Iziphakamiso ezimbalwa ezilula kumantombazana, indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala

Ngoko, wakwazi ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda enhle kwaye ibonakala iyithakazelisayo kuzo zonke iziganeko, kwaye yena (uphonsa!) Wamemela ngosuku? Eyoyikisayo! Ngoku unelithuba elikhulu lokuhlanganisa isiqalo kwaye ubambe lo busuku obungalindelekanga ukuze izikhundla zakho zibe namandla kunokwenzeka. Indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala, ukuze ingaphenduki ukuba ibe ngowokugqibela?

Ulawulo lomhla wokuqala unombalo owodwa: ziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo kwaye ungakhathazeki, uthetha ngendlela efanekayo kuwe, ngaphandle koko unobungozi bokubukeka njengomdlali weqhinga elibi ngexesha lokuphinda uhlaziye ukusebenza kwempumelelo. Emva koko, ixesha elide awuyi kukwazi "ukudlala", uluntu luya kuthatha ikhosi, kwaye umntu uya kudana kwaye anqume ukuba ukhohlisiwe ngongcikivo. Khawucinge ukuba lo akusiyo umhla wakho wokuqala, kodwa ngowesihlanu okanye wesithandathu, xa abantu sele besetyenzisana.

Ukuba awukwazi ukuba uziphathe njani ngosuku lokuqala, phumula uze uzame ukuzonwabisa nje nencoko, fumana ukuzonwabisa kuyo. Inyaniso yokuba ukhathazekile iyinto eqhelekileyo, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ekuqaleni kwentsapho yobudlelwane. Emva koko, ndifuna ukubonakala phambi komntu ekuzukeleni kwayo yonke into, ukuba ndibonise kuphela kumgama olungileyo. Ngako oko, ungazixhaphazi ngobusuku bokulala ubusuku, kuba kusasa uza kufumana phantsi kwamehlo akho ungathandeki kumbundu omnyama. Ukuba awufuni ukubukeka njenge-raccoon encinci kwintlanganiso, fumana ubuthongo obuhle, kwaye awuyi kukhwela ingqayi yewayini kunye nezibambo zokuthuthumela. Hlaziya, ngokuba sele ulungele ukuyibeka ngandlela-thile, ekubeni wakumema. Bonisa iimpawu zakho ezintle zeentlobo zeentlobo zeentlobo zezilwanyana, kunye nezo zinto ufunda ngazo kuphela kwiimveli zothando: ukudubula amehlo, ukunyamezela, ukumomotheka, ukuzondla kunye nokuzithemba.

Musa ukuphazamisa indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala nomntu. Jonga nje kwi-freti ekhangayo kwaye encinane. Ngokuqinisekileyo uye wakuva izigidi zamaxesha ukuba umomotheka ngowona mhle intombazana, ngoko umfanekiselo womfazi osemncinci uya kuvuleka, nangona ukuba ungekho konke okubi. Musa ukuxelela loo mntu ngeengxaki zakho, mhlawumbi uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuxhoma kuye (konke ngexesha elifanelekileyo). Kwakhona, ungabaleki ukuthuka umgcini wendlela yokuba ungayifaki ushukela etazini yakho, kwaye ungahlali kunye nemayini yomsindo, ulindele le ntlanganiso ixesha elide! Iqabane lakho kufuneka lithandeke ngawe, kufuneka lilungele ngokukhawuleza ukuba likufuphi kuwe, kwaye uya kuba nomnqweno wokukubona kwakhona.

Indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala ukuba unqobe umntu? Incoko kufuneka ibe yimiba engathathi hlangothi. Ungayilahli yonke into. Thetha ngomsebenzi, ukufunda, umdla. Epholile kakhulu, ukuba ufumana izilwanyana ezifanayo okanye unokuzibamba ngeyakho. Oku kunokuba sisihlandlo esihle kakhulu sokuhlangana kwakhona. Kodwa ngaphantsi kwezinto ezingenangqiqo, ungaqali isihloko malunga neeveli zakho ezingenakuphumelela, kunye neenkcukacha zobomi bakho bobulili okanye malunga noko, kwinqanaba le nyaniso, kuye, okwangoku, akukho shishini. Vumela emva komhla ekukhumbulayo kuphela njengentombazana enomdla, entle, kwaye kungekhona i-beech ecinezelekileyo.

Indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala ukuze ungadumisi iqabane lakho? Makuvumele ukuba umntu owamemile abe njalo. Makukhathalele, vula umnyango kuwe, unike isandla, uphakamise isihlalo, njl njl. Ukuba ubona kuwe ibhinqa, ziphathe ngokufanelekileyo, nangona ebomini awuqhelekanga kubonakaliso obunjalo bokukhwabanisa. Emva kwakho konke, ngubani owaziyo, unokukhawuleza ukuzisebenzisa, kwaye uya kuthanda. Bonisa umdla wokwenene kumqhubi wakho, nangona ekutshela ngomdlalo wokugqibela webhola okanye malunga nokuphuka kwemoto yakhe. Ukuba ufuna le ndoda, mamele kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ubuncinane uzenze (kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo!) Ukuze uqonde oko akuthethayo. Kwaye awukwazi ukuzenza ngathi, kodwa uvume ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba awuzange uyayiqonda into, kwaye umcele ukuba achaze. Wa yityhaphaza. Ukuba uyakuxelela malunga nempumelelo yakhe, mdumise, cela icebiso, ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, mazise ukuba ungumntu obuthakathaka, obuthathaka kunye nobuthathaka, kwaye ufuna ukukhusela, ukuxabisa nokuxabisa. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ungunkulunkulukazi, kwaye intliziyo yezintombikazi kufuneka ithatyathwe. Kwaye unika kangakanani umntu ngeli xesha, ewe, liphezulu kuwe.

Ngoku uyazi indlela yokuziphatha ngomhla wokuqala. Siyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso ezithobekileyo ziyakunceda ukuba ufezekise eso siphumo kulwalamano olufunayo, kwaye ukudibana nomntu onomdla uya kuba yingozi.