Ibakala eliphambili ekubunjweni komntu njengomntu ngamnye, okanye Yintoni ekhulayo

Xa uthetha ulwimi olusomileyo lwesayensi, unokukwazi ukuphendula ngokulula umbuzo wento ebutsha. Lo ngumda phakathi kobuntwana kunye nokudala. Kodwa ebomini, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukubeka umgca ocacileyo kwindawo apho ixesha leedodoli kunye noomatshini liphela kwaye umntu ozimeleyo uhlala ubomi. Mhlawumbi, kuba umama kunye nobaba lo mdala akaze afike.

Ungamkhulula njani umntwana?

Imikhwa kunye neendlela zokukhuliselwa zifana nokuba kuthathwa njengesiqhelo ukuba umntwana uhlala kwintsapho nangona efunda kwiziko, nangona emashumi ambalwa eminyaka edlulileyo abatsha bathunyelwa kumaziko emfundo ngobantwana, abaneminyaka eli-11 ukuya ku-12. KwiRashiya yaseRashiya, igama elithi "inkwenkwana" lazalwa, elibhekiselele kakhulu kubafana abashiya intsapho yabo njengabantwana abahlukeneyo, abafundisi, abahloniphekileyo.

Kodwa oonyana abathandekayo kunye neentombi zabazali babo banomdla wokubonakalisa ukuzimela kwabo, ukuzimela, babonise ngokucacileyo konke ukuziphatha kwabo, kuthini ukukhula. Ubunzima bexesha lokutshintshana liyimfuneko ekufuneka iphile kwaye iyanqotshwa ngumntu ngamnye. Kule minyaka, utshintsho lwekhadikhalenda lwenzeka kwingqondo, kwi-physiology. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kwindoda yindoda kunzima kakhulu ukuziqonda nokuqonda yonke le nguqulelo.

Ngaphantsi kweliphi ixesha lobudala liwela ixesha lokukhula?

Yintoni ebunzima ukuba abantu baqalise ukuqonda. Kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini anesihlanu, kuyinto yesiko ukuba "intombazana" okanye kwindlela yaseNtshona - "intsha." Ukuguqulelwa kwisiNgesi ngokusemthethweni kungabonwa njengeminyaka yobudala ukusuka kwiminyaka eyi-13 ukuya kwe-19 ( intsha -yobudala bomntu kwesi sikhokelo, iminyaka yobudala). Eli gama liqhelekile kwaye lisetyenziswe ngokubanzi kwiincwadi zenzululwazi kunye nobomi. Uyazibonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo ebusheni, ubuncinane obukuyo. Kodwa ngelo xesha, izazi zengqondo zeNtshona ziye zafuduka ekuhlaleni okucacileyo kunye nokulungelelaniswa kwabo bonke abantwana ngaphantsi kwekhefu elinye. Ixesha emva kobuntwana umntu angakwazi ukuqala kwiminyaka eyi-11 aze aphele ngo-19, kwaye umntu uya kuqala ukukhula kufuphi neminyaka eyi-13-14, ngeli xesha ixesha lokutshintsha ngokwalo lingahlali ixesha elingaphezulu kwe-15-16 leminyaka. Yonke into iyodwa. Ukongezelela, kumantombazana, le nkqubo ihamba phambili kwaye ilula ngakumbi kunamakhwenkwe.

Ubunzima bexesha leTshintsho

I-psyche yeentombazana izinzile, abayithandabuzekiyo ngokunyaniseka, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokunxibelelana nomama, ocinga ngokunyanisekileyo kwiingxaki kunye namava. Abafana baqala ukuva utshintsho emzimbeni, qaphela ukuba baya kuba ngabantu abadala, kodwa ukuxhomekeka kwintando yeentsapho kuxinzezela kwaye kudideke. Konke oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni yedwa, inkohlakalo, iingxabano ekhaya, nasezikolweni, esitalatweni.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, iingxaki zengxabano zicacisa ukuba yintoni intsholongwane, zichonge zonke iingxaki zayo, ukungapheleli ekukhuliseni, kwiinkomfa, kunye nenqanaba lokuzinza kwengqondo yengqondo yomntwana. Ukuphepha iingxaki kwintsapho, bambalwa abantu abaphumelela ngeli xesha. Kunzima kubazali ukuba baqonde ukuba umntwana wabo ozithandayo unqabe ukuba ngumntwana, kufuneka afunde ukuphulaphula, ukunciphisa izinga lokulawula kwaye ngokukhawuleza ahambe. Inxaxheba yomphathi opheleleyo kunye nolawulo oluyimpembelelo yiyo mpazamo eya kubakhokelela ekuxabaneni nokungaqondani phakathi kwabantu abasondeleyo.

Impawu zokunxibelelana kwabaselula kunye noontanga, ootitshala, abazali

Ukwahlukana kobutsha ukusuka ebuntwaneni ngaphandle kwentsapho kunye nesikolo, phakathi koontanga, abahlobo kunye neentshaba nazo zilandelwa ngokucacileyo. Le yile minyaka yokubunjwa kobuntu kunye ne-maximalism, ehambelana nokucinga kunye nokugqithisa ekucingeni. Ukuba abantwana baqonda yonke into efanelekileyo ngokwaneleyo, ngoko ebusheni , iinzame zokuqala nezakhono zokwenza izigqibo ezicacileyo ziqala. Abaselula bazama ukunqoba indawo phantsi kwelanga, amanyathelo okuqala okudibanisa isimo sabo kuluntu, umzabalazo wenkokheli, igunya.

Itshintsha ngokufika kwintsholongwane kunye nokubukeka esikolweni, ootitshala. Ukuba kwangaphambili uthisha kunye namazwi akhe aphendulwanga, ngoku ukuchasana, ukukhusela uluvo lomntu siqu luqala.

Ngethuba lokukhula, abazali kufuneka banikele ingqalelo kakhulu kumntwana, bangafunda kuphela ukumphulaphula, kodwa nokuphulaphula, ukubonisana. Iintsikelelo kwiimbono zentsholongwane zingakhokelela kwimiphumo engafanelekiyo, eya kuchaphazela ubomi obuzayo bomntwana ngokwakhe kunye nosapho lwakhe.