sifuna izizathu!"

Akukho nto enhle kubazali abanenkathalo kunokuba ibonakaliso lomntwana olele ngokuthula. Ukulinganisa kwakhe ngeempumlo ezincinci kuphakamisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nokuphakanyiswa komntu omdala. Yintoni enokuyenza, ukuba ngokukhawuleza umntwana waqala ukukhala aze akhuphe ephupheni? Ngokuqinisekileyo, abazali abaqaphelayo kufuneka bafumane ngokukhawuleza imbangela yeso siqhamo baze bawuphelise. Kutheni umntwana ekhala ephupheni? Kule nqaku, makhe sizame ukufumana impendulo kulo mbuzo onomdla.

Kutheni umntwana ekhala ephupheni?

Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo zokuxhalaba kwabantwana ekulele. Usana lukhala ngeliphupha ngenxa yokuba:

• Into enkantyikisayo;
• Umntwana unento ebuhlungu;
• Wayephethe iphupha elikrakra okanye elibuhlungu.

Kwiimeko apho imbangela yezinyembezi ebusuku ixhala okanye ingqondo yengqondo, ingcali eqeqeshekileyo inokukunceda umntwana. Abazali bafanele badale umoya ocolileyo, ozolile kunye nobungane ekhaya. Kwiingcebiso zogqirha, unako ukunika umntwana umntwana, amachiza, kunye nokulungelelaniswa kwamanzi okuhlambela. Iingcali kufuneka zigcine inkqubo yokonyango, njengoko ingqondo yengane inzima kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, ncinane kakhulu, ekubonweni kokuqala, ukulimala kwintsana kunokuhlakulela izakhiwo, i-phobias kunye nezinye izifo.

Kwimibuzo yokuba kutheni umntwana ekhala ephupheni, kukho enye impendulo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana unamazinyo okokuqala, intlungu ihlala iintsuku eziliqela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukubandezeleka komntwana kunokususwa kunye neziyobisi zonyango. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba akukho zizathu ezibonakalayo zokuziphatha okunjalo, kubalulekile ukubonisa ugqirha. Ingqalelo ekufuneka ihlawulwe kwiintlungu zesisu, kunye ne-migraines. Iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zibonakaliso malunga nokuphulwa kwenkqubo eqhelekileyo yokusebenza kwamalungu angaphakathi, ngoko ke, nangayiphi na imeko, ukubonisana noviwo kunye neengcali zogqirha ziyimfuneko. Iintsana zivame ukuhlushwa yi-colic, ukubetha kunye nezinye iingxaki ezinxulumene nobudala bomntwana. Ukuseka ukuxilongwa ngokuchanekileyo kwaye unikeze umntwana ngoncedo olusifike ngexesha elifanelekileyo unogqirha wengane. Udokotela wezingane uya kugqiba uluhlu lwamachiza oluya kunceda ukukhulula intlungu nokubuyisela ukulala okuphumayo.

I-imagination ephuhlisiwe nayo ingabangela isizathu!

Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa umntwana uyakhala ebusuku ngenxa yesigqibo. Ukucinga ngexesha elincinane licinga, ngoko ke abantwana banamaphupha aqaqambileyo kwaye anengqiqo. Ngamanye amaxesha uloyiko lwengqondo olumntwana luba neefowuni ezinoyikisayo. Ingane ibona izilo ezimbi okanye imifanekiso ebuhlungu kakhulu. Yingakho umntwana ekhala ephupheni! Unokuyicombulula ingxaki ngokukhupha i-crumb kwaye uyigcine yona, kufuneka uyixelele into yokuba yonke into ibonwa ngumboniso. Ukongezelela, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba ilungu elincinci lentsapho lingabandakanywa kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla:

• Ukujonga iimpawu zethusayo, kunye namafilimu kunye neembandezelo ezibi kakhulu;
• Amabhuku, iincwadi zokubala kunye nezinye izinto ezibonakalayo kunye neempapasho kunye nemifanekiso yezilwanyana kunye nezilo;
• Ukunyamekela ngokukhethekileyo ukukhethwa kwamathoyizi abantwana kwaye ugxininise ekuphuhliseni ama-specimens.

Ukongezelela, i-crumb ingenwayika, ihlale yodwa kwigumbi lokulala. Oku kwenzeka nabantwana abaye balala nabazali babo ngaphambili. Ukufundisa komntwana okungacacanga nokuqhubekayo kwebhedi ehlukeneyo kunokubangela nezinyembezi ebusuku.

Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba umntwana uyakhala ebusuku ngenxa yeendlobongela, kubalulekile ukunyamekela ukuzonwabisa kwakhe emini.

Ezinye izizathu

Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bayaqaphela ukuba umntwana okhulile uyakhala ephupha. Ixesha le-adolescence linempawu zalo ezinxulumene nezinguqu ze-hormones kumzimba, ngoko kufuneka uqikelele ukuba kungenzeka ukukhupha okunjalo.