Indlela ukuqonda wena, ukuqonda nothando wena?

Umnqweno ukuqonda ngokwabo ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka xa uziva ukunganeliseki, ucinga ukuba ubomi bakho into engahambi kakuhle, njengoko kufuneka. Okanye xa benze izinto ezifanayo, kwezinye iimeko, ufumanisa ukuba oku ilungile, kodwa ukuphuma apho.

Njengesiqhelo, abantu bazama ukwazi mna? Bona bafunda iincwadi, ezama ukudlulisela iimvavanyo ngokwasengqondweni ngokwabo, fumana abantu ezifana-nye nonke, nabo yachukumisa isihloko self-ukuphuculwa.

Njengokuba abantu baqale ukugcina idayari okanye blog, apho ukubhala phantsi iingcinga zabo nokuhlalutya iziganeko eziqhubekayo ebomini babo. Lo msebenzi uluncedo kakhulu kwi self-lwazi. Inika ithuba ukuqonda apho kukho inkxalabo. Kwakhona kakhulu kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukujonga ngokwam evela ngaphandle. Kwaye ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuvavanya izenzo zabo, ngoko ke enentsingiselo ukuzifunda, uya kukwazi ukubona imeko iingcinga zabo nezenzo jonga iqela lesithathu.

inkqubo Ukulinywa - indlela elide, maxa wambi akukho njongo. Yena zendalo kubantu zokuphefumla nokudla. Oko ukwenza indlela self-ukuphucuka a kuphumza ingqondo kwaye ukhululekile? Indlela ukuqonda ngokwabo ngcono kwaye ukwamkela wena nje na?

Abantu abaninzi abathanda ukuba ophele- le. Balwakha ke injongo okuqhelekileyo uwutshise ngokwabo ngempumelelo yabo. Le ndlela ezisisiseko uloyiko uba inyathelo lobuxoki phambi kokuba uluntu, kukho umnqweno ukuba baphelele yonke into. Kodwa khangela ebomini eziyiyo. Ngapha koko, kwindalo akukho efanelekileyo. Khangela phandle ngefestile - emithini okanye ematyeni. Babonakala phambi kwethu kwimo yaso yesiqhelo, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuba nawuphi na umgangatho ubuhle kunye nemfezeko. Ngokuba umntu ubunzima efanelekileyo - 65 kg, kwaye umntu - 45, nokuphakama efanayo. Kwaye ngeli thuba nani ubunzima ekufikelelwa, umntu unxiba atyayo, esidla ngokwayo yaye akanako ukumthanda njengoba kunjalo. Eneneni, ukuzeyisa uthando - le nto phambi ezinye iimpawu ezithile. Oku ngathi iimvakalelo umama esithi: umama uyamthanda umntwana wakhe nje kuba yintoni na. Kunjalo kufuneka kubo ngokwabo.

Enoba khangela njani wena inobunzima kangakanani. Enoba ukufumana iqabane umphefumlo wakho, nokuba namanje ndawo kwixesha elizayo. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na ukunganeliseki, uze uyibeke phambi wokukora, ukuphunyezwa kwe apho, ngokwembono yakho, ukuba bakhulise ukuzithemba - yindlela engalunganga ukuya.

Ukuphumeza nayiphi na injongo, okokuqala nje, kufuneka ukuba ukumamela iminqweno yabo ndiye kuphumezo lwazo. Ukongeza koku kufuneka ibe ukuthembeka. Kwaye ngaphandle uthando ngalo mbuzo akanakuba.

Indlela ukuqonda ngokwabo, ukuba baqonde imidlalo zabo, ukuziphatha maladaptive uze unandiphe ubomi? Amaninzi, imibuzo efana ukuya ngengqondo ngayo amabhinqa. Ngelo xesha, abafazi ziyafana kakhulu kunye neekati: Ucinga ukuba indlela ikati ithini ngendlela engathandekiyo, ezinzima? Zama ukuba kunjani. Wena Akukho ixesha ubale ukuya ku-10.

amandla lwabasetyhini usendleleni yokuba abangoyikiyo ivele buthathaka. Ukuba okubi, ungakhululekanga, okanye into intlungu, umfazi uzama ukutshintsha isimo sayo kangangoko. Kakade ke, musa bonke azibeke phantsi "ubukhulu omnye luvumelana zonke", konke oko kuxhomekeke kuloo mntu, kodwa abafazi lula eyaziwayo ubuthathaka bakhe kunamadoda. Isisombululo nto njongo. Balwakha ke umsebenzi njani ukuqonda wena uze bazakuqala ukusombulula lonke ndlela kunokwenzeka.

Makhe usebenzise olu phawu ngenxa yenzuzo. Kufuneka siqonde ukuba baqonde indlela ngokwabo, yaye kulwa nawo, njengoko abaninzi ntoni. Kufuneka sifumane abo amandla, nto leyo iza kunceda ukufezekisa iinjongo ezithile. Kulo mzekelo, injongo - kukuba eqonda aze amkele ngokwabo.