Kutheni babalekele umntwana? Izizathu ukuziphatha, izincomo abazali

Enye yeemfuno zabantu ezisisiseko - imfuneko yonxibelelwano kunye ingqalelo. Kufuneka ukuba banxibelelane umntu shy zibhekise iingxaki ezithile. Yintoni enye ngokwemvelo iba umba kuye. Kungelula ukuba ukucela uncedo, ukuseka abafowunelwa kunye nabantu abatsha, kusuke kuvakale i ukuqina esomeleleyo iintloni yokuba eluntwini. Kakhulu uneentloni zombini abadala kunye nabantwana. Age inkalo usana kwezinye iimeko iba uphawu izinzile.

Kutheni babalekele umntwana?

Kwezinye ixesha ukukhula kunye nophuhliso bonke abantwana baneentloni, nangona iqondo ngokubonakala kulo propati ukuba zahluke. Ngokomzekelo, amantombazana kungenzeka ukuba ube neentloni ngaphezu amakhwenkwe. Oku kungenxa isini kunye nemfundo iimpawu zazo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana basoyise ubudala "shy" kunye nohlobo uhlala okufanayo. Enkulisa ukoyika waphosa amehlo akhe ukuya abadala okanye ukucela nto ngokwam. Kwizikolo mathidala ukuba aphakamise isandla sakhe eklasini, lo oselula nabuganga ukudibana neentanga wesini esahlukileyo, ukoyika ukungaphumeleli. Abazali kunye nabahlobo kufuneka bazi ukuba kutheni umntwana uneentloni kakhulu, kwaye ukunceda njani kuye.

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Kwiinyanga 8 ubudala, iintsana uqala ukubona i "ukoyika labasemzini" oko kukuthi ngengqondo sigaba ekukhuleni gwe. Izihlobo nezalamane ukuba lowo iintsana phambi ngokuzolileyo ehamba ngezandla, badla sidimazekile. Musa Ungakhathazeki, kwaye i-alam - akukhona ukuba neentloni. Ngoko ke umntwana uyakhula, ndivakalelwa ukuzimela.

Ukususela ngonyaka ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu umntwana okholose obusondeleyo kunye eziqhelekileyo. Oonyana bolunye uhlanga kubangela ixhala neentloni. Umbuzo kutheni umntwana shy, ongakhathaliyo abazali wosana. Umama notata bamfundisa ukufunda aze amise ukuba zabo ezintsha, yenze ithemba chips ngobukho bakhe kunye nenkxaso.

Kwiminyaka emithathu okanye kamva, abaninzi abantwana baqala ukuya abancinane. Abanye nosana ngomoya ukukuqhela meko, omnye kancinane ekuqaleni ukutshintsha into ebomini babo. Kukho amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana abakukhathaleleyo isibonelelo ngenxa awohluke kwesimilo kunye nemfundo de contraindicated ngokupheleleyo. Kuba imeko entsha itakane oneentloni - ntshikilelo. Indlela ukucela uncedo, ukuvakalisa iimfuno zabo, ukuba kukho omnye utitshala (okanye ababini), kwaye ixesha elininzi abantwana?

A mixture lwakutshanje waya esikolweni? Nantso okokuqala uhlala edesikeni yakhe, ngoko uba elivisayo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. ukuzibamba ebonakala kakhulu kwaye ngabaza kwesi sigaba kubonisa ukuba umntwana ukubandezeleka. Kunzima ukuba awufuni kunye nomsebenzi, ukuze uqhelane namanye abantwana. Nzima ukuthi "hayi" okanye inyanzelise phezu kwakhe. Imfuneko ziziqhelanise izimvo zabanye abantu kunye nokuxhomekeka kwiimvavanyo zabo kunokuthintela uphuhliso ubuchule babo kunye ukufuna ukuba ubizo lobuqu.

imibuzo ekhathazayo

Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa umntwana uneentloni kakhulu malunga nokuba kuthetha ukungaqiniseki yakhe kunye noloyiko, njani abazali kunceda unyana okanye intombi yam boyise amava ezimbi ethintela umoya? Ngaba kufuneka ukuba azame "yakhiwe" itakane ukuba uneentloni ngemvelo? Le mibuzo bekusoloko abazali abachaphazelekayo. Impendulo kubo siyifumana iimpawu ngamnye umntwana: umlinganiswa, ubuntu, akhuliswe ngayo, indawo, umoya endlwini njalo-njalo. Ukunceda daze kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa abazali kufuneka siyiqonde into ezinkulu: ntle umntwana ubukhulu becala ixhomekeka kuzo.

"Ngokwabo ..."

Formation ithemba elingaphakathi kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Beneentloni, ziintloni inokuba ibonakalisa senhliziyo isegazini okanye egqitywe impembelelo kwekhaya uhlala apho umntu omncinane. abazali novalo liphupha unyana umsengi zokweyelisela, yaye umntwana oneentloni ekhula. Izizathu ezabangela ukuba neentloni ezicacileyo, njani kuwabutha kwiimvuthuluka ukuzimisela, ukuba abazali ziyoyika kwaye andazi ukuma indlela ngokwabo?

