Ukuzithemba: Indlela To Kuphephe Musa ukoyika wayethanda

Ndifuna ukuxelela ibali elinye. Ndafumana ileta.

R. ubhala athi: "Namhlanje nam umhla. Kuqala. Yena igeza. Emzimbeni yakhiwe kakuhle. Usebenza womnye. Ndandikuthanda nyhani.

ngoko konke wahamba engalunganga. Ndaziva ezotyhalo olomeleleyo. Xa jonga emehlweni akhe, ngoko Ndingaziswela intambo incoko, intloko yakhe shi emagxeni akhe, amagxa eladlulayo, umlomo wayo uzala kunye namathe. Kwaye zidiliziwe amehlo akhe ngapha nangapha. Nceda alikwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Ukoyika babanjwe umzimba uphela. Ukoyika ngenxa yokuba engakuthandi. Andikwazi sithethe apho avela khona. Ndiya kuza konke! Okokuqala, ngokohlobo bashile, waza ke wajika ulwazi, enethemba! Njengoko ukuba umntu waba enkulu kakhulu kwaye ekrelekrele kakhulu undiqondisile ukuba kubi nangaphezu kokuba lo mfana. Ke kaloku umfana uyazi kakhulu. Kwaye lo lwazi, mna unobubi ngaphezu Makeze kum, kungengamazwi, kodwa njengento enye. Kodwa ukuqonda kakuhle kakhulu naye. Nokuba kwakungekho kwamathandabuzo. Mna, "wathi" ukuba Andiyilingene kuyo. Yintoni Mna akukho umdlalo kuye. Nguye ngcono kunam.

Ke okona kubalulekileyo, andikwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Njengokungathi hypnotized. Uyazi, i ingqondo ithi: "Wena log." Kwaye wena ulele nezitulo ezibini, esinye emva zentloko yakhe, izithende - phezu kwezinye. Wena - log wokwenene! Not fun, kodwa ngokwenene! Kwaye akukho nto wena awukwazi. Phambi kokuba razgipnotiziruet ingqondo wena ...

Ngokubanzi, ndisilele-ndlebe ... Akazange kubiza, kwaye ayifikelelwanga thina ...

Ndafika ekhaya abonakele kunye lithemba. Ndaqalisa ukucinga ... andikho kubi! Akunjalo konke! Ndingumfana (Mna 25) kunye ezintle. Tall kunye slim. Ekubeni ukubhuqa iinwele ezibomvu olugobileyo. Diploma Moscow zokufundisa Institute. rock Dance 'n' roll. Ndihleli phezu twine emnqamlezweni! akukho nto ayithethi singadani, nokuthandana ... Mna akukho kubi !!!! Ngubani na ntle xa uthe wenza okubi mna? Kwaye kutheni uyavumelana na oku?

Cinderella wamkhumbula. Xa efika apho ibhola ebhotwe, yangqungqa kunye Prince, yena akazange abe nayiphi uloyiko okanye ukuphoxeka. Kwakukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwakhe kwisikhulu kwimfundo, isikhundla ekuhlaleni. Noko ke, yena nabo ukuxokisa Prince, isicwangciso ukuba bazibeke oko ngempela. Kodwa nantsi ke ndacela indlela aphumelele, kodwa ncam koko ... "

Yintoni na le kunjalo? Malunga nokuzixabisa.

Ubume be-jikelele self-complex ludibaniso ezininzi iparameters kwaye iquka imfuneko nokuzixabisa. High ukuzithemba - Kukuqonda ngesiqu kunye nokubaluleka. Yinto - ubuchule yakhe, ukuzithemba nokuzimela.

Kwimeko ngasentla, ukuhlonipha for self ngexesha yeendwendwelo yena akazange nanini. Self, ngenxa yayo, akukho exabiso thaca kwaye ke ngoko kakuhle. Yena Ndandingaqinisekanga ngokwam, kuxhomekeke ngokokubona mfana. Ingcamango ukuba akazange akuthande oko, kwakhokelela ukuba lithemba. Self-azithembe ephantsi kakhulu.

Noko ke, xa uRobert wafika ekhaya, ukuzithemba baqala ukwandisa. kungaba njani oku?

Inyaniso kukuba ukuzithemba ayikho njalo. Ubume lwemigangatho self-kuchazwa ngokubanzi self-uvavanyo zabucala.

