Yintoni ubudlelwane uthando

Wonke umntu okungenani kanye ebomini bakho uyazibuza "nendlela yokuzifumana uthando likhoboka." Kucingwa ukuba luphawu ngakumbi besini buthathaka, kodwa akunjalo. Nje abantu bathule yaye njalo ukuveza ngokucacileyo iingcamango zabo kule miba. ubuhlobo Uthando ngabantu iba nefuthe elikhulu kakhulu kubomi bemihla ngemihla ngokunjalo nabafazi. A Imeko ngamazwi: wonke umntu ithuba lokuba athenge phantse naluphi ezobuchwepheshe, ukufumana imfundo ezimbini ezintathu ephezulu, kodwa kwizinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi, ngokungathi kunjalo, nangoko, xa wonke umntu ulibele. Ngenxa yoko, umntu akugqiba isikolo, ikholeji, uyakwazi okuninzi malunga isakhiwo nomhlaba, kodwa ubomi bakhe kunye nezentlalo ngulomntu ukhokhelayo, sithembele ngakumbi kwi intuition. Nangona ukuqonda izenzo zabo - kuko okulungiselela isiseko, abavelisa nolwalamano esitalini nabanye, ukwakha uluntu esempilweni.

Yintoni ubudlelwane uthando, apho abanye babezimisele ukuba balahle? Ngaphandle kokuya kwi nezo psychoanalysis, eli gama libhekisela banomnqweno ukuze adibane nabantu besini esahlukileyo. Kwaye emzimbeni nje kuphela, kodwa kwi ngokomoya. Uthando likhoboka njengokubonisa omnye imigaqo yokomoya, kuba ingcaciso wayo ngaphaya umda nengqondo. Iimpikiswano bakuhlonipha Freud kwakudala na imibuzo kwaye abakwazi ukuchaza ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo ngokupheleleyo.

Kutheni omnye umntu unako ukuphila ngokukhuselekileyo yedwa ngaphandle uziva evinjwa nantoni na, lo gama enye ufuna ukunxibelelana rhoqo komnye umntu? Le buhlobo uthando. Sele ke akukho mfihlakalo ukuba amadoda namabhinqa babe namandla ezahlukeneyo. Uninzi iimfundiso esoteric ukwabelana loo mbono. Oku kulula kakhulu ukuba uqiniseke: lwanele nomfanekiso kwezinye iimeko nokuhlalutya esisabela ngayo kuzo. Kwakhona, musa ukuba kuhambe ukuba basebenzise amava obomi kunye logic.

Ngokomzekelo, abaninzi izibini abayiqondi apho umtsalane iphelile, sibonga ngalo kwagqitywa ukudala intsapho. Kutshanje, oko konke kulungile, kodwa emva kweminyaka embalwa (ubude bexesha kuxhomekeke sawo) umntu close uba waqhela ngaphezu kokuba nabazana. Ukutshintsha imbonakalo, elithanda lunokusolwa utshintsho iimvakalelo, akusoloko isizathu lokwenyaniso. Kubonakala ngathi abantu efanayo, yaye akukho umnqweno apho, loo nto ngonaphakade. Oku kungenxa obupheleleyo unempembelelo amandla alo lomnye umntu. Enyanisweni, inzala siyaphela. Kodwa njengokuba usazi, xa kungenzeki uhlobo osenyanyeni, ngoko abantu baqala ukujonga ukuba yinto entsha luthando kudla ifumana. Uqala kwinqanaba entsha wokwaluswa kwakhe amandla, sichaza igama elithi 'uthando'. Kuthatha isuntswana ixesha ... kwaye yonke iphindiwe. Ngoko wabonisa ubuhlobo uthando. Umntu unako ukuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo, kusesemini yedwa. Ingaba le embi? Akukho mpendulo enye ayikho. Ukusuka kwinqanaba ngenxa yokuziphatha kunye nezithethe zentlalo - kubi. Kodwa uhlobo ngale ndoda, "uthi," nje eyahlukileyo.

Iintsapho apho umntu uxhomekeke ngokugqithiseleyo ngothando ulwalamano, sinako ndinicebisa ukufunda sublimation - kufakwe yomtsalane ekuqaleni yoyilo. Umzekelo, umfazi onge abanokucinga ngazo uthando entsha, ngexesha uphila ubomi ngokupheleleyo: abahambahambayo, etyelela zokuzilungisa kunye boutiques, ukusebenza nabantwana kunye nomyeni wakhe, yena ukunikela ingqalelo (ukunika amandla). Nje ngabantu: uthando Umtsalane inokujikwa ibe kumakhaya zokwakha, ukwakhiwa yokuhlala, umsebenzi into oyithandayo (lokuloba, ezemidlalo motor). Kwaye indlela ibaluleke kakhulu - kukusebenzisa uncedo yincutshe. unyango Ngokuqhelekileyo ezithandwayo kunye kakhulu ngempumelelo kwiqela trust. Kodwa ke kule meko kuya kufuneka ukuvuma ngokuphandle nokungabikho ukuxhomekeka ngaloo ngxaki ayinakucombululeka bonke.