Indlela ukuba balahle isizungu: tips and tricks

Ngaphambi kokuba siphendule lo mbuzo njani ukuba balahle nesithukuthezi, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni na - ulangazelela. Ntonye lo gama lusizi, intlungu, usizi, ukudandatheka. Enyanisweni kunzima ukuba isimo sengqondo, nto leyo mhlawumbi eziqhelekileyo kumntu wonke.

iimpawu zokudakumba

Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ukudakumba iye yaba sisifo othandwayo, ngokufuthi ziqondeka bonke enikiweyo, into kunqandwa, kwaye umbonisa zonke iintlobo iipilisi. Xa imo lithemba umntu odakumbileyo, oko ityelelwa iingcamango udakumbile, unako 'cheat' ukuba ukuzibulala, njalo-njalo. Izizathu ziinkumbulo ndilangazelela ngayo iintsilelo ilahleko enkulu omthandayo, ukunganeliseki kunye nemozulu.

Indlela ukuba bahlukane isithukuthezi nokudimazeka, ngenxa yokuba imeko elide efana kunokukhokelela nemiphumo eyingozi? Abantu kule meko, hayi kuphela zonakalise ubomi ngokwabo nabanye, kodwa phantsi impilo yabo engozini.

Imiphumo lusizi kwaye ukudangala

Ukususela ukunganeliseki rhoqo kunye naye kunye nabantu jikelele umntu aqale iingxaki kunye iphecana zesisu, ukusuka usizi kusithuthumbisa na umphefumlo lifumana kuvela iingxaki intliziyo, ukususela iingcinga enzima - ugwayi. Abantu abaninzi bayoyika ukuya phambili, ukukhula, yaye ubunzima kunye nenkqubo musculoskeletal. Uloyiko ubomi ityhala abanye ukusebenzisa ingqondo enxilisayo iziyobisi ezidakumbisayo okanye utywala.

Zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni intliziyo ebuhlungu, ukuba leyo ikhokelela nendlela yokuzifumana isithukuthezi kunye lusizi.

Isimanga, kodwa ufuna umntu ukubandezeleka intlungu umntu amava, kwaye okwahlukileyo, ngendlela eyakhayo. Ukuba umntu siyahlukana umntu olangazelela okanye lusiva intlungu, ndibona sikweni, kuthiwa ukuba akazange kodwa walahlekelwa, akazange yonakele ngokupheleleyo kwaye yindoda.

Isimo Own impilo

Ukuze uqonde, yintoni umntu uthe, kufuneka ukhumbule ngenyameko ubomi bakhe mandulo ukuzama ukufumanisa unobangela ebuhlungu, kuba ufana nje, ukuba akukho sizathu, oko asivelanga. Guqula omnye umntu, thina asikwazi, kodwa ukutshintsha - oko kusemandleni ethu. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantu wadandatheka ngenxa yokuba bahlala kwezinye kwihlabathi leengcinga, musa ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo, kwaye xa inyaniso utyhila ubuso lokwenyaniso abantu abanjalo baqala balangazelele, ukuba kukhubeka kuzo zonke awe ekudakumbeni yaye ithemba.

Uyondelelwano lwee- imikhosi kubalulekile ukujonga imeko abo obomi onyanzelisa umntu ukuba uzive iintlungu na ukuphendula umbuzo indlela balahle nesithukuthezi. Kodwa endaweni yoko, omnye bakwazi ukuphila. Kwaye kufuneka silumke kwaye athathe onke esenza ubomi, kungekhona ukuze neemfuno zabo kwiziko.

Njani na umntwana omdala

Ukususela ekuzalweni, umntwana ukhumbula abazali intshukumo isibakala sokuba "ezilungileyo" "nokubi." Ukuba abazali nabanye abantu abadala iinkathazo zonke zobomi olungqonge umntwana uya waqonda njenge ntlekele, kusenokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba, njengomntu omdala, uya kuvelisa ncam indlela efanayo ebomini.

Ukuba umntwana akafuni nje, uhlala bagxeka, aphathwe kakubi, ngoko ke uya kuba basabela ngoyaba ngokohlobo ukudimazeka lusizi, leyo eqondisa ngokwayo. Kodwa umntu kuhlala ngolu hlobo, ngoko lithemba, intlungu nokudandatheka luvuliwe ngokuzenzekelayo lonke ixesha emva yeengxaki. Bonke ubomi ophelileyo ukuba uyiqwebe matshini. Cinga imizekelo oko kuba xi nendlela ukuba balahle nesithukuthezi.

1. Ukudakumba ivela xa sisiva amabinzana: "Yonk 'into embi", "Ubomi - into enzima," "Bonke nzima", "Aninako ukulawula" njalo-njalo.
2. Xa sikhumbula iziganeko ebuhlungu kwangaphambili: kukufelwa ngumntu omthandayo, ukungcola, amabali ezimbi, deuce esikolweni njalo-njalo.
3. Iinkumbulo izalamane ukungathandi, umzekelo, amabinzana: "Wena unguye osisiyatha," "Wena amafutha", "emabi", njalo njalo.
4. Ubuhlungu lithemba eveliswe ukuziphatha ukusoloko abadala baqhele ukuba kugcuma singobani na ubunzima, ukubalisa amabali lakheke kunye nesiphelo ungonwabi, ukuphulaphula iingoma ebuhlungu, ukudlala iimovie ezibuhlungu.

