Ukukhulelwa kwangethuba: ukutshintsha indlela ubomi intombazana ekwishumi elivisayo?

Kutheni amantombazana ukhulelwe elivisayo zabo? Umama ukhetha ukuba ukuthetha ngalo mbandela ngesondo, ekholelwa ukuba intombi yakhe uneentloni ikude kakhulu ukusuka ngamadlelane makhwenkwe. Kodwa intsha ukwazi ukuze ongathandani akuyomfuneko ukuba ube yinxalenye esitalatweni okanye umntwana wakho kube nzima, ngubani yeziswa ngaphandle uthando lwabazali.

History of Dzhin Kroto

Xa intombazana eneminyaka eli-15 ubudala, sekunjalo umntwana, okokuqala ukuba neentlobano zesini, oko kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezihlabanayo. Ukuba kuphela wayengazi ngaphambili, yintoni le ukwazi. Ukuba nje ukuba umama, yena ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiyoyisile ihlazo, waya naye kunye nemibuzo. Kodwa Heroine yethu Dzhin Kroto wamvusa uninakhulu yonqulo abangcwele.

Ngoku, emva kweminyaka 23, yena uyazikhumbula unangoku mizwa loo mini kakubi-lombutho, xa efika uvavanyo lokukhulelwa ezandleni zakhe. Gene Ndandixha-, ndandisoyika ndididekile. Wayengazi ukuba oko kwakuza kuba ubomi bakhe ekukhanyeni iziganeko zakutshanje. Indlela ukuba asabele kule ndaba kagogo yakhe, yaye uya guy intsapho yakhe, waba njani na lowo nomakhwapheni? Akukho mntu wakha wanikela icebiso lakhe malunga lobuhlobo. Uninakhulu Umyalelo kuphela umnqweno ukuthintela naziphi na ukuqhagamshelana kunye namakhwenkwe. Ke yena ziphetshwe, kuba ngaphambi kokuba Heroine ulahlekile ebuntombini bakhe, akazange waze wamanga a guy.

"Le amile nobunzulu"

Umakhulu Jean wakhuliswa uthando, uthethe nje ngesini endlwini baba ndlela aluvumelekanga. Icebiso ukunqanda ukudibana guys ukususela kumaxesha ngamaxesha kuqhutywa Heroine sethu kwi "-dibanisa ezintlanu." Asinto nzima, xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo zithwele izifundo kunye nengqesho kwicandelo kwezemidlalo. ixesha lakhe lwalupayintiwe yile ngcaciso imfutshane, ukwenzela ngokunxibelelana amakhwenkwe, akazange acinge. Kuphela umfana lowo waqaphela, wayehlala ebumelwaneni. Ngokufuthi ekudityanwa wendlela eholweni emidlalo baza namabinzana ezincinane. Xa inkwenkwe ummelwane wakhe noqeqesho kunye ibhola eyadini, Jin wayedla wavela ngefestile, ukuba bajonge kuyo.

Indlela kwenzeka

Xa babendawonye lokubhiyozelwa Day Independence. Abantu ukuvumela imisebenzi and fun. Kwakubonakala ukuba yonke loo ndawo luthululelwe esitratweni. Le ntombazana ngokuqhelekileyo ngoyaba imicimbi enengxolo, kodwa wabona ukusuka window kummelwane wakhe. Yena wayengazi ukuba isisombululo ukubaleka esitratweni iya kuba kwabuguqula kuye. Elivisayo ukuba mnandi iholide ukuze iyure kamva, zonke iimpahla zabo baba emanzi evela xhopho. Xa wabaleka waya kwigumbi lokuhlambela bobabini ukufuna-sanitary, umakhulu akukho intliziyo yazika. Waye ke ukholose umzukulwana wakhe ukuba wavumela abantu abatsha ukuba ukutshixa ngokwabo kwigumbi uJean ukumamela umculo. Kakade ke, ingcamango akazange eze ukuba wabelane ngesondo nentombazana apha entloko. Umakhulu bengazi into ukuze ikwazi amakhwenkwe ikhokelwa ngu iihomoni. UJean wamangaliswa xa mfo ngesiquphe wamanga. Kodwa yena zizisulu uthando lwakhe lokuqala zobutsha, kutheni ukuziphindezela Man nokuzingisa.