Self-vavanyo imfundo level-mbini. Enye inwebu siqulathe nobuninzi ngekhonkrithi-lwemeko self-uvavanyo, yaye kwinqanaba lesibini, njengoko esitalini, ngokubanzi, ehlabathini self-uvavanyo. Xa intlanganiso yaso yabanjwa, i concrete lwemeko ukuzithemba iye iye phantsi. Xa ebuyela ekhaya, inqanaba ukuzithemba liye landa. Oku kubonakala kwiakhawunti yakhe.

Kutheni xa uthandana, ukuzithemba behla kabukhali. Kungenzeka, ngenxa yokuba lo mfana ukuba ezinye parameters ziyakhunjuzwa ebuntwaneni bakhe, umntu elibonakalayo yakhe. (Oku kuboniswa emzimbeni imvakalelo echazwe apha ngasentla). Musa ukoyika engamthandi kuyo, ngamanye amazwi, luloyiko yokuba ebacekisile. Musa ukoyika ukufumana uthando. Oku kuvela ebuntwaneni bam. , Xa abazali musa ukuzalisekisa izithembiso zabo umntwana ngoyaba isicelo sakhe, musa umnike uthando, njl, amaxhala umntwana uziva usicekisile, ungakhuselekanga, uvakalelwa kukuba akukho nto uthando. Umntwana ekhula, uba umntu omdala, kunye nokoyika ukulahlwa abazange bayifumane uhlala uthando ...

Xa ebuyela ekhaya, umfanekiso komntu ebalulekileyo phambi kwamehlo akhe wawungasekho, ngoko akwazi ukubuyela kwi "apha kwaye ngoku 'uze ucamngce ngoko kwenzekayo. Yakhe ukuzithemba liye landa.

Indlela ukugcina ukuzithemba kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo?

1. Jonga ixabiso labo kunye nokubaluleka. Umzekelo, yenza uluhlu ukulunga kwazo wenziwe kakuhle kakhulu, R., wabuyela ekhaya.
2. Ukuvuma ngokwakhe ezifuna uncedo, ingqalelo kunye nothando.
3. Khumbula iziganeko ukususela ebuntwaneni bakhe, nto leyo eyakhokelela ekubeni ezinjalo uloyiko. Kungenzeka, abazali ukuba ezinye iingxaki zakhe, ekuhluzeni kususwa kwezo zihlandlo umntwana kubo. Kwaye ngoko abazali bam balibala nje ukuba uye emva izicelo kuzaliseka ngoyaba iminqweno kunye kufezeke. Okanye mhlawumbi nje ukuthetha naye umntwana, ndicela uxolo, Andisoze ndineento zonke. Psychology akazange ukufunda! Kwaye bona ngokwabo abaselula kakhulu. Babethanda ba- nako.

Kwakhona ndifuna ukuba zihlale phezu yokuba amava azuzwe kule ntlanganiso intombazana, ibaluleke kakhulu. I zengqondo edumileyo uViktor Frankl othetha amaxabiso lobume kunye obungunaphakade. Lwemeko - ezi amaxabiso ezibangela nabo iimeko ezithile yaye zisoloko ekhethekileyo. Zenzeka ngexesha elinye kuphela ebomini bakhe. Yaye ixabiso lwemeko ukuze umntu akwazi ukufumana ixesha 1 kuphela ebomini. Ukuba ithe yalahleka, oko ilahlekile ngonaphakade. Ngakumbi ayidlalwanga kwisithutyana umva.

Ngokomzekelo, intombazana waba nezicwangciso ngokuhlwa; umyalezo, leyo yena ubhalisela kwiveki egqithileyo. Kwaza ngequbuliso! Umfana ukususela kwiqela lakhe Institute uyakumema ukuba kutyelela. Nantsi lixabiso isimo. Kwenzekeni! Ukuba intombazana sokuhlehlisa uhambo ukuya masseur kwaye amkele isimemo intlanganiso, oko bekuya kuthetha ukuba basebenzisa le meko, nto leyo eya kuba ixabiso layo isimo. Ke ukuba ithe ukwamkela esi simemo, ixabiso ilahlekileyo. NANINI. Le meko ebomini bakhe, akasayi!

Yiloo nto ebomini bam kufuneka ukuphumeza zonke iinkalo eziya kuzisa ixabiso elikhethekileyo obungaqhelekanga.