Indlela izilumle umntwana ezilumayo iinzipho zakhe?

  Akukho ngozi Ekuqaleni, oku kakhulu mkhuba, kunye nohlobo kuyo, mhlawumbi, ilele kwinqanaba nangakumbi ixhala lwangaphakathi. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ukuba uyakuthanda ndaphawula kaninzi - lixesha lokucinga malunga nendlela izilumle umntwana ezilumayo iinzipho zakhe? Bantwana, eyiva izikhonkwane (ukongeza oku aqale kwakuyo rhoqo imilebe yakho okanye owanyayo umnwe, njl) Kwandile ngoko zama umoya. Xa wabona efanayo abantwana abaye babe namava iimeko ezibangela, ngaphandle kwesizathu - lixesha ukubona ngengqondo, ekubeni kunokwenzeka ukuphoswa ekuqaleni uphuhliso nezifo zabantwana.

Esi senzo akanakuhamba kwaye siyathemba ukuba zonke ziya kudlula ngokwayo. Kungxamisekile ukuba bathathe inyathelo kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni izilumle umntwana ezilumayo neenzipho zakhe ukhawulezise kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Yiyiphi indlela - kuxhomekeke unobangela, ubudala, kunye nezinye iimeko ebalulekileyo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - kuyo nayiphi na imeko, musa engxolisa umntwana ngakumbi ke, musa hit phezu kwezandla zakhe. Kungenjalo, lo mkhwa ibe mandundu, kunye nesahlulo nayo iya kuba ixesha elide kwaye nzima ngakumbi.

Kaninzi, ngokutsho-manani, kukho ingxaki efanayo ebantwaneni ukuqala kweminyaka emi-3, isiqingatha soonyana bengenako amshiye elivisayo, kwezinye ihlala naxa ziba abantu abadala. Lo mkhwa akubangi umonakalo kwimpilo, Noko ke, ngaphandle kokuba ububi kubuhle, kukho ingozi yokuba ezinye izifo ezosulelayo kunye nokudumba kwemiphezulu periungual. Yiloo nto ke kufuneka isigqibo izilumle njani umntwana ezilumayo iinzipho zakhe. Kunye nale, nabantwana nale ngxaki idla amanqina ngokweemvakalelo ukuba phantsi nokuzixabisa.

Ukusuka kwindawo yezonyango lwembono, Onychophagia (igama ngonzululwazi sokuba isikhonkwane ukuluma) uqalisa ukuzibonakalisa ebantwaneni kunye neemeko uxinzelelo kwaye, ngenxa trauma. Umfutho isenokuba mtshato lwabazali, umkhaya uxabana okanye imeko ungquzulwano kunye noontanga babo, kunye nasiphi na esinye isizathu sokuba umntu omdala ukuze uqaphele ukuba usana kuthetha intlekele yokwenene. Ukongeza, i-indoda ezintathu ngokufuthi ithunyelwe abancinane, ngoko eqalisa ukuba ukhathazeke besahlukaniswa kumama wakhe. Kwiimfundiso uSigmund Freud ithetha ukuba nemvakalelo wokungakhuseleki ezinokuvela umntwana ngenxa ezemali zilunyulwe kuye pacifier okanye zilunyulwe libele sikanina apha ekuqaleni kakhulu iminyaka. Ukukhumbula imvakalelo emangalisayo xa bekhululekile ukuze ngumama wam ezingalweni zakhe ngelixa ukondla usana kunye nokuzama umoya ngokwam onento ukusuka ebahleleyo "intlungu" sakhe, wambamba ngaloo ndlela. Indlela izilumle umntwana Oluma iinzipho zayo, ngumkhwa leyo ayikalungiswa naye ekugqibeleni?

Umntwana kufuneka abe ubunzima ngenxa yokunqongophala ingqalelo, kuyimfuneko rhoqo caressing kwaye ukwanga ngu - koomama Uwole ngokwenene unako ukwenza imimangaliso. Ngokutsho bengqondo, nokuba elivisayo ubunzima ukuba singakusunduzanga ngabazali amaxesha ubuncinane ezisibhozo ngosuku. Abantwana kufuneka uzive ukuchukumisa, ukwanga ukulinganisela labo kunye nenzolo. Yaye akukho nzima, ngakumbi ke musani ukhohlwe kunye nabantwana babo, eza kubo ukuzithemba ukuba uyathandwa, xa zifuneka, kwaye oko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu okhulele! Esi sixhobo sigqibeleleyo zothintelo kunye nesiqinisekiso sokuba elizayo abayi ukukhangela impendulo yalo mbuzo: "? Indlela izilumle umntwana ezilumayo iinzipho zakhe".

Xa kwavela ingxaki - nje kufuneka zisuswe kwi kusekwangoko. Okokuqala kufuneka ufumanise, ngezizathu zokuba kukho ecinga obkusyvaniya mpunzi. Ukuze wenze oku, bukela umntwana, mhlawumbi, ngoko nokuphelisa luvo xa uphazamisekile okanye esoyika into ethile, okanye mhlawumbi uziva ingqiqo wokungakhuseleki amakhono abo. Emva kokufunda isizathu, inyathelo lokuqala kukuthetha nomntwana wakho, mxelele malunga iziphumo mkhwa. Nakuba kunjalo, kufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo nento yokuba kaninzi abantwana musa abanakuzeyisa, mabazeke, ziyaphumelela ngokwayo.

Indlela izilumle umntwana ezilumayo iinzipho zakhe? icebiso yezo

• Kunye ingcali kumnceda umntwana wakho ukumelana nomkhwa ombi, ukuba imke kuyo ngaphandle engangcikivi; nge Ngeliqhulayo.
• Ukuphelisa amathuba ulibaziseko kuphuhliso usana, ukuya kwengqondo.
• I 'amanqam "mzuzu, thatha umntwana ephatha entsha yokudlala, omiswe, iilekese, njl Yenza uhlobo "herring ebomvu."
• Ukubeka usana bubuthongo, musani wonqena bamenze yokuthanjiswa nokuthantamisa, kwakhona, lo ngowona touch zoqhagamshelwano kudityaniswe nokuphumla amazwi amnandi. Mdumise usana lwakho, ndixeleleni uyamthanda njani, nto leyo emangalisayo kunye ezizodwa.
• Mcacisele ukuba kwicala lakhe, ukuba kunye ubophelelekile ukuba abonisane, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuyimfuneko nzima ngayo. Kuphela ingqalelo, uthando umntwana, uxolo nemvisiswano entsatsheni, kwaye inyathelo kwangexesha kunceda ukoyisa lo mkhwa.