Indlela ukuqaphela abanale zomntwana?

Abanale - yaphula isantya isingqi yokuthetha, ezo zibangelwa ukuxhuzula. Uxhuzula kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo izixhobo intetho.

Izinto ezibangela izifo

Amaninzi, abanale, umntwana kuphuhlisa zizathu zilandelayo:

• uxinzeleko lweemvakalelo;
• izinto zofuzo;
• izilonda ingqondo uhlobo ezahlukeneyo;
• iimeko rhoqo uxinezeleko.

Indlela iimpawu?

Iimpawu abanale ilula. Umntwana unakho ngesiquphe kubuqhawula, ngokuqhelekileyo iiyure eziliqela, emva koko iqala ukuthetha kwakhona. Kukho ukusetyenziswa eyondeleleneyo izandi nesilima, ngokuqhelekileyo "yaye" yaye "kodwa". la amagama okuqala okanye amagama yonke ekuqaleni kweli binzana njalo. iingxaki ezahlukeneyo phambi kokuba yengxoxo nayo ezichaza abanale, umntwana kulo mzekelo ingaqala iinkqubo eziya ekugqibeleni abe iingxaki ezinzulu. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ngexesha ukubona oyingcali uncedo.

unyango

Okwangoku, kukho iindlela ezininzi ukukhusela okanye ukulungisa abanale, unyango kuxhomekeke ebukhulwini sifo yaye amisiweyo ugqirha ngamnye. Phambi kokuqala saveyi zihlahlelwe mathuba ezibalulekileyo ixesha siswini: uyise nonina kwesifo ngqo ngokwayo lokukhulelwa. Ingcaciso engaphezulu malunga eliqikelelwayo uphuhliso intetho usana lwakho; imbonakalo yokuqala izandi, amagama, amabinzana, isantya sokuthetha.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ilizwi bume mntwana (nokuba abadala abanawo, kungekhona isantya ngokukhawuleza kakhulu intetho yabo, njalo njalo). Enye into ebalulekileyo abanale umntwana akhuliswa yakhe entsatsheni. Kubalulekile ukunciphisa uboniso ngokugqithisileyo xinakulobye, bezifica ayilawulwa umntwana, okanye ngokuchasene noko, ukubetha, ukoyikisa, nokusingatha elibukhali. Abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emibini ukuya kwemine, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ukunyanga. Nokuxilonga abanale kusekwangoko kunzima, kodwa uncedo ngexesha ungagcina ngokupheleleyo umntwana sifo. A therapist oqeqeshiweyo aya kuphuhlisa indlela ngamnye umsebenzi kunye nomntwana, leyo ndibaphilise, ukunqanda okanye ulungise manghanghamela. Unyango ekhaya kwakhona yinxalenye ebalulekileyo kwisakhiwo lulonke.

Abanye amacebiso abazali

Abazali kufuneka athathe ingqalelo ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo:

• Ungathetha nomntwana wakho ngokucothayo yaye ngokucacileyo ngokwaneleyo, izinga intetho kufuneka sibe ngcathu;
• ucele ithuba lo mntwana ukukhuthaza ibone ngomlinganiso, kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ngaphandle kokubhenela kugonyamelo ngokomzimba;
• akukho mfuneko ukubandakanya abanale umntwana xa imidlalo ezinokufuna intsebenzo intetho ngamnye. Nantsi umdlalo apho kukho iimpendulo eziculwayo, bengqungqa kunye neminye imisebenzi iqela uza kuzuza umntwana wakho;
• umculo nomngqungqo igalelo kuphuhliso lwe umoya intetho, ngoko bunyamezele ukusuka abanale, yokuba isincomo sazo ebantwaneni.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba abanale umntwana ukhula ukususela ebutsheni, yaye esi sifo inkqubela ngokukhawuleza ngokwaneleyo. Zama ukubona umntwana ngokusondeleyo. Abanale ibanjiwe kwi zigaba yokuqala, kulula ukunyanga.