Dade, umyeni: loo ubuhlobo kwikhaya elinjani

Kulo naluphi na ulwimi kukho amagama amaninzi kangaka intsapho, zombini in Russian. Malunga uyise womkaMoses banal, umzalwana-in-mthetho yaye ukuba uthi hayi, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ngubani na. Kodwa uyazi, umzekelo, ukuba amadoda oodade ababini waba enye ku-imithetho, umfazi kunye nabazalwana ababini - yatrovkami? Okubangel 'umdla kukuba, ngolwimi Russian, kukho amaqhalo Kufanelekile kakhulu ahlabayo kwaye amazwi abonisa ubudlelwane ezintsonkothileyo entsatsheni. Umzekelo: "ezidolophini Ummeli nekratshi", "zhurliva ukuba uninazala", ". E Tiffany toschi kucebisa"

Kodwa namhlanje siza kujolisa isalamane - udade umyeni wakhe okanye-mthetho. Uyayazi kudala kangakanani eyadlulayo wathetha udade kumyeni wakhe? In-mthetho - okanye zlovka-mthetho - udinga! Yaye bathi: "zolovushkiny repem intetho kuma." Yintoni na le ngokunxulumene olufanele mpatho?

Ke umsakwabo indoda nomfazi phantse lonke wongezelela ulwalamano unexhala. Olu ngquzulwano ezaziwayo-kakuhle efanayo kubudlelwane "umama-in-mthetho - in-mthetho" okanye "kwi-mthetho - ntombi". Ngelo xesha ukubandezeleka iqela elinye ngokuqhelekileyo bathi abafazi: beyisekile ukuba kwi-mthetho vumela ngokwabo ukuba batshintshe ubomi angasese amaqabane, indlela yabo yokuphila, kwinqanaba imfundo yabantwana kunye nokwenza uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali yekhaya. Ngokwenza njalo, umakoti badla bayazibuza: bakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba banalo ilungelo ngokupheleleyo kuyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto umfazi ngokuqhelekileyo ukunciphisa unxibelelwano kunye ngo-mthetho ukuya ubuncinane, okanye ubuncinane zama ukuyenza loo nto. Kwaye kufuneka Siyavuyisana udade umyeni wakhe kanye okanye kabini ngonyaka iba yingxaki kakhulu, njengoko kukho ungquzulwano elibukhali.

Isizathu sale meko - ukunqongophala ukuqonda icala banal, ukungafuni ukwamkela indawo ngamnye zomnye. Kwaye iqela owenzakeleyo idla ngokuba indoda. Makhe uzame ukuqonda oyena nobangela le ukungaqondani.

udade yendoda liyayiqonda kumzalwana wakhe ngeendlela ezininzi. Okokuqala, oku sizihlanganise kunye nonina (udade omdala okanye nje oqolileyo ngakumbi njengomntu). Kulo mzekelo, iya ujonge umzalwana wakhe ebekade zibhuqe size ukuphazamisa ebomini bakhe. Ububanzi balo ngoncedo luya kuxhomekeka ubuchule kunye nendlela yokuba avunyelwe ukuba enze njalo. Kwakhona, udade nomyeni wam nga Project umfanekiso uyise kumzalwana wakhe, ulinganisa indima yakhe umdlali okhuselayo. Ngenxa yoko, kuya amabango amalungelo abo ukuba nenxaxheba kubomi bakhe, kungekho mba ngenxa yayo ukutshintsha imeko yentsapho. Ngokufuthi, imeko enjalo umfazi wakhe ezinxulumene ngokukhulu ukuzingca, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha-mthetho nje akazange abe nexesha ukuqonda zonke iinguqu. Enye ingxaki le meko kukuba udade lomyeni uyaqhubeka esebenzisa impahla yakhe nemali, akukho mba umfazi umzalwana wakhe. Khumbula, njengoko batshovo - ". Udade-in-udinga" Apha kweli cala umbuzo lo mbuzo: nangoku udade lomyeni ucinga ukuba unelungelo lokusebenzisa imali umzalwana wakhe (egumbini lakhe, imoto, Cottage, njl ...) Zombini ngezinto zabo. ukuma kwayo nje ukuqonda: awayedla ukuyenza loo nto, yaye akayi ukutshintsha imikhwa yabo ngenxa abanye abafazi "ngaphandle".

Eyona ndlela kakhulu cala - kodwa ubuhlobo phakathi udade kunye nomntakwabo. Kodwa ke kule meko kukho iingxabano, kaninzi ngenxa ngekhwele engenamsebenzi. Yena abe nomona kwindoda yakhe, udade umfazi entsha yomphefumlo womzalwana wakhe, umfazi izalamane umyeni wakhe ngokubanzi ingakumbi kwi-mthetho.

Ingaba ikhona indlela yokuphuma kule meko? Ndingathanda ukuba athi ukuba kukho, kodwa hayi kakhulu yinyaniso. Ukwenzela ukuphepha loo msebenzi, kuyimfuneko ukuba omabini amaqela ungquzulwano kutsalwa ukusuka iimvakalelo, nto leyo cishe engenakwenzeka leyo. Nakuba kunjalo, kufuneka ubuncinane uzame ukwenza njengenyathelo enye kwenye, ku vulavula, ku ukuzama ukuqonda, ukuze ukuchonga ezona zinto kakhulu. Oku kufuneka kwenziwe, kungenjalo kuya kubakho enye yezinto ezimbini: mhlawumbi umfazi ithe indoda yakhe okanye omnye - umzalwana wakhe.