Unyana-nyathelo - ngubani na kwaye kufuneka ndibe ngqalelo ngantoni na?

Imeko ebomini iyahluke, kwaye akusoloko ifundise abantwana babo kuphela. Ukuba umfazi okanye umlingane wakho ozayo usenomntwana, ke umntwana kufuneka angaphathwa kakubi kunabantwana bakhe. Le ndoda inyanzelekile ukuba wenze umzamo wokwenza abahlobo naye, ukuba yinxalenye yentsapho yakhe.

Inyana-nyathelo - ngubani lo, ukuba ukhangeleka intsingiselo yamagama kwizichazili?

Eli gama linentsingiselo emininzi. Okokuqala, lo ngumntwana ongeyena wesinye somtshato kunye nendodana yomnye. Oko kukuthi, unokuba ngumntwana wakhe, umzekelo, umfazi wakhe, kodwa kufuneka abe ngumyeni ongewona umthonyama, okanye ngokuthe ngqo. Ngokuqhelekileyo unyana ongewona ozalwa Awufumani umlinganiselo ofanelekileyo wokuqwalasela, amava obunzima beemeko ezahlukeneyo. Kule ncwadi, inqanawa idla ngokutshutshiswa ngumama wayo, yenza yonke into engcolileyo endlwini. Kukho enye inketho - inokuba yinto enhle kangangokuba umama wesibini uyathandana naye.

Ukucela ukuqonda i-stepon-ngubani, ungayifumana kwiichazi magama kunye nencazelo enye yegama, kodwa asiyi kuqwalasela. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-shootal shoot of the plant growing from the axils of leaves. Kodwa oku sele isihloko sesinye isihloko.

I-Stepon kunye no-stepfather. Iimeko ezintle kakhulu

Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uphendukela kumntakwabo, "upapa omtsha". Oku kwenzeka kwi-90% yamatyala. Ukuphendula okunjalo kwengane kunengqiqo kwaye kuyinto evamile - wayehlala enomama, kwaye umntu omtsha uzama ukudibana phakathi kwakhe nonina, uthathe uthando lwakhe, ingqalelo kunye nexesha elikhululekile ... Kakade, umntwana akayi kuvuya.

Ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuziphatha njani kumntu omdala, ukuze umntwana amkele umntu omtsha kwintsapho?

Ukuziphendulela kwangokwemvakalelo kuyinto eqhelekileyo

Ukunyanzeliswa komzimba kunye nomzwelo womntwana kuqhelekileyo, kwaye akufanele ukwesabisa. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngesicwangciso esilungileyo sokuziphatha komama kunye nentanda yakhe, unokumisela ubudlelwane obuhle nomntwana. Ukukhathazeka kulandela ukuthula. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntwana akenzi intlekele kwinto yokuba sele engumntwana, nokuba ngubani na. Uthobela ngokukhawuleza ukubonakala komntu omtsha, akabonakalisi iimpawu zokungazineliseki, kodwa ... unokuqala ukubona ubusuku bomsindo, ukukhala kunye nokukhala ephupheni. Ngala bantwana kubhetele ukuthetha kwangaphambili, ungawafaki phambi kweqiniso. Kufuneka kucaciswe ukuba uMama usamthanda, akayi kufuna indawo yakhe, akayi kumvumela ukuba akhuphe ukuba kwenzeka into embi. Ukuba awuyi kuqinisekisa umntwana ngokwakhe, indlela ephumelelayo iya kubhena kwisikolo sengqondo somntwana.

Efanelekileyo

Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abantwana, ngokuchasene noko, basabela ngokuqinisekileyo ekubonakaleni koyise wabo wesibini. Bafuna unomdla ngokwenene uMama, baziphathe njengabantu abadala kwaye bahlolisise umviwa kubayeni bakhe abatsha. Bona ngokwabo benza isinyathelo sokuqala kubuhlobo babo noyise wabo wesibini. Ukuze iziganeko ziguquke kwiimeko ezinjalo, imigaqo embalwa elula kufuneka iphawulwe. Baza kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.

Umama kunye no-stepfather mabaziphatha njani?