Ucinga ukuba Ucinga amantombazana xa baphelelwe zobuntombi babo?

Into yokugqibela babecinga Heroine yethu, ukuba malunga nokukhulelwa. Yena waba wayekhathazeke kakhulu ubume ubudlelwane yavela njani esinzulu kuye lo mfana. Wayesele nalwazi kakhulu ukuba uqaphele utshintsho ezicacileyo emzimbeni wakho. Nam ke ukungabikho lamathuba sexesheni, kungekho kugula kusasa ukuba akukho bedidekile. umhlobo ngakumbi ulwazi kuqala bahlabe umkhosi. Wabuza imibuzo embalwa sathenga uvavanyo lokukhulelwa ekhaya. Iziphumo musa ukuba ulinde ixesha elide. Uvavanyo iyancumisa, yaye yonke ubukho Gene wajika phezu kwentloko yayo. Kwaba sele kwiveki ye-17 yokukhulelwa.

Intlanganiso noyise womntwana

Wayesoyika isimo sakhe esitsha, macala iinkolelo zabantu. Into yokuqala Jean waya ukuba intetho esizimiseleyo utata womntwana wakhe. Akazange alindele ukuba uza kuba iindaba bavuya, kodwa ngenxa yencoko nje uxinezeleke. Lo mfana uye wakwenza kwacaca ukuba angayazi inxalenye izicwangciso zakhe. Kwathi kanti, abazali babo mfo nakanye ukulahlekiswa, esithi akazange waba nale ubuhlobo ntombazana. Nkqu abazana zawo ezifanayo baqalisa kumacala ahlukeneyo ngothango :. "Ilizwi lakho nxamnye ilizwi lakhe" Abantu babengazi ukuze bonke bakholwe, kodwa Heroine yethu Wasala yedwa lokukhulelwa kwakhe.

Ihlabathi ayikho ngaphandle ngabantu abalungileyo

Ngethamsanqa, kufuphi ndahlala isibini atshate naye umntwana omncinci. Mama, yonke imihla ehamba phantsi ngesitrato kunye stroller, wayesandul 'ndaphumelela phezulu esikolweni. Ummelwane Bakhawuleza, wathabatha elowo Jin phantsi iphiko bakhe size sincede de nokuzalwa kosana.

Ngoku kukho ezimbini

uyise womntwana ebizwa Jin ngqo esibhedlele. Xa imvula amantombazana yamonga ithemba hambo. Noko ke, akazange alinde ukuba Siyavuyisana, kodwa endaweni weva myalelo binzana: "Andiyi ukwamkela umntwana. Ndiya kukhunga ukuba ukuxelela abahlobo bam ukuba mna utata. " Xa uJean wabajonga encinane ebusweni ukushwabana yentombazana usana, yena baziphalaza iinyembezi lusizi.

Abanye abahlobo bawushiyile phezu kwakhe

Yaba ngaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo, xa amatyala ukukhulelwa kolutsha kunye zokubeleka bezithathwa njengento lihlazo. Kuba amantombazana wazala engengowamazibulo, nababengalwamkelanga idiploma kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, indlela eya esikolweni yavalwa. Ngoko ke, ngokuba Jean ndabelwe nomqeqeshi zobuqu ukuqeqesha ekhaya, nangona phambi kokuba ukukhulelwa ubonisa iziphumo ezigqwesileyo kwizifundo zabo. Xa Heroine yethu wadibana umongikazi yesikolo, zonke kwacaca. Lo mfazi wathi ootitshala nabazali abafuni namanye amantombazana wathabatha umzekelo ombi kuye.