Ngokwendalo, isenzo malunga uya kungekudala abantu abavela ukuxinezeleka "elingakhuliyo", ingxaki ngokwayo.

Indlela ukuba balahle ukulangazelela esimthandayo

Le ngxaki zinzima. Ukuba umntu omthandayo uye wasweleka, simele siqonde ukuba oku kukuthanda kukaThixo yaye akukho bani owaziyo de kube sekupheleni nesizathu sokwenzeka koko kwenzekayo. Intlungu osithelisayo, intlungu engqondweni, ezo mvakalelo ukuba omnye amava xa sijamelene nokufa - kuhle ukuba imo umphefumlo ngubani na ofumana.

Abantu abaninzi, ingakumbi abasetyhini, kweyela ukudakumba elide emva kokuba yokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Baphila intlungu yakhe kuphela, nto ngeenxa singaboni, yaye ngaloo ndlela ziqhutywa zibe nasezirhangeni imfama ngokwayo. Abantu ungathanda ukuyeka ngokuzithandela ubomi babo, wanamathela kwinqanaba elifanayo. Abanalo uvuyo nolonwabo ukuba ndinentlungu kuphela.

Le meko ifana imeko abantu trauma ngokwasengqondweni osezingqondweni, kodwa, ngokwahlukileyo ukuba izigulane, abantu abanjalo olo ngokuzithandela kwabo ukuya kwimo oxhomekeke. Baqhele ukuhlala kwimeko enjalo, abantu ngokuthe ngcembe va imfuneko yoko, ukufumana sinawo kubo intliziyo ebuhlungu kuba Indawo elikhusi. Phantsi benze ntlekele ukuba ezimvuleni ubomi benene, abafuni ukusombulula le ngxaki njengokuba yabo, abantu esibathandayo.

ukunambitheka uvuyo

Indlela lokuyigxotha le isizungu indoda nokuba bafa okanye sikhatywe uthando lwethu kuye?

Kufuneka ufumane ukungcamla le uvuyo nolonwabo, sele ulibele umntu. Zama ukujonga kwibha abamnyama ukuba lonke uvuyo webutho eqaqambileyo, xa ilizwi, ukuba ufunde ukunandipha ubomi kwakhona. Enyanisweni, akukho mntu unesifo ubomi bakhe bonke, abantu nje aba Ukuziva udakumbile, silibale ngayo imo yolonwabo, uvuyo, bathi akukho nto ngakumbi ebomini Akukho mfuneko, njalo-njalo, kodwa ke ukuba uthe wamfuna ngaphakathi ngokwabo, yazi ukuba abantu eyenzelwe ubomi, apho kukho intlungu kunye novuyo.

Nayiphi na intlungu lusenza, umntu ubulumko nolwazelelelo, ukuba waba buhlungu ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, ukufunda ukususela koku, ulinganisa izizathu zokuba ke apho kwavumbuluka udushe, kwaye azame ukuba singaphindi ngaphezulu kule.

Nokuba ukuya nabakhafuli

Ingakumbi ebuhlungu luncedo uthando, kuba ufundisa abantu ukuba bathande. Abaninzi abazi ukuba ayibulale njani isizungu kwi yangaphambili omthandayo okanye umyeni (umfazi), yaye baye babhenela kwizenzo akalutho, ukuya babizwa ngokuba ehamba, amagqwirha, kunye nezinye oosiyazi. Ngoncedo iimpembelelo zangaphandle okanye "mabophe" bafuna amandla ukubatsalela ngokwayo umntu nabo bangathanda ukuya ebomini.

Kunokuba ukunyamezela of ngokwanelisayo ukwimeko enjalo, ukuba zonakalise ubomi nje kuphela abo bagatya kubo, kodwa kuqala zonke ngokwabo. Ezinye nje iyelenqe. Lahla aphelele wabathanda babezimisele kangangokuba na into engenakubalwa. Kodwa Kwiimeko ezinjalo ukuba undikhohlisile, yaye wonke ubani enako ukukhanyisa nxamnye nabo.

Isiphetho. Ubomi esifubeni ngokupheleleyo

Kule meko enye - funda ukujonga ubomi ngokusengqiqweni kwaye musa ukulibala ukuba, ukongeza amahlwempu, kukho abathile ezintle kulo. Nawuphi na intlungu, usizi, ukulahlwa, uthando njalo njalo kwenza umntu ngokomelela, ngaphandle kokuba ngesidima ukumelana nayo.

abanengxaki iintlungu, ulwalamano buhlungu, umntu uqalisa siqonde oko anako ebomini. Ekugqibeleni, yena uqala ukubona kwaye qaphela abanye abantu ehlabathini, sivuya yaye lube ubulumko umdla ngakumbi.

Umntu ngamnye kuya kufuneka ukuba bahlupheka kakhulu ebomini, ukuba buhlungu, uthando, uvuyo nolonwabo, usizi nokwahlukana. Impazamo ngubani abaninzi odakumbileyo ukuba sime, ngokungathi emkhenkceni ekhubazekile ubomi. Kodwa ke ubomi - intshukumo, ngoko ke kufuneka uqhubeke ukuze aphile.

Kulungile ukuba isando intloko yam ndicinga ukuba ukuphila ngendlela usizi nentlungu yokulahlekelwa, kodwa eneneni sisinde kule meko siqhubekele phambili. Ubomi ezininzi, kwaye uzive ngayo ukuya ekupheleni kwaye kuwusebenzisa ngokupheleleyo awukwazi ukuba nisuka ningabamkeli into ekunika zona.