Iimpawu zengqondo zabaselula

Ubomi bomntu wonke, mhlawumbi umntwana, umzuzwana ufika xa eqala ukuqonda ukuba ihlabathi likhulu kakhulu kuneengcamango zakhe, ukubuka kwakhe umhlaba kuqala ukutshintsha, umntwana uyeka ukuzibeka njengomntwana, kodwa akakwazi ukuzijonga njengomntu omdala. Eli gama libizwa ngokuba lixesha lesigxina, okanye i-age-pubertal age, xa umzimba womntwana uqala utshintsho olubukhali kwisakhiwo somzimba nokuphuhliswa kwengqondo. I-Physiologists ihlala idibanisa amaninzi amaninzi ngeli xesha nge-"bhulophu ye-hormone" ebukhali, ebonisa ukuziphatha komntwana. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zeengqondo zinika izizathu zazo, ngenxa yokuba iziganeko zengqondo zentsha zikhula.

Ngeli thuba umntwana unomntu obizwa ngokuba ngumntu omdala, uqala ukuqonda ukuba khona kwakhe "I", iimpawu zakhe kunye nokuzama ukwenza iindlela ezintsha zokuziphatha, ukulinganisa izithixo ezikhulile. Ubuncinane bokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yabantwana abaselula banokuthi, ukuba ulwazi lwabo lushintsha kunye nomnqweno wokufumana imeko yabo yentlalo kuluntu kubangela ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuzenza izigqibo zakhe, athathe inxaxheba ebomini bentsapho kwiimeko zomntu omdala woluntu. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukuziphatha okuphikisanayo komntwana kubangela ukubonakala kweempawu zobuntu njengenjongo kwaye, ngelo xesha, ukungabikho kwamanyathelo, ukunyanzeliswa nokunganakwa, ukuphakanyiswa kunye nokuzihlukanisa, okuye kuthathe indawo endaweni enye ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Oku kudla ngokukhokelela abantu abadala ukuba badideke. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abazali nabafundisi babhekisela ngokungalunganga kwiindawo zomntu omdala, kungekhona umntu olinganayo, obangela kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi komntu omdala kunye nentsha.

Ngokuqhelekileyo kubhelwa ukuba ubuntwaneni bubugwenxa kwaye bungahambelani, ukuba abantwana abaselula bayadingeka ukuba baxelelwe kwaye baxelele ukuba benze njani kwaye benze ntoni. Nangona kunjalo, oku kungalunganga, kwaye akaqwalaselanga iimpawu zengqondo zabantwana abaselula, ukuba umntwana uthatha inyathelo ekuzibekeni iinjongo zakhe kwaye uzama ukufikelela kubo, musa ukumgxeka, ngaba ngumculo, udaniso, imidlalo okanye nayiphi na into. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ekungcoliseni imisebenzi yesikolo intsha inqwenela ukwenza oko bayithandayo, abazali nabafundisi basabela ngendlela engafanelekanga, bezama ukuyivuselela kwakhona, becinga ukuba kuyimfuneko kuye. Abantu abadala banxibelelana nabantwana abaselula, bengabandakanyeki iimpawu zengqondo zabantwana abaselula, ezikhokelela ekubunjweni komntu obizwa ngokuba ngumntwana onzima, kunye nabo bazama ukulwa nawo. Iimpawu zengqondo zengxaki ezisemngeni ezikhulayo ziyahlukahlukana nokubunjwa okungalunganga kwabasemagunyeni, kwaye ngenxa yoko iinjongo kunye nesimo sengqondo. Baqala ukufumana izinto ezibizwa ngokuba yimibutho yabantu abadala, abonakaliswe ngokutshaya, ukusela utywala, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye nokusetyenziswa kwesigama esingenasigxina. Ngaloo ndlela, bazama ukuzibhokoxa phakathi koontanga abadala. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo bashiya ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kwintsapho, bavaliwe, kamva emva kokuphila kwabantu abadala kubonakaliswa ukungakwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obaneleyo ngokwesini esahlukileyo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane beentsapho.

Iingcali zengqondo zikhuthaza abantu abadala ukuba banakekele ngakumbi abantwana babo abaselula, ukuba baqwalasele iimpawu zengqondo zabantwana abaselula, kokubili ekhaya nakwiqela lentlalontle. Oku kusebenza kubafundisi besikolo, izalamane nabanye abantu abadala abakhonza kumaqela esikolweni.

Kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa izizathu ezifanelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abaselula, ukuzincedisa ekusekeni iinjongo zobomi nokuzimisela "mna" njengomntu ngamnye onokukwazi ukwenza izinto ezinokuzikhethela kunye nempumelelo emitsha.