Siyayinqoba Iingxaki zezingane zokudlala

Ngokukhawuleza ihamba ngekota yokuqala kunyaka wesikolo esitsha: abantwana bakhula, batshintsha, basibonisa abatsha. Kuhle ukuba abazali bekhula kwaye banengqiqo yokwamkela olu tshintsho kwaye bancede abantwana bakhule.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona kunjalo, enye inkathazo yengxaki yomntwana ibamba abazali ngokumangalisa.

"Kwakulungile kwaye uxolo xa umntwana engenakukhwabanisa," usho umama wesibini kunye nesigama ubudala.

"Akayikuvumela ukuba unina ahambe kunye naso sonke ixesha afika khona," ukhononda ugogo oneminyaka elilodwa ubudala.

"Intsana ephilileyo iphenduke ibe yindoda evukelayo", - ikhononda ngoyise wonyana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala.

"Andifuni ukufunda konke, kufuneka ndiyenze umsebenzi wam wesikolo kunye" - ingxaki enkulu yokushiya unina abaninzi bezingane zesikolo kwixesha elide lokuhamba.

"Ndaphula ngokupheleleyo izandla," - weva malunga nentsha.

Kwaye kunzima kangakanani xa ubunzima bomntwana omnye buhambisana nokuzalwa okanye inkathazo yomnye!

Kwaye abazali baqala ukubambelela kwingcamango yokuba kufuneka sibuyisele yonke into njengesiqhelo, zama ukuqonda indlela yokuqhuba kwisikhokelo, indlela yokwenza umntwana abe nolwazi oluhle kwimfundo. Bazama ukungena ekuphelelwa lithemba kwaye bangazigxeka ngenxa yomntwana wabo akulona oko babelindele. Singaphi na ukucinga malunga nokuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba umntwana abe ngengqondo kule meko.

Ngaloo ndlela, thina, abazali bekhulu lama-21, zilula kunokuba ngabazali bezizukulwana zangaphambili, ngenxa yokuba sinolwazi olukhoyo malunga nento eya kusinceda ukuba sinqobe ubunzima bethu.

Kodwa abazali bethu abazange bacinge ngento eyenzekayo kubantwana, njengoko babhekene nomsebenzi ohluke ngokupheleleyo: ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko oluyisiseko lwabantwana ngokubhekiselele kokutya, uphahla phezu kweentloko zabo, kunye nexesha elizayo elingalindelekanga.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunzima kakhulu kuthi, kuba kubazali banamhlanje uluntu lwenza iimfuno ezininzi kunokuba bekuyiminyaka engama-50 edlulileyo. Olunye uvelwano "uphuhliso lokuqala" lufanelekile! Kwaye, ke, bonke abazali abancinane abanamalungelo baye bakuva malunga "nokwamkelwa kwehlabathi jikelele" kwamanye amaxesha ababi (ukusuka kwigama elithi "ummangaliso") abantwana.

Sinokubanceda njani abantwana bethu bakhule, ngelixa bengalandeli nabo engqondweni?

Indlela elula yokukholisa umntwana kunye nokuhlakulela ingqondo yakhe kukudlala naye! Dlala kwizinto azifunayo, udlale ngentshiseko, kwaye ujabule, kunye neengqungquthela zabantwana. Khumbula into oyithandayo ukudlala kwaye uchithe ubuncinane imizuzu eyi-15 idlala nomntwana wakho okhulayo.

Kunzima kakhulu kumzuzwana wexesha elibuhlungu lokuba umntwana avume ngokwenene njengoko kunjalo, kunye neengqungquthela, ukwesaba kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezimnandi. Yaye kulula ukufumana iimvakalelo zomntwana kulabo abavisisana neemvakalelo zabo kunye nokubonakalisa imizwa. Sebenza ekuphuhliseni ubulumko bakho bobuchopho, kwaye ke unokuba ngumfundisi ongcono kumntwana wakho.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, ukuba asondele kumntu oqondayo, ukhusela kuzo zonke iziphepho kunye neentlungu zobomi, ukholelwa kuthi, uxhasa, uphulaphula aze athethe. Kwiengqondo zengqondo nokuba kukho umntu onjalo ogcinwe ixesha: "isibuko sothando."

