Intombi yomthetho - ngubani lo? Ukwesaba okanye kuba ngabahlobo?

Ngaphambili, kwiseRashiya, indoda emfazi wayo yathabatha intombazana evela kwelinye idolophana okanye indawo yokuhlala. Yena kunye nezihlobo zakhe, wayebhekwa njengomfokazi, ngamanye amazwi, ukusuka apho evela khona. Ngako oko igama elithi "umalokazana" lavela, oko kwakuthetha "umfokazi kwikhaya elitsha nentsapho."

Umlinganiselo wobudlelwano

Ingcamango iguqulelwe njani kwimpilo yanamhlanje? Umalokazana omncinane - ngubani lo obazali bomyeni wakhe? Umfazi, etshata, uba ngumhlobo malunga nentsapho yonke yomyeni wakhe: ngokuba umkhwezala, umkhwekazi, umntakwabo nomyeni wakhe nodadewabo. Kwabafazi babazalwana kunye nabayeni boodade, ungumkhwezana.

Enye intombi

Enyanisweni, kwiintsapho ezininzi umfazi omtsha uthathwa ngokulumkisa, njengokungathi uyamkhangela, ngokukodwa umkhwekazi osandul 'ukwenziwa. Ngezihlobo ezitsha, umalokazana onguphi na, ukuba akunjalo na umntu ongeyena mnye kunye nexesha elidlulileyo kunye nelizwe layo? Kodwa abazali abazilumkileyo, bebona ukuba abantu abaselula bathanda kwaye banakekelelana, basebenzise ilungu elitsha lentsapho, baze baqwalasele nomfazi wonyana wabo intombi yesibini.

Mna!

Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abasandul 'ukutshata baza kuza kuhlala kwintsapho yomyeni. Kwimeko efanayo, xa umama kamama ezama ukubeka intombazana yakhe kwindawo yakhe kunye nokubonakala kwayo yonke into ibonisa ukuba nguye yedwa umfazi endlwini. Kwintsapho enjalo kukho ukuphikisana: ngubani obaluleke kakhulu - umkhwekazi okanye umalokazana? Ngubani ongasombulula le mpikiswano, ukuba ayinjalo.

Abazali abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba bayona nto ibhetele kubantwana babo, kwaye akukho "mfazi" ongathatha indawo yomama onzala. Zilungile ngendlela yazo. Kodwa oomama abazizilumko abathanda "abafana" babo kwaye banqwenela ulonwabo, abayi kutshabalalisa intsapho entsha, kodwa baya kuzama ukufudukela kwimvelaphi.

Qala encinci

Ukushiya ukusuka kwisinyathelo sokuqala seenyawo kuyimfuneko ngokufanelekileyo. Ukwenza ikhosi nge-knight kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane nomfazi wendodana, kakhulu kangangokuba ube ngumhlobo kunye nomcebisi wakhe. Unokuqala, umzekelo, ngokubhala ukubongela umalokazana wakho ngeeholide ethile. Ukuba uyintombazana ehlakaniphile, uya kuqonda isenzo esinjalo. Sinokucinga ukuba isinyathelo sokuqala senziwe.

Mhlawumbi intombazana inenkani kwinto kwaye ayifuni ukuyeka ubunzima bomama wakhe, kodwa oku kubangelwa ukubonakaliswa kolutsha. Kule meko, umama-mkhwenyana unokwenza umnqweno umonde kunye neminye imizamo. Emva koko, umfazi omncinci akafuni ngokwenene ukutshabalalisa ulonwabo aze abone indlela umyeni wakhe omtsha abandezeleka ngayo. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba amanyathelo omama-mkhwenkwe uya kuba nempembelelo.

Uqala ngomncinci: uncoma ngomhla wokuzalwa kwentombi yakhe, uze ukhulule amanconywa ambalwa kwisihlobo esitsha. Kwaye umama-mkhwenkwe usele kumgama omfutshane kumfazi wam unyana kunokuba ngaphambili. Kwitheyibhi yokugcoba, awukwazi nje ukuhalalisela "elitsha" kwaye uthetha amagama ambalwa kuye, kodwa uqaphele indlela ovuyayo ngayo unyana kunye nendlela awazange abe ngayo. Konke oku akuqinisekanga ukuba ngumfazi wakhe omhle. Yaye xa abazukulu bevela, ugogo uya kubaxelela ngomama wabo omhle nofanelekayo. Kule mibonakaliso yobulumko nokunyamezela umkhwekazi, baya kuvulela umkhwekazi kunye noonyana.

Amagama ambalwa ...

Masiyeke amagama ethu amancinci ahlukeneyo abe yinto enqwenela ukuseka ubudlelwane nomfazi wonyana, ngoko akukho mbuzo: "Umkhwenkwezana-ngubani lo, intshaba okanye intombi entsha?".