1. Indoda ethandwa ngumntu kufuneka incede ibe ngumhlobo kumntwana wayo. Indlela efanelekileyo kukufunda iimfuno zentsana, ukuqonda oko akukhathalelayo, into ephuphayo ngayo, into eyoyikisayo. Ngoko kuya kuba lula kuye ukuba achukumise kwizihloko ezinomdla kumntwana, ukumisela umnxeba naye.
2. Awukwazi ukuxelela ngokukhawuleza umntu omncinci malunga neenjongo zakho (umzekelo, "Igama lam ngu-Uncle Kolya, ndingumntanina wakho, ungumntwana wam, oza kuthatha oku kakubi, oko kuyiphutha"). Kufuneka uqale ngeminqweno neengxaki zentsana. Ukuba kamva, xa uqhagamshelwano lusekwe, umntu obiza indima yomntwana wesibini uya kufuna ukuxelela umntwana malunga nezicwangciso zakhe, ngoko unokuzama ukukwenza, kodwa kufuneka uqaphele kwaye ukhethe ngokuchanekileyo amagama. Kufuneka kugxininiswe ukuba uyise wesibini akayi kubanga indawo yoyise womntwana kwaye uyaqonda kakuhle ukuba unokuba noyise omnye kuphela.
3. Kuya kuba mnandi ukongeza umntwana kumsebenzi wokuzonwabisa ngomyeni omtsha womama. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba oonyana abathandana nabo banamaxesha amaninzi ajabulisayo bekhumbula abo bootata abathandana nabo, abaye bahamba nabo ngokuloba ebuntwaneni babo, bekulungisa imoto egaraji. Umama, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulungile kwaye unothando kangakanani, akanako ukuvula unyana wakhe zonke iimfihlo zehlabathi lamadoda.
4. Musa ukugwenxa le nkwenkwana, ukumnika amathoyizi. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba amkhumbuze rhoqo ukuba ziphi iimoto ezinkulu umhlobo wakhe unika kuye, nangona ukuba ungumntwana wakhe ozala. Ngubani owangicela ukuba ndiyenze oku? Ingaba umntwana wacela le miboniso?
5. Inketho egqibeleleyo yokuseka ubudlelwane yimeko xa umama, uyise kunye nomntwana behamba ngenye indawo - kwiseksi, kwi-cinema, epaki yabantwana. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana udibanise nokubonakala kwendoda yakhe engumama kwaye uhlale naye ngeemvakalelo ezintle.
6. Iintlanganiso ze-stepfather kunye nomntwana kufuneka ziqhutywe ngexesha elichazwe ngokucacileyo. Oku kuya kuzisa ngokukhawuleza iziphumo ezibini. Okokuqala, yintoni ehamba ngexesha elichazwe ngokucacileyo, ngokukhawuleza lijika libe yisithethe kwaye ibe yinto evamile. Okwesibini, ngokukhawuleza kuyacaca ukuba umntwana ubona njani aba bantu-nokuba ngaba uphefumlelweyo ngaphambi kokudibana noyise wakhe wesibini okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uba buhlungu kwaye buhlungu.

Umama kufanele aziphathe njani?

1. Awukwazi ukumnyanzela umntwana ukuba abize iqabane likaMapapa lomama wakho. Nguye unina, uyindoda ethandekayo, ngenxa yomntwana ungumyeni kunye nomalume womfokazi.
2. Umlingani omtsha akufanele abe ngowona mbandela kwimicimbi yokukhuliswa kwezingane. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kubonakala ukuba umama uye waya kwicala "wolunye uhlanga", kwaye akukho phendulo, ngaphandle kobubi, akunakubangela.
3. Omnye akakwazi ukuthetha kakubi ngoyise we-boy of boy. Musa ukuthelekisa "owenene" kunye "nabapapa" abatsha. Naliphina impendulo engalunganga kubazali be-biological ingabangela ingxaki kumntwana. Ngexesha elide, uya kuqonda ukuba upapa akayena mntu uphila ubomi. Lo ngumntu ohlala ekhona-unceda, ukhusela, kuye onokucela kuye icebiso.

Kubudlelwane "nabantwana bokuthobela kunye nomama wesibini" kufuneka kusetshenziswe imigaqo efanayo, umama wesibini kuphela uba nguyise oyise, kwaye uyise womntwana uthatha indawo yomama. Kwimeko yokuqwalasela le mithetho elula, ukugcina ubudlelwane obuchukumisayo nobubele kwintsapho kuya kuba nolonwabo.