Cinga ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kumntwana otshintshayo, efuna yena ngokwakhe, ukuze usondele!

Emva kwayo yonke into, umntwana engayazi nto ngaye, uzibona ngokwakhe njengoko ebonwa zizihlobo zakhe. Ngesikhalazo kuye kuye - ngegama, intonation, isenzo, nokuba sithule - simxelela umntwana malunga naye.

Jonga ukuba ungakanani ukulawula ukuthatha umntwana wakho.

Ukwenza oku kwiintsuku ezintathu ezalandelayo, zama ukubala ukuba uphendule kangakanani na ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nokuba uninzi kangakanani (ukungcikivo, ukumemeza, ukugxekwa, ukugxekwa).

Ukuze unyango olungileyo, ubeke iintlawulo zemali kwikhekhe ehlukeneyo, ngenxa yeempawu ezimbi. Zama nje ukuba ungenzi nto engqondweni yakho, kodwa ukunyathela imali yesibini kunye nokudibanisa kwindawo eyahlukileyo. Inyani kukuba i-subconscious inokudlala ihlazo elinenkohlakalo kunye nawe: uya kuhoywa iinjongo ezingathandekiyo kwaye kwingqondo kuphela yongeza imali.

Ukuba inani leempembelelo ezingalunganga lilingana okanye ngaphezulu kunezinto ezilungileyo, ngoko awuhambisani kakuhle noqhagamshelwano.

Kwaye ke vala amehlo akho kwaye ucinge ukuba udibana nomhlobo wakho omhle (okanye intombi). Ubonisa njani ukuba uyavuya kukuba unomdla kuwe kwaye uvale?

Kwaye ngoku, bulisa umntwana wakho: ekuseni, xa evuka nje; Ngomso, xa ebuya esikolweni; Ebusuku, xa ndifika esidlweni ... Musa ukwesaba "ukuphanga" kule mizuzu, akunakwenzeka.

Ukwenza imisebenzi emibini yangaphambili, qaphela indlela impendulo yomntwana ngayo, kunye nemvakalelo yakho. Yithi le mizwa ngokwakho, uchaze indlela ovakalelwa ngayo emzimbeni (mhlawumbi uvakalelwa izibilini endaweni ethile, mhlawumbi, ngokuchaseneyo, "amaphiko" akhula), yiziphi iingcamango ozivakatyeyo kule mizuzu.

Ncedisa umntwana wakho, mxelele ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani, indlela okholelwa ngayo kuye, uvuyisa ukuba unayo. Unomdla ebomini bomntwana, iimvakalelo zakhe, abahlobo bakhe. Ukuphulaphula ngokuthobeka, ukunyamezela ngokunyanisekileyo, kunceda ekujongeni ngokuqinisekileyo ihlabathi, uncede ubone kwiingxaki zengxaki, unceda ukuhlaziya nokulungisa iimpazamo. Khangela indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima.

Funda indlela yokuphulaphula ngentshiseko kubantwana bakho (ungafunda ngokuphulaphula ngokukodwa kwincwadi ethi Y. Gippenreiter "Xoxa nomntwana.") Okanye phulaphula kwizinto zokusebenza zamahhala kwiwebhsayithi yokuzonwabisa yokuzonwabisa.

Uze ukhumbule ibinzana elimangalisayo: "Umntwana uziphatha kakuhle njengoko unako."

Ngamanye amaxesha (kwaye ngokwenene njalo) kunokuba uqaphele ukuphawula, kufuneka uzinqamle kude nemicimbi yakho ebalulekileyo kwaye unciphise ixesha lomntwana. Dlala kwaye uhlalisane nabantwana bakho.