Ixabiso ubuhlobo kunye intlungu lokuphelisa

Ukuba akufanelekanga ukuba singabi ukuya esikolweni. Kodwa ke uyise kuzalwa yintombi bahlala a ngobomi. Wafunda kwezemidlalo njengangaphambili, aze ixesha aye kudibana namanye amantombazana. UJean waqalisa ukuphawula ukuba abanye abahlobo bakhe bakudala wayeka ukuphendula. Akukho namnye kubo zange batyelela usana. Fumanisa ukuba yintoni isizathu sokuba olu tshintsho ngesiquphe, umama oselula wabiza abahlobo. Yintoni abazali elivisayo basabela ngokucacile awufuni yokunxibelelana nabantwana babo kwintombazana engqiqweni engacikidekileyo enjalo. Yaye ekupheleni call nganye kunye isicelo soze ukuphazamisa le ntsapho ezifanelekileyo.

Kwaye kunjalo, kusekwangoko ebomini babo, Heroine wethu uye wafunda ukubaluleka ubuhlobo kunye intlungu lokuphelisa. Ngethamsanqa, kwakukho abantu abaxhasa naye. Abahlobo bokwenene wamvusa imali wanceda ukuthenga okubalulekileyo iintsana: bhedana, umatrasi, itafile kunye eziqhiyeni. Akumangalisi ukuba nangoku, engama-23 kamva, aba bantu nazo kuluhlu abahlobo bakhe kakhulu.

Ngabahambi zizele edelekileyo

Yethu Heroine lithi nesisu zahluma kuphela wesithathu ekhulelwe yokukhulelwa. Kodwa ke nangoku bakulumkele warhana emva komhlana wakhe, ngokukhumbula ukubukeka ze baze abantu abadlulayo, ezele edelekileyo. Nangona UJean engafuni kuvela esidlangalaleni, wayeziva ngathi unguGxothiwe ehlabathini 'ezichanekileyo'. Ngenye imini, ukuba ukhulelwe, Heroine wethu waya twisisile kwindlela buhlungu. izihlalo Empty babengekho, kodwa akukho namnye abakhweli ehleli kule ndlu, ejonge esiswini enkulu intombazana leyo akakulangazeleli ukunika indlela.

Ekugqibeleni bafumana umntu onemfesane wacela isihlalo. Xa umfazi omithiyo ezenziwayo kuloo ndawo, ngokugculelayo ngamaxhegokazi bazila: "Wenza ntoni na bafanelwe eli lungelo. Kuye ngeminyaka, kufuneka bafunde, ukungabi nabantwana. Hi ndlela leyi, ungazange bafundiswa ukuba basebenzise iikhondom? "Kodwa uJean ayikwazanga ukuba sithethe nto ezithethelela. Xa wahlala phantsi, wandula ke wajika waya kwi window, ukuze nanye kuloo abakhoyo abantu salon ayikwazanga ukubona iinyembezi zakhe.

nofefe kude

Yonke imihla Jean ndazibuza kutheni konke oku kwenzeke. Waphinda kwaye kwakhona evula ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye kudlulisa izilinganiso ezahlukeneyo. Wenze ngayo nomnqweno neqhayiya ukufumana imvume abanye abantu. Kangangethuba, unina amadodana bathembele uncedo loluntu, ukunika umntwana enkulisa baze baqhubeke nemfundo yabo. Wayesazi ukuba akuyi kuba lula ukwenza indawo elungileyo ukuze intombi yakhe.

Kodwa Jin wala ukuba nosizi wena gqolo wabasukela iinjongo ezincinane. Wasebenza ngokuzimisela kwaye ngenkuthalo. Ekugqibeleni wafumana indlela yokuphumelela. Lo mzekelo ingaveza 98 le pesenti koomama wazala elivisayo zabo. Ngelishwa, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukufumana amandla ukufumana imfundo ephakamileyo engama-30.