Uthando ekuqaleni. Inkolelo okanye inyaniso?

Ngaba kukho Uthando ekuqaleni? Akunakwenzeka ukuba kuya kuba nomntu ongazange abuze lo mbuzo. Kwaye ngamnye unemizekelo emininzi, eqinisekisa zombini kunye nomnye umbono. Oko umntu angakuthanda ngokoqobo kwisibini sokuhlukana akufuneki ubungqina. Ngamnye wethu wayejongene nemeko efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, elowo lwaba nesiphelo sayo kwimbali efanayo. Yingakho iimbono zabantu zothando ekubonweni kokuqala zihluke kakhulu.

Kodwa ukuba kwakunokubakho ubuncinane umntu omnye, ngaba ikhona? Masiqhubele kwizigqibo. Inyaniso kukuba abantu badibanisa kalula uthando nothando. Uthando lukhangelwe ngethuba lomntu. Yaye uthando luyinto engakumbi, uhlobo lomanyano lweentliziyo ezimbini, ezifuna ukuqinisekiswa ngexesha.

Ukuba uye wavakalelwa iimvakalelo ezifana nothando ekubonweni kokuqala, unokuba njani u-100% uqinisekile ukuba olu luthando, akunjalo uthando? Enyanisweni, akukho nto. Unokuthembela kuphela kwixesha elizeleyo kwaye uthemba ukuba ubuhlobo kunye nalo mntu buya kuba bude kwaye buvuyiswe.

Ngendlela, lukholo kwixesha eliza luchaza iinkolelo zabantu abaninzi abathanda ekuqaleni ekukhoyo. Ngokomxholo wemiphefumlo yowomntu, ophefumula i-romanticism, ngamnye wethu unesiqingatha sesibini kweli hlabathi elikhulu, enye kwaye yodwa, kwaye simele siyifumane, ngaphandle koko akuyi kubakho uvuyo ebomini bethu. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukubonakalisa okanye ukuphikisa le ngqungquthela, kunengqiqo ukuba xa sidibana nomntu onjalo, sinomuzwa wokuthi inomntu ofanayo nathi esilungiselelwe ukuba siphile ubomi bethu bonke.

Kodwa ekubeni ukuvakalelwa okunjalo kuluhlu kwaye kwenzeka kuphela kanye ngexesha lobomi bonke, kwaye abantu bafuna ukuyifumana, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba uthando luqale lujonge ukuthambekela okuqhelekileyo kwamkelekile. Ukuze ungazivumeli ukukhohliswa ngamahomoni akho, kwanele ukuba ufunde ukwahlula uthando ekuthandeni.

Uthando lunikeza uluvo lokukhanya, ulonwabo nobuhle balo, ngelixa uthando lusebenza njengento enxhomekeke kunene, ukusikhwaza kwinto yokudumisa kwaye kusenza sibe neentloni, sibe nexhala kwaye singonwabi. Ukongezelela, ukuwela othandweni kunokukwazi ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza xa umntu esithandayo esalala ebomini bethu. Uthando aluyi kudlula.

Ewe, uthando luyaxhaphaka. Yingakho abantu abaninzi banqwenela uthando lobuxoki ekuqalekeni kwaye balahlekelwe ukholo kulo. Kodwa uthando lokwenene lufanele lufike kuwo wonke umntu kamva okanye kamva. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba luhlobo luni lusithatha. Mhlawumbi uza kuya kule minyaka emininzi, kulolu thando aluyi kuba lubi ngakumbi kunabo abathandana ngethuba lokuqala.

Kwaye ukuba unokungabaza ukuba uthando lukhona, khumbula ukubizwa kothando lokuqala, Ayikwazi ukudideka nantoni na. Ngelo xesha, akukho mntu wacinga ngemali, isimo sezentlalo kunye nezinye izinto eziyintsipho. Uthando lo kuqala luvakalelo lomlingo olufanele luvule iingcango kwihlabathi lomlingo loluntu. Ngelishwa, uluntu ngoku lujongene nale mivakalelo kwaye luvelisa isimo sengqondo sokuthanda izinto. Ukutshisa izihlandlo eziliqela, umntu uqala ukukholelwa ukuba enyanisweni akukho uthando, kwaye wonke umntu ulawulwa yizinto ezithandwayo.

Ukuba unengcinga enjalo, mhlawumbi, ukudibana nothando lokuqala Uya kunceda. Hayi, oku akunakwenzeka ukuba ube "indoda yakho ebomini", nje le ntlanganiso iya kubuyisa ukholo kwimimangaliso kwaye uncede ngendlela entsha, okanye kunendlela endala yokujonga ubuhle bolwalamano lwabantu.

Musa ukulahlekelwa ngulo kholo, kwaye usenokuba nolonwabo uthando ekuqaleni, oluya kuguqula ubomi bakho bonke. Kwaye nangona iphela iphelile, ungakhathazeki, ubuncinane, uya kuba nokukhumbula, kwaye uthando lwakho lokwenene luya kuza ngokuqinisekileyo.