Ixesha elilukhuni: indlela yokuphila emva komtshato

Ukwahlukana kuya kutshatyalaliswa kwenyikima okanye i-tsunami, ngoko kutshabalalisa kwaye kuyonakalisa imiphumo yayo kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba. Kunzima kubantwana, abazali, abahlobo kunye nabantu abasondeleyo balabo bathetha ukuphula umtshato wabo. Yintoni eyenziwa kwimiphefumlo yabathathi-nxaxheba beli nyathelo iyakucingelwa kuphela. Kodwa, ngokucacileyo, ukuqhawula umtshato ushiya apho ngamanye amanxeba egazini ngenxa yobomi. Indlela yokuphila emva komtshato? Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungene kwixinzelelo, kungekhona ukuphulukana nexesha lakho kwaye ufumane amandla okuphinde ahlale ekho kweli hlabathi?

Indlela yokuphila emva komtshato?

Enye into yaseTshayina, iminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, yayithetha ibinzana elingaphezulu kunamhlanje. Intsikelelo yalo kukuba uThixo uyamnqabela umntu ukuba aphile ngexesha lokutshintsha. Ukwahlukana ngumtshintsho omkhulu kakhulu ochaphazela yonke into enzulu kunye nobunzulu bomntu wobomi. Yaye, njengoko uyazi, utshintsho uxinzelelo. Ngamaxesha athile kulungile, kodwa kwabanye (njengokuqhawula umtshato) kakubi. Enyanisweni, xa kuqhawuka umtshato, ukulahleka kungekuphela komlingane (akunandaba, uyintanda okanye uyathandwa, kusekho nzima), kodwa yonke indlela yobomi. Nye nomyeni okanye umfazi umntu ulahlekelwa izithethe, iinkqubo kunye namasiko athile ayenziwe ngexesha lokudibanisa ubomi. Banika ingqiqo yokuzinza nokukhuseleka, banike isiseko sesiseko esiqinileyo phantsi. Kwaye apha kwelinye elide ukusuka kumhla ogqityileyo uphelalala, ugxotha indoda ibe yi-chaos epheleleyo yokungaqiniseki nokuphelelwa yithemba. Kule meko, phantse bonke abantu banombuzo othi: "Indlela yokuphila?" Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ubomi buya kuhluka, kodwa akuthethi ukuba kubi. Nangona kunjalo, ukwenza kube ngcono kuphela ngumntu osindayo ukuhlukana.

Indlela yokuphila emva komtshato: uncedo lwengqondo

Abanye abantu bawela kukuphelelwa lithemba nokudandatheka kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha abakwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zabo ngokwabo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iingcali zicetyiswa ukuba zifune uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Akufanele uhambe koomama, intombi, oodade kunye nabazalwana, kodwa kubagqirha beengqondo abanokwenene abanokukunceda ngokwenene. Enyanisweni, iinkonzo zabo zidinga iindleko zemali, kodwa ukuxinezeleka okuqhubekayo kunjengobhobho besikhathi kwaye kwixesha elizayo kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo ngokubanzi. Ingcali efanelekileyo iya kunceda ukujamelana nokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, ukuthetha kunye nokuxelela indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwakho, okuninzi okuwa kakhulu emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Xa ufumana kwakhona ukuzithemba kwakho, uyakwazi ukubuyela kwindawo eqhelekileyo, ezalisekileyo.

Isigaba esitsha

Ubomi bethu buquka amaxesha ahlukeneyo, amazinga kunye namava angapheliyo esiwafumanayo nawo. Ukwahlukana kwinqanaba elitsha, ufumene apho, ungaya phantsi okanye ukhuphuke. Abameli bezesondo ezibuthathakayo ekuqaleni bekunzima ukusinda ngenxa yeemvakalelo zabo, ukuvakalelwa kunye noxinzelelo lweendlela ezahlukeneyo ezithatyathwe kuluntu. Ungaphila umfazi emva komtshato? Oku kugqitywa kuphela yedwa, kodwa, ke, wonke umntu ufuna ukugqithisa eli nqanaba elinzima ngokukhawuleza, ukuze zonke izinto ezimbi zishiywe emva. Kule nto akudingeki ukuba uzivale, uphile ubomi obulisekileyo kunye obupheleleyo. Khangela i-hobby, gxotha intloko yakho emsebenzini, sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye nabantwana (ingakumbi ukuba bancinci), hamba ukudansa, ufunde ukudlala isandi somculo, ukubetha, ukudibanisa-yenza konke ukuphazamisa iingcamango ezibuhlungu. Nendlela yokuphila emva kokuqhawula indoda? Zihlala zihlala kwindawo engcono. Kodwa azinako lula kule meko, kwaye unako ukusindiswa nje njengabasetyhini-buhlala ubomi obuqaqambileyo noxakekile, obuya kunika intlanganiso kunye neqabane elitsha!