Omama ukuba zizibandakanye

Nkqu engama-30 eyadlulayo, malunga ngesondo, nkqu ukuba ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo. Ngokuthe ngcembe ukuziphatha kuluntu bayo utshintsho, kunye kukho inkululeko yokuthetha, nabo bonke ngokupheleleyo zatshintsha. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ukuthelekisa amathuba ulutsha mihla kwi nokuphelisa yokungafundi ngokwesondo. Noko ke, nangona oku, kukho inani elikhulu kwiimeko zokukhulelwa yokuqala, xa abantwana unina ninodwa ingxaki yakho andazi indlela kuqhubeka.

Nokufikelela evulekileyo yevidiyo, enxibe indalo zamanyala elivisayo ukuthabatheka ngokufanelekileyo ekuqaleni babe nolwalamano olusenyongweni. Ngelishwa, akusoloko, bazi kakhulu inzalo, ngenxa - ukukhulelwa ekuqaleni.

Amaxesha amaninzi unina zizibandakanye bendikoyika isikhundla sakhe esitsha yaye kunzima ukufihla into yokukhulelwa kwakhe, Noko ke, kulula ukucinga ukuba kungekudala kuba ebonakalayo necacileyo (ubuncinane abazali sentombazana). Ngelishwa, siyazi bekuthi amatyala, xa umzali umsindo uba isizathu ukuba oomama abatsha abashiye abantwana abazalwa. Ngokufuthi, intombi ekhulelwe ikhatywa nje ngaphandle kwendlu.

oomama zizibandakanye badla ngokuba akukho inkxaso abahlobo abasenyongweni okanye uluntu. Bona senze na ukuswela ukuqonda nokuqiniseka esikolweni apho ootitshala ngokwabo rhoqo nokweya la mantombazana.

Eyona nto kunzima ukubeka up with ngaphezu unina oselula - umsindo ngabazali, nto leyo maxa wambi erhangqwe kwi ngenkohlakalo. Yinto eyoyikekayo, kodwa iyinyaniso. Amaxesha amaninzi ezi amantombazana aseleyo ngaphandle kwenkxaso, kodwa ngoku nanini kufuneka ke ukuba baqonde neengcebiso ngendlela yokwenza oku. Nkqu ulwazi olusisiseko malunga ngesondlo kunye nolawulo jikelele oludingekayo kakhulu umama oselula. Ukuba ingxabano rhoqo emphefumlweni ntshikilelo emva kokuzalwa, la mantombazana ezisayiniweyo ulahlo okanye ayigibisele sana leenkedama. Asiyi uthethe ezo meko egregious apho oomama obudala babulale abantwana babo ukuba baqhubeke nobomi babo yesiqhelo ngaphandle umntwana ezingalweni zakhe. Ngelishwa, imbali uyazi amatyala amaninzi hlobo.

Kwesi sikhundla, amantombazana kufuneka inkathalo nenkxaso, ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka nokukhulelwa - imiselwe kweemeko.

Ndingathanda ukuba athi ukuba kukho iimeko ezininzi apho ukukhulelwa obudala na ngenxa yoku, nangona zingakhathaliyo, uthando phakathi kwabantu ababini, yaye kamva umama okhulelweyo singqongwe ukhathalelo kunye nenkxaso. Thina kufuneka singalahlekani nento yokuba, ngokungathi okanye hayi, uyise womntwana baya kutshutshiswa ukuba gadalala kwabantwana. Ubungakanani isohlwayo kuqwalaselwa ngamnye, kuthathelwa ingqalelo zonke iimeko.

Kwakukho iimeko xa ubudala umama kangako abaselula kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, eRashiya wamitha waza wazala uValya oneminyaka eli-11 ubudala, owashiya umntwana ngokwayo baza kamva yena kunye nomyeni wakhe, uyise womntwana, ubuyeleyo ukuba ube nonyaka-17 ubudala Tajik.

Episode xa umama incinane minyaka mi-5 ubudala yenziwa ngempumelelo yaye wazala umntwana (licandelo ngoqhaqho), sabhalwa ngowe-1939 ePeru. "Umnini Rekhoda" ogama uLina Medina, wakwazi ukuba baphathe futhi ukunika wazala inkwenkwe wokuweyisha 3 kg. Isibhedlele waqhagamshelana abazali wentombazana, xa babona ukuba isisu sakhe waqala ukwanda.

Oogqirha ukubuzisisa ithumba, nangona kungekudala kakhulu waqonda ukuba 'isigulane "ngenyanga yesixhenxe yokukhulelwa. Bamhambisa umfana, lowo wanikwa igama Gerardo, abazali uLina, oneminyaka engama-10 ubudala wamxelela ukuba Medina ngumama wakhe ngokwenene, kodwa hayi udade wayo, njengoko watshoyo ngaphambili. Okumangalisayo kukuba, nangona ukuba kwiminyaka emininzi zidlule kunye Gerardo akukho akasaphili, xa ULina kwaxoxwa, akazange athethe ngo-2002, ngubani na utata womntwana wakhe, naphantsi kwaziphi na iimeko, ukukhulelwa yenzekile.