Indlela ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe

Uqhawulo-mtshato ngoku - kube zemihla ngemihla eziqhelekileyo. Break iintsapho ulutsha kunye neentsapho kunye namava. Nandzu yabafazi, kwaye asilotyala madoda. Kodwa akukho nokuba ngubani ngumtyholwa yokuwa usapho, inkqubo mtshato kungemnandi ngokwaneleyo ukuba zombini.

Eli nqaku senzelwe abangamadoda anike ezinye iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso kwi, indlela yokufumana umtshato nomfazi wakhe.

Ngoko ke, siye zitshone ehlotyeni uthando nokuthandana. Lomhla nezolo, isithukuthezi kunye aversions wokuphila-amahlakani. Ubudlelwane ukuze aphule, yaye intsapho - esengozini kokuwa. Xa intloko yam gqolo zibetha babecinga ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe. Kodwa njani ukwenza nto, kuba ekugqibeleni kulandele fane neenyembezi ababhinqileyo, aweve nezityholo? Kwanokucinga ngako kuyoyikisa. Kodwa musa ukucinga kakhulu akunakwenzeka. Loo ubomi ukuze umntu onwabe, nto bububi kunye nosizi.

Indlela ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe ukuze le nkqubo ingabi buhlungu ngenxa omabini? Okokuqala, ukuba ngaba isigqibo ukuthabatha eli nyathelo, kufanele ngokunyanisekileyo ngokuphandle malunga nenkosikazi yakhe. I msinyane oku kuyenzeka, ixesha elincinane eliya kuba nomsindo. Ngendlela, ukuba akuyisombululi, kwaye andazi kungcono ukwenza njani oku, ukuba bathethe malunga nendlela ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe, yaye ube yincutshe. Le wengqondo kule meko kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Ngokusesikweni, Kakade ke, bekuya kuba ukufumana imvume amaqabane ukufumana kwizibhambathiso kuyo yonke imicimbi evela ngethuba leenkqubo mtshato. Noko ke, akusoloko kulula ukwenza oku. Apho unako ukudlala indima "njengomgaqo". Kwaye umfazi amalahle uya kwenza nantoni na ukuze ekukruqulayo. A ukhetho elungileyo kulo mzekelo, hayi nje ukutshintsha indawo yokuhlala, ilishiye yentaka usapho, ukuze sibe sibi.

Ingongoma ebalulekileyo abaninzi kuba buhlungu kakhulu umyalezo iindaba kungatshintsha yonke yomphefumlo wabantwana (ukuba ikhona). Kulo mzekelo, uya kulufuna lonke isibindi sakho, umonde kunye nokuthantamisa. Abantwana kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwakhona kufuneka angavumeli. Uqhawulo-mtshato kunye sokonakalisa indlela yabo eziqhelekileyo yobomi kunye nonina noyise wabo uya kubanika ntshikilelo lokwenene kunye uhlobo ilahleko. Iingcali kwimicimbi ezinjalo kuya kunceda ufumane amagama ekunene kwaye mpuluswa amanqaku ezibukhali.

Emva kokuba linyathelo kakhulu lokuqala ezinkulu (umyalezo umfazi wakhe nabantwana iindaba ezothusayo) akukho mfuneko olule inkqubo: amaxwebhu ngokuba mtshato kufuneka kuqokelela ize ingenise kwabasemagunyeni abafanelekileyo ngaphandle kokulibazisa. tape Red akukho mntu wazuza.

Ngoxa belindele ukuba isigqibo kufuneka sikhumbule Umthetho ongundoqo: musa ukulibala ukuba wakuba ezinento yokwenza lo mfazi nothando, uthando kunye amaqhina entsapho. Ayikwazi abe kufanelekile ngumsindo lokunyathela konke oku kwenye bawathathe abafa. Ukuqhawula umtshato nomfazi wakhe, kufuneka ukuba bamqumbise imeko ngaphaya elunxwemeni oko kuvumelekile. Ukuhlonipha ubomi phantse yangaphambili iqabane kufuneka ndihlale, ndihleli nje kuyo yonke inkqubo komtshato kwaye emva kwayo. Eyona ndlela kule meko iya kuba ukugcinwa kobuhlobo nemvisiswano kunye owayesakuba ngumlingane. Kakade ke, musa lula, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ukongeza, kufuneka ukhumbule abantwana yaye ngenene sizigcine. Kweli xesha yena kulula kakhulu, ngoko ngokwenene kufuneka uzame ukuba buhlungu kubo ngakumbi.

Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo kwiinkqubo komtshato iya kuba imbambano ukwahlulwa kwepropati. Ingxaki abaninzi wabalingane a isikhubekiso. Kwaye apha ayindikhathazi ukubonisa nesisa, bafikelele kwisigqibo sayo ngokuqonda, kuthathelwa ingqalelo iimfuno olusisinyanzelo abantwana. Kulo mzekelo, kusenokuba iingcebiso eziyimfuneko ngokusemthethweni, yaye maxa wambi igqwetha. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko sekutshiwo ngasentla, kungcono ukufumana isisombululo ukusilela.

Inyathelo lokugqibela yayiza kuba isivumelwano kunye bakhe ex-umfazi kwi iintlanganiso bakho nabantwana, kakade, ukuba musa isigqibo ndawonye ukuba abantwana (okanye abantwana) uya kuhlala nawe. Makungaze naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko kufuneka ukuba ingumqobo ulwalamano lwakho krovinochku usapho lwakho umtshato.

Ngoku uyazi ukuba iqhawule umtshato njani umfazi wakhe ukuba enze oko ngendlela ephucukile.