Ukuphoxeka - Intlawulo idealizing

ukuphoxeka

Akukho babebona - akukho nokuphoxeka.

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Badana nomgangatho yomntu - umkhuba yakuzixhalisa malunga kwamaphupho, luthemba, amaphupha, kwaye ukuwa nokholo umntu okanye into ethile.

USatyo - incasa ekrakra ye idealizations zaphela. Ubomi usisidenge - ingqokelela kokuphoxeka. Kubonakala ukuba ubomi zomkhosi abantu abaninzi kunye ipeyinti, kodwa algorithm ekruqukile ebomini elula banal. Umntu kubekela njongo ephambili ezingachanekanga okanye into umfanekiso kamnandi. Babingelela nangokubandezela abaninzi, asikuko ukuba usukelo lwakho okanye ukutsha, sizimisele ukuba nilihluthe into idealization, luthemba ukuba ulindele ukuba into elungileyo kwaye ukukhanya, nikholwe kuye. Kwimeko yokuqala sibona yinkcitha xesha, amandla kunye amandla engqondo intshukumo ngento akayi kumenza onwabe. Eyesibini kukuba kakhulu musa nje imithetho indalo - yaphula lizama karhulumente. Naluphi na utyeshelo, nokubanjwa kwezinto kunye nokungalingani useza imikhosi lizama, kwaye ohlwaye umntu ngokuba ehleli idealization yakhe engqondweni.

Ukuphoxeka - esivuya iingcinga, nangengqondo enezigaba. Ilula ke alidanisi. Ukuba umntu ubonisa ukubaluleka ngokugqithiseleyo ukutya, isini, imali, izinto eziphathekayo, imikhosi lizama uzama ukusibuyisela kuvuselele. ubuhlobo enezigaba - ukufumana ukungcatshwa abahlobo, sex enezigaba - Phila bangenamandla, yengxoxo imoto, indawo yokuhlala, imali - akukho ngxaki, unokuludambisa; kodwa ngaphandle impilo yedwa. Umntu udla kokuphoxeka. Xa umntu oselula abe ngobudenge kwikhonkco kokuphoxeka. Nabil cone, waphilisa traumatised waya kukhangela ukuba impazamo efanayo. Igor Guberman athi: "Ngenxa yovuyo uthando iminqweno intlungu kanye etsolo ngokuhlawula, thina basoyika kangangokuba zokuzonwabisa ezintsha ukuba baphathe icondom xa umphefumlo wam." Kwiminyaka kamva, xa umahluko ayikho kuyenzeka, unxunguphalo uba iimpawu zibonakale.

Ubunzulu inkulu intlungu umntu akufumana oko lisondelelene saqhotyoshelwa. usapho Young wandazisa unyana wakhe kunyaka ubudala, yaye umama wathi: "Kamsinya nje wazalwa Mfana, ubomi wethu siphezu kwabo. Ngoku siphila yena yedwa. " weva umntwana oko, waza yena iliva exabileyo ezingqondweni ingcamango: "Ndim intloko yosapho. ebomini bam - ixabiso kakhulu ". Njengoko bekhula, oko kuvunywe uluvo ukuba Centre of the Universe, ukuba ilanga uza liphuma kusekusasa ukuba kwakungayi kuba mna. UTerry ekukhuliseni wokuzingca, babengaqhelananga ukucinga abakhathalele umntu. Kukho kufika ixesha xa kudala intsapho yakhe. Unina, ayezinikele ubomi bakhe, ukholelwa ukuba xa uye wahlala ngenxa yonyana wakhe, bekuya kuba fair ukuba ukuphila ngenxa kuyo, okanye, ubuncinane, baya kunyamekela wakhe. Kodwa ke, unyana nokude unaloo ngcinga yobudenge. Eyona, min'emnandi yokuzalwa kunye 8 kuMatshi. Umama uziva ekruqukile ezoyikekayo, unxunguphele. Ngoku ukudideka uba okuluphawu yobuntu bakhe. La mabhinqa lithemba emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane - izigidi.

