Ndinokuyingqina njani uthando lwam a guy ... umbuzo okanye umyalelo?

kubonakale Umntu esinesihloko sifunda ukuba lo mbuzo sibhekiswe intombazana, kakuhle, apha afunde "eyindoda", ngoko mhlawumbi umntu uya kudana ukuba ufumane imiyalelo echanileyo ebanzi, yintoni na le ntwazana ukuba ahlole ndiyamthanda lo mfo. Ndafunda le ndlela, ngoko ke uxolo kwabo ukwazi wakhe imihla ngemihla, ukunxanelwa iimfuno zophuhliso lwenzululwazi okanye umsebenzi kuhlala ukufuduka kwabasebenzi. Thatha indida njengenyaniso into mbuzo, siya kuzama ukuqonda.

Okanye kukho enye indlela ... funda konke: zombini amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana, kuba oko, umgaqo, uthando lwakhe ngayo iindlela ubungqina umahluko umntu, uyabona ... Umbuzo ke yambiza.

Kweli nqaku, ndacinga, lo ngumbuzo ukuba umntu umhla okanye esibalisayo nje into, buciko, ethi isetyenziswe kuphela ukubhekisela isihloko incoko - ukungqina njani uthando ... Okanye mhlawumbi umntu efuna ukufumana inyathelo imiyalelo step ...

Ngoko walungiselela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha mibuzo ibalulekileyo ngokwabo ukuzama ukufihla emva engamampunge kwaye akukho kutsala umdla izilogani cliches trite. Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Andiqondi ukuba umntu uya kuba nako ukuphendula lo mbuzo, kwaye ukunqongophala kungekuphela nje ingqondo okanye amava. Ngokoluvo lwam, bekunjalo ingxaki ngokwayo, kokwabo kudidi abo kanye ubunyani ubhaqo lwalo okanye ekuqulunqeni ekugqibeleni ayinakubangela ukuba inani nangakumbi imibuzo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ibonise uthando lwakho ... lo mfo musa bafana kukho into kule binzana yinto obengo, khon 'ukuze isicelo into into ezifana nothando olusondeleyo njengento iintloni?

Yonke imihla, phambi kwamehlo am kukho amakhulu, maxa wambi amawaka abantu abaselula - abafundi, ezahlukeneyo kakhulu ezibaxhalabisayo zabo, iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye nesimo sengqondo ngokubanzi. Ndidibana nabo eklasini, apho balahlekile amehlo abo ubunzima, kwiindibano, apho wonke umntu uyakwazi ukubona aze aqonde ulwalamano lwabo omnye komnye, khangela bephuzana ngoxa ehleli window kwefestile kwaye inawo amacwecwe yokudlela umfundi. Ndiyakwazi ukubona nokuqonda iseti yonxulumano, ngokuba uthando, ekhoyo kwezi bantu ngayo. Niyenze yonke ngaxa lithile ulwalamano, ochaphazelekayo kuphela ukuba ubonisa uthando lwakho okanye ukukhangela iindlela ukungqina oku? Ndiyaqonda na ukuba ube rhoqo ngenkuthalo azame ukubonisa theorems zemathematika, unako ukungqina nantoni enkundleni ... kodwa ke, njengoko kukho jikelele isicelo nesiza eli gama?

Kukho omnye umbuzo, kodwa ixesha elininzi kufuneka ubonise? Umntu evela omkhulu wathi kufuneka obuluqilima nobuhlala ixesha elide, mhlawumbi, kodwa ke umbuzo kube ngamampunge, kuba ubungqina bothando uba intsingiselo yobomi. Kwaye apha ecela into efana impendulo: ukufumana ubungqina uthando, uhlala nje le ndoda, lowo kufuneka ubonakalisile.

Umzekelo, ukuba akwazi ukubonisa indlela guy uthando lwakhe, kufuneka ukuba kuqala zonke ukuthatha unonophelo ngokwayo. Mhlawumbi kuvakala ngamazwi, kodwa asiyiyo lula isicelo, ukuba imiswe kakuhle kunye nokuqiniseka. Kutheni sisitsho nje? Yaye ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba yintoni ukwaphula okanye ukoyisa le ubungqina? Mark Antony and Caesar, ebonisa uthando lwakhe Cleopatra, iminyaka emininzi wathumela amawaka abantu bafe kwiimfazwe ingaphelelwayo phakathi kweRoma kwanamaYiputa, ububi kunye Mercantile nenofundo Talleyrand balungqina uthando lwakhe 'ahamba "imida zonke izizwe e Napoleonic Yurophu, ngokungasilibali makasizalise isipaji sakhe kukho imizekelo emininzi kakhulu ezinjengezi "ubungqina". Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuze ubonise indlela inkwenkwe uthando lwakhe, mihla, mfo uselula, lowo ungekabikho ifikelele udumo ithamsanqa sikaKesare Talleyrand? Ndicinga, kuqala kwiinto zonke, musa nokuba ucinga ngayo. Kufuneka nje ukuthanda - amagama, simele uxolo - inene, oko kuyimfuneko ukukhonza - ngaphandle self-ngokuthotywa kunye servility, yaye uya kwandula uqonde ngoko - ukukholwa, ngoko - zingayingqini loo nto!

Ndijonga abafundi zam - uqinisekise ukuba ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ayikwazi, undilinge, nothando, kwaye engcono kwi abo bangakwaziyo ukubonisa njengoko nethiyori kakubi. amehlo abo, amehlo bonwabile ehleka, ukwanga ngokubaleka, ezinye izimbo kakhulu ezichuliweyo ingqalelo uthetha ngayo.

Yaye jikelele, ukuba uphendule lo mbuzo (ukuba ngumbuzo), kungcono ukuqulunqa umva wayo, ngoko uyakwazi ukufumana echanileyo ngakumbi yaye impendulo esinokusetyenziswa umbuzo ka ukungqina njani uthando lwam a guy. Xa wazi njani ukuba alinakunithiya nina; Ajika abe pariah, isithixo wobubi kunye vice, uze ufumane impendulo kulo mba nesihloko.

Uthando na ukuphikisana ... nothando unprovable nonke!