Intsha ekhulelwe

Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ingxaki ibunzi kwezentlalo ngumama ekuqaleni. Izizathu njalo ngonyaka inani abasetyhini abakhulelweyo abangaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo kufuneka wamema abaninzi, kuquka ukungabikho ukhuseleko loluntu abantwana abafikisayo, abakwishumi elivisayo ngokungazi kwimiba zokucwangcisa kunye nosapho ubudlelwane, izinga eliphantsi yenkcubeko ulutsha lwanamhlanje, njalo-njalo. Konke oku kukhokelela kukuba oomama abatsha yobudala buya abancinane. Iya isanda waqala ukuba babhalise intsha ekhulelwe ngaphantsi kweminyaka engama-14.

Adolescence ixesha nzima kubomi umntwana uyayeka ukuba umntwana, kodwa noko abe ngokupheleleyo umntu omdala, ekwaziyo ukwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ezifana, ezifana ukuzalwa komntwana. Ukongeza, amantombazana abakhulelweyo elivisayo, ezi physiologically nasengqondweni hayi kodwa zilungele yinkqubo entsonkothileyo afana kokumitha, ukuzalwa kwaye bekhulisa umntwana ukuba bazazi ngokupheleleyo ubunzulu kule meko.

Amaxesha amaninzi, intsha ekhulelwe, amantombazana iminyaka 15-16 ubudala, wafunda ngale meko yabo, ndasala ndedwa, ngenxa yokuba abazali babo musa inkxaso (ingakumbi ukuba usapho koluntu), uyise womntwana, njengoko umthetho, liyalahleka okanye uyala ukuvuma makavume wakhe, abadala ukusingela abavumeli ukunceda. Noko ke, asimele silibale ukuba ulutsha abakhulelweyo ngenxa lability kwabo psyche kuphela ukumelana noxinezeleko yezengqondo iimvakalelo, yaye angagcina baphulukane.

Ukugqiba ukuba ashiye ukukhulelwa okanye ukuqhomfa (xa ixesha livuma) ukuba onke amalungu entsapho, akanako kusala intombazana ekwishumi elivisayo yedwa lo mba. Ukuba usapho akayixhasi, kunye nokusingqongileyo phakathi kwabantu apho ngubani ukunceda intsha ekhulelwe namhlanje isicelo sokhuseleko loluntu kunye nenkxaso kumaziko ezizodwa, eyaqala ukuvela hayi kudala eRashiya. Bobabini ukhathalelo lwezonyango kunye nasengqondweni. Kukho ikhutshwa phandle uphando lo ugqirha, inkcazelo ukukhulelwa nokuzala, iingcali ezinxulumene zoviwo kunye nomsebenzi kunye neenkonzo zentlalo kunye namagqwetha.

Noko ke, ingxaki ukukhulelwa kwangoko ayenzi ukusombulula. Ke ubuso, kufuneka usebenzise iinkqubo zoluntu zentlalo entsimini-nkqubo isini, kwakunye ngoncedo explanatory incoko intsha malunga nocwangciso-ntsapho, isazi ukusebenza njengeqela ngabanye phezu izihloko ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi, kunye nobudlelwane nosapho. Ngelishwa, amasiko abantu abaselula namhlanje kukuba abantu abaninzi abaselula babe nofifi, kufuneka ikhangeleke ngokungathi kukho ubudlelwane eqhelekileyo phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi. Yonke into thaca kwi owayephila eendaba, izibhengezo, imiboniso bhanya kunye intanethi qamba ezingqondweni elivisayo sengqondo ngokungafanelekanga ngesondo. Ulutsha babe neentlobano zesini, ukuqalela kwiminyaka 11-12 ubudala, wayengakuqondi ngokupheleleyo nomba, ngokufuthi ngoyaba zokucwangcisa. Yonke ngoko ootitshala abathi ngenxa yenkani kolutsha kwaye banqwenela ukuba "abadala" ibonwa ophambene.

Eyona ndlela ibhetele yokuthintela ukukhulelwa kudala imfundo sex efanelekileyo yabantwana, ukuqalela kubudala pre-school, kuyimfuneko ukwenza sengqondo ilungelo wesini esahlukileyo yaye ukucacisa "ntoni iintsana nivela phi na." Ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi abaselula, lo mbuzo uhlala ayaziwa kude kube ngoko, de bayazi ngamava abo. Kodwa inkqubo ngokwayo kuye kwafika kubo bonke abafundi kuzo zonke izigaba zobudala.

Ke wena, xa sele kwenzekile, uze ubuyele elidlulileyo akunakwenzeka, oko kuyimfuneko ukuzama usana lufumane ngqwalaselo ngenxa kunye nemfundo, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba abazali abanothando.