Izihlandlo ezininzi, adla ukuqonda unobangela obunye ubomi, kodwa aninako ukulungisa nto. Life ebhalwe ngaphandle zilungiso, bemkile iminyaka, endala wasebenzisa intloko yakhe yes emagxeni abaselula. Yaye yintoni isizathu sokuba ukuphoxeka? Kaloku, kuvela, akuyomfuneko umntwana ukuba umthande? Kufuneka ngakumbi njengoko kuyimfuneko. Kodwa ke kwimeko yemfundo yabantwana kuyimfuneko ukubeka loo njongo ephambili ayikho eziphathekayo, kodwa usukelo lokomoya. Ulonwabo ngokoMoya. Fumana izinto zoMoya eziphathekayo, noko kunjalo, ukuba kukho mhlaba ngethemba wokufika intsimbi emzimbeni. Injongo yemali umntwana - impilo, imfundo, kunye eziphathekayo well-being indoda elungileyo. Woman bangamasebe ngokwemvelo yayo idla ukuhlala abantwana, kubanyamekela. Kodwa imfundo - akukho nje ukondla, asele, kunye ubuthongo walala. Imfundo - uphuhliso isidima somntwana, oko kukuthi, iimpawu ezintle umntu, kube yinto ubugcisa ukunika incasa enkulu yokomoya nolonwabo. UNyana, kufuneka siqonde incasa ulonwabo ukusuka ngoncumo ongazenzisiyo ngumntu omthandayo ukuba ngokubonisa solicitude kuye.

Kunoko, lowo ubanga ukuba nguye inkaba komhlaba, ukufundisa amakhwenkwe uxanduva kunye ukukhathalela abanye. Ngokomzekelo, iminyaka emihlanu-kid umama uthi: "Ndisoloko ukulibala ukuba uhlambe izandla zakho emva kokuba uhambe. Ngaba kukhumbuleke xa siye ekhaya, kufuneka ukuba uhlambe izandla "Ukuze umntwana oko umdlalo, kwaye ngaxeshanye, imfundo uxanduva nenkuthalo - izinto ezimbini ezinkulu ngalo mntu. Ngokuthe ngcembe yokukhulisa unyana wam ukuba ukuhlonipha iimfuno zabahlali, iinkxalabo namaxhala, nomama wam ukuba aphume ebomini ayimiselwanga lukhuni, egotist lokuzingca, yaye uxanduva, indoda ukuzithemba, ukunyamekela abangasoze ushiye umama wakhe.

Uhambo ayikho kwinjongo yakhe igcwele ukuphoxeka ekrakra. Akukho kuya kufuneka ukuba ukubeka injongo ngokomoya - ukuzisa ububele, ukuthobeka kunye nokuzeyisa, loo mntu uthe injongo ephambili kobomi ukwakhiwa kunye nekhaya nokuphuculwa. Ncangathi iminyaka emininzi njengekhoboka sinqanawa, yaye ekugqibeleni igqibezela le ndlu. abantu abaninzi, ukuze kuxhotyiswe, ngoko isinika. Ukwakha indlu, wayefuna ukuzibonela ngokwabo nabanye nokubaluleka kwazo kunye nokubaluleka. injongo Alien iphuma ngaphandle - phantsi kwempembelelo ukukrwaqula, iinkolelo zobuxoki, iinkolelo kunye nempembelelo kwabanye. Indlu leyo, kodwa onwabe liye ekungasayi kubuye kubekho injalo. Abantu ukwakha izicwangciso amakhulu, amaphupha, uhlobo idealization yayo bengqondo, yaye ngoko, ukufikelela usukelo "ezinqwenelekayo" uyaqonda ukuba ndafumana fake, bethanda oko waphupha. Baqalisa ukubona ngokucacileyo ukuba iinzame angafanele ixesha elichithwa namandla. Ditching ubomi oku kufuna ukulungiswa rhoqo kwaye anyamekele ekhaya, indoda ekupheleni kobomi uya kudaniswa.