Uthando Ubuhlobo Bomfazi

Ukuqhagamshelana phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi kubanjwa kwiinqanaba eziliqela. Iyokuqala iyakhangelwa, isibini isithandweni, isithathu isithandwa kunye nesine ngothando. Iyokugqibela, yesine, kwaye yedwa kuphela enokwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano olomeleleyo phakathi kwabo. Ukuthetha ngothando kuseloko kunzima kakhulu, kuba kuyinto ekhethekileyo, inxalenye yokomoya yokwenza, ukukhokela nokunika amandla okugcina ubudlelwane obunjalo.
Uthando luya kudlula xa lukhulile, ekugqibeleni, luthando, kwaye aluyithandi, ukuba lubekwe entliziyweni. Ipropati yesithando ilahlekisa ngokuphathelele uthando. Kodwa, ukuba oko kwenzeka, kuya kuba nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kwaye ekugqibeleni baya kugqiba. Izigaba zokuqala ezintathu zigaba zokungagcini, okanye, ndiza kuthi, ukuvuthwa ngokukhawuleza, ukuphakanyiswa kwintliziyo. Andiyi kunika inkcazelo yothando apha, kuba ndicinga ukuba kunzima ukusho ngamagama ambalwa, kodwa ndicinga ukuba iSt Anup. UPawulos kwiyokuQala kwabaseKorinte / isahluko 13. Ngomdla, uthando nokuzilibazisa, ndiya kuhlala kule nkcukacha.
Ngoko, konke kuqala ngothando - urhulumente apho imvelaphi ye-hormonal enamandla ivuselela kumntu, ihambelane nomxholo (uvelise umva kwaye ube khona). Ngaphezu koko, kwilizwe lakhe langaphandle, omnye okanye lowo ohambelana nehlabathi lakhe langaphakathi ngexesha lokuphuhliswa lifika kuye, okanye kunoko, umntu udala umfanekiso wesiganeko esizayo. Ukukhathazeka akunakunceda kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kuthwala ngokwayo umxholo ochazwe nge-languor, ukulindela kunye nokububula.
Xa umntu ebonakala eyinyani, indoda ethwele amandla akhe aqokelelweyo, xa kuthelekiswa nomnqweno onokuba ngumnqweno, ngoko ke umnqweno uya kuba uthando. Eli rhulumente lingafaniswa nenkqubo ethile yokufunda. Kukhona ukuvulwa kweemfihlelo zobudlelwane phakathi komnye nomnye, ekwakhiwe kwithemba, zikhona iimfuno kunye nethembiso, izifiso kunye neenjongo ezibhekiswe kuzo zombini. Kukho umnqweno okhulayo weintlanganiso, uthintela, umnqweno wokwenza into enomdla, ukunyamekela nokuzisa uvuyo. Oku kunokubizwa ngokuba yiholide yangempela yeebini. Ihlabathi liphakathi kwezithandane.
Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, kwaye oku kuya kwenzeka, ngoko unxibelelwano, ukususela ngoku kuwe-ndawonye, sele uhlala nomnye nomnye, uxhomekeke kumandla okomoya nangokwesondo, uhlobo "lwepetroli" oluya kulondla nokuqinisa Ixesha lakho lokuphuhliswa kwengqondo, elihlala likhona kwinkqubo yokuzichazela komnye umntu. Eli xesha lifutshane kakhulu, njengentwasahlobo kwindalo, ngelanga, kwaye ngokukhawuleza isigaba esitsha siza, lo "luqhelekileyo" uthando lomntu. Emva kweminyaka emithathu okanye emine yokuwa emthandweni, ukungafani kakuhle, ukuziphatha okuhlukileyo kukuza kuwe. Iguqulwa ukusuka kwimeko yangaphambili, kodwa ngezinye iinkcukacha, ngelanga, ayiyivuthwa kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, uya kuba nomfudumalo kunye nentlonelo yakho yexesha elidlulileyo, kunye nobukrakra obubi kakhulu kwizinto oye wazibona kwaye ulahlekelwe.
Ngamanye amaxesha, le nkqubo ifumana isivinini kunye namandla ngokukhawuleza, njengendlela yokusabela kwentshakliya eye yabalekela ukulawula. Umkhwa wokuba kunye uba buhlungu, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu.
Yilapho iqala ukuthanda-umnqweno wokufezekisa, ukulawula, ukunyanzelisa nokuphantsi. Uthando olubuyiselwayo nayiphi na indleko. Umnqweno wokutshintsha imeko ngokubhekiselele kwinqanaba, ngezinyembezi, ngezinyembezi, ukukrakra, ukuhlambalaza, ukufaka izibango kunye nokumangalelwa, ngoko ke ngokungabikho, ngobuqhetseba, nobunzima. Ukunyamekela kunakho konke. Ubume benkanuko bunamacandelo amaninzi, apha kunye ne-physiology, kodwa kusekho okufihlakeleyo kuyo imfihlelo yokomoya, ebandakanya icebo lokungafani phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kwiimeko zabo. Ngomnqweno, ukucinga okunqwenelekayo kunikwa, kuba akukho mandla, ukulinganisa imeko ngokwalo, ukujongana nesityholo somnye kuzo zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki eziqhelekileyo, ngokungaqhelekanga, ngaloo ndlela, umgangatho ofanelekileyo wokuzilinganisa.
Ngoku kuyacaca ukuba ixesha lifikile ukushiya, imeko ayikho yolwalamano lwentsapho, kodwa ngokusemgangathweni ukwenyuka kokukhula komphefumlo, ngeempazamo kunye neinyembezi. Bathi okuthandana nothando ukuzonda, isinyathelo esinye, kodwa akunjalo. Uthando aluzange lubangele ukuvutha umsindo, ngakumbi inzondo, kodwa inzondo iyinto eqhelekileyo, nangona ekuqaleni, uthando luyabonisa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuziphatha kunye nokuphefumula, kunye nento yonke umphefumlo onothando ufuna, kodwa okokuqala ...

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Iinqanawa zobudlelwane beentsapho zihamba emifuleni yezinto zokuzilibazisa, ziwela emachibini othando, iimbambano zokuphila ezilwandle zentando kwaye, ekugqibeleni, zihamba zikhuphe elwandle loluthando. Inqanawa inomphathi kunye neqela kwaye umntu akanako ukuthelekisa nobani obaluleke ngaphezu kwayo, kuba yonke into ibangela enye into ebalulekileyo yile ngxaki.
Le ndoda ibamba isondo kwaye inquma ikhosi, ngamandla akhe kungekhona nje ukucima isitya, kodwa kwakhona ukwenza uhambo olujikelezayo olujikelezayo lwehlabathi elijikeleze ubomi bentsapho.
Ibhinqa likholelwa ukuba "inkosi", umphathi wayo, uzama ukumkhonza, njengabanqwelisi, abahamba ngeenqwelo, abapheka okanye iinqanawa. Uyenza imisebenzi eluhambweni oludibeneyo kwaye ulethe ekliniki "isondlo esingcono kakhulu" ukugcina amandla okudala omphathi wakhe.
Umkhombe uhamba, ufunda ihlabathi, unxweme kunye nelizwe, ufumana amava, uqokelele uvuyo kunye nobutyebi balo ...

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Mhlawumbi nje akumele ubale ukuba inqanawa elungileyo kunye nesiphango esiya kuhamba, kwaye umkhombe ombi kunye nokuzola ungaya kwizantsi. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo eli thuba elimangalisayo lokuqhubeka lokubhukuda kunye kuxhomekeke ekukhethweni okulungileyo kwabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kule ndlela elukhuni.