Iingcaphuno ezintle malunga noonyana. Abantu abakhulu kunye namazwi abo ngonyana

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Wethu umntwana. Iingcaphuno malunga nendodana yakho ethandekayo

Unyaka wokuqala wobomi bonyana wakhe - kwii-albhamu eziliqela. Nantsi ukumncoma kwakhe kokuqala, le yinyathelo lokuqala. Kwaye zingaphi imifanekiso emihle! Utata, eya emsebenzini, wathatha unyana wakhe ezandleni zakhe. Yaye unyana wayesityalela. Kulo mfanekiso kukho umntwana onoyolo kunye nentombazana edidekileyo. Kwaye balapha behamba. Ummelwane utshintsha isondo senqwelo. Kulo mfanekiso, upapa unxibelele kumnxibelelanisi kwaye unyana uyabukela umdla, ehleli kwisihlalo sabakhubazekile.
Ukusayina, iingcaphuno zisetyenziswe malunga noonyana beengoma:
• Izipongo ngeesaphetha, ezigubungelayo.
• Ophezulu, ophezulu, okhutshisa umntwana.
• Oo, uyingqumbo, ingulube engahlambulukanga!
• wam unyana.

Iincwadi zezingane

Abalobi abaninzi banomxholo ochukumisayo malunga noonyana. URobert Schumann wayekholelwa ukuba ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukukhula ngokomoya, ukutya okunokomoya okulula kunye okunomsoco kuyadingeka. Iilekese zokomoya kunye neesekese ziza kuzisa ingozi.

Yintoni engcono kunokuba noyise nendodana? Akukho mqhubi onokuyenza loo nto. U-Masha Traub encwadini yakhe ethi "Bad Mother" uchaza ubaba onothando, onoyolo. Wayemncedisa unyana wakhe: "Ungumhle kakhulu. Uya kuba neetalente kakhulu. Ndivakalelwa! "- wamemeza waza uyavuya naye. Utshintshile i-diapers, ehambelana nokutya kwabantwana, ukufunda iincwadi.

Iminyaka yobudala yeso sikolo yithuba elifanelekileyo kakhulu lokugxilisa iimpawu zokuziphatha. UBeethoven wathi: "Khulisa abantwana ngobubele: kuphela oku kuya kunika ulonwabo." Incwadi yokuqala nguN. Nosov. Ibali "ukhukhamba". Abantwana bakrazula iikomkethi kwintsimi yefama, kwaye le nkwenkwe yabazisa ekhaya. Kuba bonke ubomi bakhe wayekhumbula amazwi kamama:

• Kungcono ukuba ungabi nonyana kunoko, kunokuba ube nendodana-isela.

Umyalelo othi "Ungabi." Kwimbali ethi "Imifuziselo" abantwana beza ngamabali, enye inkwenkwe yaziqhayisa yathi: "Kubuxoki obuye bandizisa." Yaye wayethetha ngokuthi wayiba umjelo kwaye wamisa udadewabo omncinci. "Ewe unesibongo" - bamzisa isigwebo. Umyalelo "musa ukuxoka."

Ukuphuhliswa kweetalente

Umama noTata amaqabunga entabeni yeencwadi, befumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zemfundo. Zineemilomo yazo ezikhankanyiweyo zabantu abaninzi. Utitshala owaziwayo, uJan Komensky, wathi abantwana bathanda ukwenza okuthile ngokuzonwabisa. Wayecebisa ukuba abukele, ukuba behlala bexakeke ngokuzonwabisa kwabo. Ewe, umzali ngamnye ufuna unyana wakhe ukuba aqonde iphupha lakhe lomntwana. Kodwa umntu omncinci angabonisa italente eyahlukileyo. Ukuyihlakulela nokuxhasa yona ngumsebenzi wabazali.

Le ngcamango ibhalwe ngokubanzi yiL.N. Tolstoy. Wathi umfazi ongazange aqonde intliziyo yakhe ukuba ulonwabo lwonyana aluzange lube nentliziyo. Kwaye umama uthenge iintsimbi kunye neepende, i-violin kunye nepiyano, ibangela umdaniso kunye nedama. Utata unikela ibhola yebhola kunye nentonga yokuloba, ibhayisekile kunye nekhamera.
Abazali abanothando abanokungabaza: unyana wabo uya kukwazi ukwenza konke. UEdgar A. Iindwendwe zakhalaza:

Ndodana yam, ebomini bakho,

Eyona njengaye nje, wazalwa.

