4 nemikhwa kunokulonakalisa incoko

Kutheni akazange ukubiza umva? Kutheni na yena Ndayishwabanisa iziqhulo zam? Kutheni na ukuba ungasafuni ukudibana kwaye abe ngxoxo? Ngaba ukhe uzive ukuba wenze into embi kwaye ngaloo ndlela bonakalise incoko (okanye, mbi, ubuhlobo)?

Ukuba siphila kwihlabathi ogqibeleleyo, nathi nokuvavanya ubuchule zethu zonxibelelwano ngoncedo izixhobo ezizodwa ufumane uhlalutyo eneenkcukacha. Singenza afunde iinkcukacha ngazo zonke amandla ethu kunye nobuthathaka, malunga imikhwa okulungileyo nokubi, nkqu isimbo incoko yethu.

Ngethamsanqa, unalo umhlobo olungileyo ngubani na onokumxelela njalo into ephosakeleyo indlela nimthethayo. Owu, awuna le nto? Musa ukuxhala ukuba asinguwe wedwa. Ukuba senza iimpazamo ekuthetheni, inkoliso yethu ayisoze baya kwazi ngayo. Abantu nje isigqibo ayeke ukunxibelelana nathi. Kwaye nalo abangakwaziyo ukwenza nantoni na.

Mhlawumbi awufuni ukuba umhlobo okanye izixhobo ezizodwa ezichaza iimpazamo zakho, kodwa ungafuna ukuqwalasela iingxaki zixhaphakileyo ngethuba lokufowuna. Emva kokuhlalutya wena, unokuqiniseka ukuba uya ukubuchasa incoko yakho kunye nobudlelwane.

Makhe sihlolisise kwi imikhwa ezine eziphambili okubi kwincoko.

1. Ingaba sisikhwenene?

Ngaba ucinga ukuba rhoqo perefraziruete okanye ukuphinda into ndatshoyo kuni ukuthi omnye umntu? Ukuba uthi "Awesome" uthi, "Ewe, kwaba movie cool ngokwenene?" "Izikhwenene" ngathi ukuba ukuthetha, kodwa, enyanisweni, musa ukwenza nayiphi na umgudu ukuze oku. Engu ngakumbi ngathi msindo, xa kuphindwa ngenxa enye.

Loko u swi xiya leswaku rhoqo ephindaphindayo umntu, zama ukongeza imigca zabo kakhulu uluvo sobuqu kunye nezimvo substantive.

2. Wena i vampire yamandla?

Ungabona amabali umdla kwaye baveze izimvo zabo, kodwa ukuba uye walondoloza yonke le mvakalelo, abantu bafikelela kwisigqibo ukuba nzima kakhulu ukuba ukuphulaphula. Ukunqongophala iimvakalelo kunye namandla ngexesha lencoko kunokulonakalisa le ncoko ngokukhawuleza ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye mkhwa ombi. usidla ukuba uyaphila, namacala kufuneka wananisa amandla ngexesha elifanayo. Ukuba ngaba iyeza amandla, ngoko mhlawumbi, wena ukufunxa nje.

Cinga ngento ilizwi lakho - ukuba loo osisa abaphulaphuli iyaguquguquka. Enoba idala lokuqhuba caba kukruqula? Zama ukwenza iyaguquguquka yakho mqengqeleki entle ukuba abaphulaphuli ethile. Guqula isantya, yongeza indlela yokubiza amagama, ukutshintsha nemvakalozwi uze ukrwele umgca amagama aphambili.

Yaye ukongezelela, ubhale ilizwi lakho kwi tape. Enyanisweni, ukufunda eli candelo yelizwi lakho eqhelekileyo Ukumamela urekhodisho. Ukuba zange uye ukwenzile oko ngaphambili, uya kumangaliswa.

3. unobalisa azinakuqasheleka?

umbalisi nkomoni uhlala kwihlabathi esinzulu kunye nje. Ukuba umntu onjalo uya ukuya ekhitshini, kwaye andimbuzanga apho aya khona, yena usoloko uthi: "Xa ekhitshini." Yonke into wathi kubantu abanjalo, oko enokuxelwa kwangaphambili, abakwazi ukuba into sekufika. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, unobalisa playful unako ukuphendula umbuzo ke akucingeleki, kwaye ndingazi ukuba ulindele kuye. Kwaye kufuneka incoko: ukudlala iyingozi.

Soloko uqeqeshe ingqondo yakho ukuba abe nako ngexesha ukuza impendulo engalindelekanga. Ixesha umntu elilandelayo ekubuza umbuzo okanye izimvo ethile, cinga impendulo, waphethukela ukudlala kwaye iyingozi (ngesizathu). Emva koko sebenzisa elinye ceba izimvo zakho uze ubone ukuba kuyakwenzeka ntoni na. Uya kumangaliswa.

4. Ingaba indoda narcissistic?

abantu Narcissistic uthando kakhulu ukuthetha ngaye. Isizathu kuphela sokuba bangacela omnye umntu indlela wachitha veki, ukujika incoko kuye. Kungenzeka ukuba ukuthetha into efana: "Kuhle ... kodwa anisayi kukholwa into eyenzeka kum." Unxibelelwano kunye nomntu onjalo akunakwenzeka ukuba kusonwabisa. Daffodils akuvamanga unomdla kwimicimbi omnye umntu akanamdla ngokupheleleyo okanye ubuze imibuzo engaphezulu. Eyona njongo iphambili kwabakwaNarkiso kuyo nayiphi na ingxoxo - ukuba zibonakalise wonke ukuba kubhetele kakhulu ngaphezu kwabanye.

Akukho lula ukulungisa, ukuba unomdla wokwenene kwimicimbi komnye umntu. Ukuba umntu ekuxelela ngawe, unikele ingqalelo kuloo mntu, cela elitsolo ekujongeni imibuzo kwaye enze amagqabaza ezibonisa umntu ukuba umamele ngenyameko.