Indlela yokusinda bekhula?

Adolescence iqala malunga eneminyaka elishumi kwaye uphela ngentsimbi elinesibhozo. Ekupheleni kwesi sigaba, zonke elivisayo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukusekwa ngokupheleleyo ubuntu individuation uphele inkqubo. Ngaba ukuyilwa super-ego kwakhe, oko kukuthi, wonke umntu uza iseti eyeyalo inyala, izithethe kunye nemilinganiselo. Ngexesha lokufikisa, iihomoni luyasebenza kwaye inguqu eziphilayo, nto leyo isisiseko zonke utshintsho engqondweni.

Eli xesha linzima kakhulu - qala kwizingcoliso kanye ngenyanga. Onke Amaxesha ubudala ukukhula komntwana abe iingxaki zabo. Kwixesha elizayo, ukuba iyasebenza yaye yinto ke leyo imenza umntwana,. Oku kuthetha ukuba imvelaphi engundoqo iya kubakho ungquzulwano, ohambelana kuthi ga kweso sigaba yophuhliso apho umntwana waba nobunzima. Kufuneka uyazi, le ngxuba iingxaki, kokukhona baya kuchaphazela yokuziphatha elivisayo ngayo.

Ngenxa yomzimba ludlule ngokutsha hormone elivisayo iqalisa ukuba utshintshe. Ukuphuhlisa iimpawu eziziisekondari ngesondo, ngenxa apho umntwana iqala ukuba nexhala. Kwezinye iimeko, kukho ukusilela yomzimba wakhe. Hayi imilo ngeendlebe, okanye nayiphi na indawo angaba ntlekele. Ngamanye amaxesha amandla ukulahlwa kukhulu kakhulu kangangokuba nizuzane ingcamango ngokuzibulala.

Esakhula - uvavanyo inikwe umntu ngamnye. Kwaye ke umnqweno inzaliseko iminqweno unconscious - oko yengundoqo amandla ukuqhuba. Oku lubonakaliswa ngokuphulula efanayo engundoqo. It idibanisa uyolo oluvela kuzo zonke izigaba. Kodwa isitshixo na isiphumo, kodwa ukuba bathathe inxaxheba. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kaninzi umntwana engazisi yona kuse ekupheleni, oko kubangela inkxalabo phakathi kwabazali.

Xa elivisayo kukho deidealizatsiya izinto umzali. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze kwakhiwe ukuzazisa. Ukuba phambi kokuba umzali nguThixo, ngoku owasemzini. Kwakhona teen abazali deidealiziruet ngendlela yokuziphatha. Jonga abahlobo uba namandla ngakumbi kubaluleke ngaphezu iimbono zabazali. Ngeli xesha, izoyikiso umntwana ukhusela wamkhulula uzinikele isixando kubazali, neliya, phantsi ukugxekwa. Ulutsha ingqalelo amaFilisti ekruqulayo yaye ndiyingwevu nabazali babo.

Abazali kufuneka abeke nje nge ukuziphatha okunjalo. Kodwa ungenza njalo ukuba umntwana akakho phantsi kwempembelelo beziphethe kakubi. Abazali kufuneka sithathe umntwana "iqela ekubhekiswa" (icandelo ezemidlalo, isikolo zobugcisa, isikolo umculo, ukhenketho Club Dance). Ukutshintshatshintsha phakathi kwabazali kunye noontanga iza kuhlala ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo kwaye umzali unako ukuza kuphela nazigqibo phambi ebomini leqela kolutsha, kwakunye nenyaniso yokuba izimvo zabo nezimvo kubaluleke kakhulu ngakumbi. nemigangatho zoMzali ziye zithathelwa indawo ngokwayo, ukuba ingane bafumane amava kunye kwetyala iimpazamo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kufuneka ukuba anike umntwana kangangoko kunokwenzeka rhoqo ukwenza ezi iimpazamo.

Musa kuphulukana intembeko umntwana wakho ngexesha esakhula - yeyona njongo iphambili lwabazali. Ngapha koko, wonke umntu onamava eli xesha ezinzima kakhulu. elivisayo abaninzi kweli xesha badla ukuba izenzo yingozi kwaye yokugula-ingqalelo, ngomhla apho kunokwenzeka kufuneka ukuba azame ukwenza amakheswa.