Baqala nje njengawe.

Unokufeza ukuzaliseka kwamaphupha.

Isikolo, isitrato, abahlobo

Loo ntathu unempembelelo enkulu, ekwazi ukuphazamisa iziseko ezibekwe ebuntwaneni. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangaqhagamshelani nomntwana wabo. Emotional, ngokomoya, ehambayo. Kwifowuni kayise nonina-icatshulwa ngoonyana bakaConfucius, uSeneca noBurton:

• Enye intlungu ivelisa unyana olungileyo: uyagula.
• Ukuba nguyise, uyaqonda uyihlo.
• UDiogenes washaya uyise xa unyana wakhe efunga.

Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi buba luvavanyo lwangempela. Ukufundisa ngomzekelo wakhe, kubalulekile ukulinganisa igama ngalinye, ukubala isinyathelo ngasinye. Unyana uyazibona aze athathe izigqibo. Izibalo zabantu abakhulu malunga nalokhu:

• Indlela yeenkcazo zide, zifutshane kwaye zikholisise indlela yemizekelo (Seneca).
• Ukungaqiniseki kancinci kulwaphulo-mthetho, njengokungakhathaleli kumama (Maupassant)
• Xa uqonda inyaniso kayise, unyana wakho sele eqinisekile ukuba uphosakele (Petros).

Indodana inokuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza imfundiso, kodwa iya kuba nguyise. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha kootitshala kufuneka ibe yintoni.

Iintlupheko zendlela

Abantwana bakhula kwaye baphumele ngaphandle kwendlu. Emva koko yonke into emntwaneni, ekwazi ukuyifundisa yona, into ebenokuyichaza ngayo, yinto enempahla ayayihamba nayo endleleni yokuphila. Intliziyo kayise iya kuhlala ivakale intambo engabonakaliyo inxulumene nendodana yakhe. Ngenxa yokuba unyana uyindalo yakhe. Uthando lukayise ngendodana yakhe ngaphezu kwonyana wakhe kuyise. Nguye uAristotle ophawulayo.

Lo mfana, ekhulile, ukhumbula ukuhlaselwa kukayise. Kuya kufika iyure apho uya kubaxelela unyana wakhe. Uya kuba nethemba lokuba uya kukhula ukuba abe ngumntu ofanelekileyo, kwaye soyika ukuba akayi kukwazi ukumfundisa kakuhle. Uya kujonga ukubeka umzekelo omhle. Kwaye uhlala uzikhumbula njengenkwenkwana.

Xa kunomama kuphela

Kwenzeka ukuba intsapho ishiywe ngaphandle koyise. Emva koko umama uthwala umthwalo ophindwe kabini. Ukuxhalabisa ngokuqhubekayo ngonyana akudluli. Yaye ukuba uyakwazi ukungaxhamli kunye nomntwana wakhe, akukho nto inamandla kuneli. Emva koko unyana ucinga ukuba unina ulungelo loMfazi. Yena nomkakhe baya kufumana okufanayo.

Ukususela kwisicatshulwa esinye malunga noonyana abakhule kunye nonina, isiphetho esingalindelekanga silandelayo:
• Indoda eyakhuliswe ngumama ongatshatanga yazalwa (Palaniq).

Ngokungahambiyo, unyana omncinci kufuneka abe ngumdala omncinci. Ukukhula, uqonda intlekele yentsapho yakhe kwaye uyayixabisa umnikelo womama. Uya kudibana namazwi akhe bonke ubomi bakhe. Uya kudibana naloo ncwadi, ngokuzibandakanya ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwirediyo.

Ngenxa yokuba ubulumko bokuba ngumama ngumcaphuno malunga nendodana, iincwadana ezimfutshane ezinokuthi zizithabathele elwandle ngamazwi abantu. Ngenxa yokuba bathetha intliziyo yakhe. Ngenxa yokuba bawamkela njengemigaqo kwaye bahlala bethembekile kubo bonke ubomi babo.