Imibuzo Okwenziweyo ngolwalamano: kutheni yinkosikazi okanye lover? Unyanisile, kusini na? Kutheni ukutshintsha abantu?

"I-Umthandi" - ligama lwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ukuva ngayo kwixesha lokuqala. Noko ke, kule mihla ke, esazi noko ngokwahlukileyo kunangaphambili. Kuba andivi kunjalo kungekudala kwixesha elidlulileyo, yaba intsingiselo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.

Imvelaphi yegama

Kwiincwadi zamabali "lover" - ligama ababhali kunye iimbongi ngokuba abantu abafumana iimvakalelo eliphezulu kwaye yokuthanda nabani. Umzekelo, Pushkin ngo "Ukumkanikazi Spades," wabhala le migca ilandelayo: "... ndiyakubongoza iimvakalelo umfazi, nenkosikazi, unina - konke oko kungcwele ebomini ...". Iyafuna ukunikela ingqalelo ngokulandelelana. Ngokubanzi, lo mbhali rhoqo wayethanda ukusebenzisa amagama afana "abathandi" kunye "kwinkosikazi."

Kodwa ke, ngelishwa, ngexesha lethu, baye balahlekelwa intsingiselo ukuba ekuqaleni obuphezu kwabo. Ngapha koko, bambalwa kakhulu abantu sicinga yokuba la mazwi baqhutywa kwisenzi ebaluleke kakhulu - ". Sithande" Oku imvelaphi. Kodwa ngexesha lethu, ababufumene Tint elibi. Abantu badla bakuthatha yonke, yaye ilizwi ngaphandle kulo mzekelo abekho.

Kutheni le nto kufuneka ukuba uyamthanda?

Lo mbuzo owubuzayo. ObunguNaphakade, usenokuthi. Okokuqala, kufuneka athi yena umfazi ehlonelwayo Akuyomfuneko. Ukuze kuhlangatyezwane nazo zonke iimfuno (zombini yokuziphatha kunye emzimbeni) unomyeni. Ukuba ufuna omnye umntu - ngoko ibizwa ngokuba imbuka. Kwaye umfazi uba ngomnye wabo bantu abamagama abo kuluntu ophucukileyo bathi ngokuvakalayo zingamkelwa.

Ngelishwa, abaninzi baye abayeni kunye nabathandi. Ngobugqwetha, isiqingatha abantu bacinga iqhelekile. Kwaye abayibambe malunga lwembono, kuthiwa endala-lixesha. Kodwa ke nanku umbuzo. Ekubeni xa ukuthembeka kunye nokuzinikela waphila umntu omdala-lixesha?

Kanye ngoku, abantu baye balahlekelwa zonke iintlobo imilinganiselo yokuziphatha. Kwaye akukho kuphinda bahloniphe abalingane babo. Lixabise ulwalamano, umtshato. amaqabane abaninzi kwangoko kakhulu, ecinga phezu isigqibo sakhe, kungekhona emva ukuhlalisana ehlangana ngokufanelekileyo. Ke ngoko, xa ixesha ubeka yonke endaweni yayo, bathi ukuba yimpazamo. Kwaye, abasuke phantsi kwezi ngxaki bona ngokwabo wena kunye neqabane lakho endimdalileyo, aqale ukufuna "ulonwabo" zabo.

Malunga ukuzalana kwicala

Ngokubanzi, abafazi abaninzi abaye benza iingxaki entsatsheni, kunokuba ukusombulula kubo, ucinga ukuba kufuneka lover. Oku ngokuqinisekileyo engalunganga, kodwa musa ukucinga njalo. Bona waqutyulwa nokuqutyulwa ixhala ngokwesondo - akukho ngumnqweno sabakho ukuya kulala kunye nomyeni wakhe, imibuzo: "Le ebudaleni bakho? Asexuality? Frigidity? ". Hayi, nje waphelelwa ngumdla iqabane. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka abasetyhini abaya kuzeka ekuseni kakhulu. Yaye baqalise ukufuna umntu okwanelisa kubo.

Esinye isizathu sokuba kukho ukukrexeza - umnqweno ukujonga iqabane lakhe. Ubungakanani uyabaxabisa lobudlelwane. Yaye neze isizathu. Yaye ziziziyatha nje. Onothando umntu akasoze ukuya loo nto.

Kaninzi azale kubathandi beziphindezela. Isibini esi sifo, okanye omnye wabalingane sele ikwazile ukufumana umntu kwicala le intuthuzelo - kufike mzuzu sokubala. Kaloku, ukuba kunjalo, kakhulu, ukukrexeza akujongwa ndlela ilungileyo.

Ngokubanzi, nangona kunjalo ezinzima zisenokubonakala isizathu - Akuyomfuneko ukuba afune umntu kwicala. Ukuba ubuhlobo ngokwenene emphethweni, kubhetele ukuthetha ngayo. Mhlawumbi singafumana isisombululo. Ukuba akunjalo, ngoko akuyomfuneko ukuba singanyaniseki omnye komnye, uwufihle - simele ke hamba nje kwaye uqale ubomi obutsha.