Ngaba I Ukubala Ulonwabo?

"Umntu uzalelwe ukuba ulonwabo njengentaka endisabela kuyo," njengoko binzana izandi okulungileyo. Kakade ke, wonk 'umntu ukuqonda kwabo ulonwabo: umsebenzi olungileyo kwindawo enye edumileyo, avuke ngokusebenzisa amanani kwelinye. Kanti abanye bakholelwa ukuba ulonwabo kwi email "shinyi". Kodwa ke inkoliso ulonwabo, xa kukho umntu, nto leyo kulula kwaye ukhululekile ukuba uqonde uze wamkele, kwaye ufuna ukunika uzale abantwana nabo, yaye ubomi kuphila.

Isantya yanamhlanje wobomi akavumeli ixesha elininzi eyisingela ukhangelo kwisiqingatha sesibini, ingakumbi uphawu abemi kwiidolophu ezinkulu nezixeko. Kaloku, ukuba iqela le ngokwesini ezinkulu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa kuthekani ngabo abasebenza phakathi kwabantu njengam abangatshatanga kunye sex nye nawe? Apho ungajonga lowo wasekunene, nto leyo ilula kwaye nobubele? Kwaye oko wenze mpazamo?

Namhlanje, abantu abaninzi ngakumbi babuyelayo kumaziko Internet, zizame phakathi amakhulu abantu kwifoto ubone ngamehlo zomthonyama. Internet - obungephi kwaye khangela ngezalamane, kuba kunzima kakhulu ukuya kwizigidi emehlweni. Kodwa owathi ukuba akunakwenzeka? Into yokuqala ukuyenza - ukufumana isiza apho abantu abuthele ngothando nje okanye nithandana iintsuku ezimbalwa okanye iiveki, oko kukuthi, abo 'ivuthiwe' ukuba ukuthandana. Abo bafuna ukuba umntu yinto elula, kwakhiwe usapho kunye neziphumo zawo. Ukuchonga iindawo ezinjalo kuba phezu iintengiso ukuba ibekwe khona. Kwaye ke ubukho ukuhambisana kwesiza uvavanyo. Njengoko olu vavanyo, unako ukufumana abo ukuba izinto ezifanayo neembono. Kwaye badlule ekukhetheni enokubakho iqabane.

Kakade ke, ebomini lukhulu malunga umntu ukufunda ukuziphatha kwakhe, ukuba nesimilo kunye nencoko. Kwihlabathi virtual kuba isuntswana nzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ukuba umntu ngenene ufuna ukutshata, umfanekiso wakhe iya kufakwa kwiziko lewebhu qho mandatory. Kwaye kuya kuba ecacileyo, kwaye amehlo avalwe iindondo ezimnyama. Lo ngumqondiso wokuqala ukuba umntu luvuleleke ukuthanda, engenanto ukuzimela. isaziso lakhe iqulathe kuphela inkcazelo emzimbeni we iqabane elizayo, kodwa iimpawu ezinqwenelekayo. Malunga indoda egcwaliswe ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngokweenkcukacha. Ngakumbi funda ngenyameko impendulo yombuzo "kutheni iindlela uphuphu kunye neqabane lakhe bangaphambili." Njengoko ukuba kwakungekho, kodwa kunzima ukufumana indoda ngexesha ubomi bakhe kungekho iqabane, ingakumbi xa sele umdala. Ukuba umntu ngokupheleleyo eligxeka lo icala sekhefu, livale-profayile. Akukho namnye ukuxabana ityala. njalo kusolwa ezimbini.

Emva kokuba kukhethwe kweeprofayili wena wasala nangekho ngaphezulu kweshumi (at best) amahlakani ezinokwenzeka. Kwaye kuza ekuqaleni luthando. Kwincwadi yakhe yokuqala kufuneka babhale kakhulu, kuba injongo ephambili - ukufumana ingqalelo yabantu kwiprofayile yakho, mnike ithuba lokuba ukuthelekisa iminqweno yakho kunye nomdla. Ukuba kwakhona ifumaneka kwiprofayile yakho umdla ngokwabo i data, le mbalelwano iya kuqhubeka, kodwa ukuba akunjalo, ngoko usenalo iiprofayili ekhethiweyo.

Ukuze kwizidanga nge Internet, iindleko ngaphezu yokwenene. Oku kungenxa kwi yabantu lenene nempembelelo ngakumbi ngobuqholo isiqhumiso, lalinjani ilizwi, indlela yokuthetha. Le omaziyo ngokusebenzisa Internet iziphumo ezifana azifumaneki, kwaye yalinganisa umntu ngokucacileyo ngaphezulu. Kwelinye icala, asinguye wonk 'ubani uyayazi indlela ukuvakalisa kakuhle ngokubhala iingcinga neminqweno yabo. Kodwa ukuqonda indoda yakho okanye hayi kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano.

Xa sele uqinisekile ukuba wena lo mntu umdla kwaye kakhulu ukuba senze ntoni ebomini, baqale ukuhlela idinga. Ngoku iza kuba intlanganiso yabantu eziqhelekileyo abo awunangxaki kunye ngoku kwaye ndandingafuni ukushiya ngoko.