Control okanye ukuyekelela

abazali Ukulawula badla ukuguqulela eqinile ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nendlela ngegqudu kwimfundo. Umntwana singqongwe ingqalelo kunye nokhathalelo ukuba likhoboka, inyathelo yakhe yonke iyakhangelwa. abazali Neqhayiya yale hlobo kwaye utsaleleka kwi uvavanyo lwangaphandle. umntwana wabo ukuba abe, ihlabathi kangangoko bakhe engaphakathi abadala akanamdla. Kunokuba uvelwano - ukugxekwa kunye novavanyo. Kunokuba umdla wokwenene - ezibonisa inkqubela kunye nesakhono nabanye abantwana.

Le icala ulawulo nokuzifica ngokugqithiseleyo. Ukunqongophala imida ecacileyo kunye nokungabikho inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo - iimpawu zayo eziphambili. Isiphumo yolo "lemfundo" ifana kakhulu drill iziphumo ukusuka kulawulo esikhulu. Kid azibone buthathaka ingenamsebenzi, na okanye unengxaki ukuziva unetyala. abazali Ukulawula kunye nabantu abadala kunye nokuziphatha uhlobo ngumzali ukuba oluchaphazelekayo umbuzo kutheni umntwana shy, kodwa, ngelishwa, kunqabile ukuba bayaqonda ukuba Ityala ngokwazo.

"Kwaye apha ke, iimeko ..."

Kufuneka kwakhona kuqaqambisa impembelelo kwintsapho kakuhle. Mhlawumbi, kwindawo ezinxulumeneyo ezinjalo kukho ubundlobongela, okanye ngabazali ubunzima yokusela. Ezi iinketho ezininzi. Abantwana abavela kwezo ntsapho bakholelwa ukuba ihlabathi ayikho ekhuselekileyo, yaye musa bafanelwe ulwalamano oluhle. Iintloni intsapho yakhe yingozi ubomi babo kwaye yenza zinciphise shame. Kwakhona, ukuyilwa kobume onempilo "Mna" usengozini abo abantwana abathe baswelekelwa abazali babo okanye ababezahlule unina ekuseni kakhulu.

Ukuba umntwana wakho ongakuthandiyo ... Tips for abazali

Kufuneka sitshintshe indlela umntwana. Nceda usondele kunye nobuhlobo. Kufuneka ufunde ukusebenzisa kubuchule incoko zokuphulaphula esebenzayo kunye "I-ngxelo." Akukho mfuneko yokuba bancome umntwana ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu, kodwa mpumelelo ngokwenene, nokuba incinane kufuneka kukudumisa. Kuluncedo ukuphathisa ishishini uxanduva kwaye siyabulela ukuphunyezwa kwazo. Kufuneka sithethe ngentlonelo, kwanokuba omdala phambi kid. Awukwazi ilizwi lakho ukuba umntwana usithelekise nabanye abantwana. Ukuze uqinisekise ukuba ibalulekileyo ngokwaso, njengoko kunjalo, ngoko bakhe ukuzithemba iqalisa ukomeleza.

Ootata badla ngaphezu oomama bakhathazwa ukuba umntwana wabo ekhula ndineentloni. "Ndimele ndenze ntoni?" - abangazicelayo, ingakumbi xa sithetha ngalo mfana. oonyana Imbopheleleko kufuneka baqonde ukuba isibindi nokuzimisela akuyi kuvela kwi isicelo okanye omdala uya. Ukuze kwakhiwe iimpawu ezinjalo indalo, umntwana kufuneka inkxaso yabazali. Uyise kufuneka kusoloko ngakwicala usana lwakho, musa ukumthethisa ngenxa wabugwala, kwaye ukukhusela, ukuba abe inkxaso. Ke umntwana ngokuthe woyisa ukuba neentloni zabo elizayo uya kuba nesibindi nobuganga, ezifana Tata.

ubuntu umntu ngamnye yahlukile. Abantwana aziyeke. Abazali bayazenza iimpazamo, ukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla 'ukwenza' umntu omncinane. Akayi kuba kanye okulindeleke enye, ngokuba indlela yakhe. Abazali abalumkileyo musa ulazisa liphupha lwakukhula efanelekileyo, ukuba uyayiva abantwana babo yokwenene, bayazi iimfuno zabo kwaye beze kusinceda xa uyifuna. Bayazi ukuba kutheni umntwana uneentloni okanye ngokugqithiseleyo esebenzayo, njengokuba esabelayo kulo naluphi na iimpawu zayo. nokuba neentyantyambo ezithe bhenqe emoyeni ubuhlobo kunye nokuthembela, ngoko icebiso ephambili abadala - ibhekisela kubantwana nzulu nangentlonelo. Kwaye musa ukulibala ukuba ulonwabo kwabo kakuhle nokuba ezandleni zenu.