Yintoni na isithembiso ilungileyo ukuhlangabezana intombazana?

Xa ubomi isibini ngasinye kusoloko umhla, nto leyo ibhiyozelwa iholide. Ngoko ke, Kakade ke, ngomhla ukuthandana. Nasemva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini, isibini esitshatileyo kunye nothando elikhethekileyo ukubhiyozela le mini, ucinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba umtshato wabo uphumelele. Noko ke, uthando imini azifane ingqamana imini ekuqaleni ubuhlobo. Kuphela ezinqabileyo iimeko, ezizodwa, inoveli uqalisa kwaqala ukusuka kwimizuzu yokuqala yentlanganiso. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke ngaphezu omnye umhla elithembekileyo neliyingqondi - umhla xa umntu ubingelela intombazana ukuhlangabezana. Mhlawumbi amantombazana esi siganeko ibonakala ebonakalayo kunjalo, kodwa guys oko kuthetha lukhulu. Ngapha koko, abaninzi kuthi zimbi kakhulu unokuyithelekelela ukunika indlela engcono ukuhlangabezana intombazana, ingakumbi xa ithe yendela kwindoda enamandla kakhulu.

Ukoyika ngokwenza umpoposho wachaza izinto ezimbini: ukoyika ukungaphumeleli kunye noloyiko kweendlebe "deal-full". Ne yokuqala, unako lula ukulwa. Yanele ukuba bazive bezithembile ukuba ukulandela yaye ngokucacileyo ukuba ithagethi yayo, nangona imiqobo zokwenene beqonda. Noko ke, nantsi ithuba kuwabhuqa ubudlelwane ikhona, xa uthe wenza isithembiso kungekudala kakhulu. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ukuqonda ukuze anikele okusemandleni ukuhlangabezana intombazana, eshiya yena indlela yokufuduka ngaphandle meko.

Eyona ndlela ilungileyo - kukuvavanya emanzini. Ngokomzekelo, ngendlela eqhula ukubuza "ntoni xa wena ndaqala ukuthandana?" okanye "ubuya ucinga ntoni ukuba wayesazi ukuba nawe ndize ndibe kunye kunyaka ozayo?". amabinzana ezinjalo ungahlokomisi ngathi umbuliso esesikweni, kodwa kukuvumela ukuba ukwazi indlela intombazana kwi sisibonelelo kunokwenzeka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba impendulo iya kuba HIV, kwaye ke sele wenze umnikelo kakhulu. Umzekelo, ukuba ngumbuzo ebhaliweyo ngaphambili, bendiya kuba ndathi into efana "aliyi engqondweni", uthabathe nje isandla sakhe, athi, "Masidibane, nzulu?". Njengoko ubona, yonke into ilula kakhulu, kwaye iphazili phezu njani ukuba anikele intombazana ukuhlangabezana, akukho mfuneko.

Ukuba i "Ukuzibona phantsi" asisiniki impendulo ecacileyo, ungasoloko ukuguqulela yonke into ibe a joke, kodwa kwelinye icala, bekuya kuba ngumqondiso olubi zenu. Ukuba ufuna ukudibana le ntombazana, ngoko ke kuya kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isebenzise ezinye iindlela ndlongondlongo ngakumbi.

Zama ukuba baziphathe ikholosile. Musa ukuqonda kakuhle indlela ukunikela intombazana ukuhlangabezana, kwaye aziphathe ngokungathi wena kunye. Ngaba unokuyithelekelela abahlobo bakhe ngokuqhula njengoko neshweshwe layo, njl Ukuba ithe engqondweni, yonke into iza kusonjululwa ngokwalo. Ukuba agogotye, singakwazi ukuphendula ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokuzithemba inkcaso kuye: "Ndiyazi, kodwa kungekudala uza kuba ngabam." Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba zange kuvakala ngathi isoyikiso, nokuba wenze ntoni na negeza, kodwa njengokuba azithembe.

Ukuba sele unayo azisebenzi zonke iindlela, yaye elula "ndiyakuthanda, makhe Masidibane" ivakale ilumeza, ngoko ke kufuneka kubhenela iindlela yokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, cela Ngokuba izincokoliso zakho zimnandi ngaphezu intombazana ukwenza ukunikezwa. Buza nje a joke. Kuya ngoko nangoko ukuba ufuna ukundulula kuye ukuba abe kunye, kodwa ukufaka uhlobo kwaye uqale ukuxoxa le sihloko. Emva koko, kufuneka ukuguqula incoko, wangathi ilizwi naye ngeemvakalelo zakho. Le ntombazana iza kuhamba crazy ukusuka kumsebenzi guess, yaye xa wena kubo kwiintsuku 7-10 kumema ukuba kuyikhawulela ndlela Kaloku, kuya kuba yinto ezimnandi kakhulu Ndive ebomini bam uwuthabathe.

Awukwazi ukwenza kakhulu kangaka, yaye ukulungiselela umpoposho ukukhawulelana intombazana kule ndinyana. Le ndlela ugqibelele ukuba isimo zothando. Ukuba ndinyana nangoku kuculwa ukuba isiginkci, bambalwa kakhulu ukumelana. Ngokubanzi, Yiba sokuyila kwaye musa ukoyika. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, unikela imini wakho ukuba ube kunye ukukhumbula. Nokuba oko engenangqondo eyinqaba, kuya kuba usindiso lwakho, apho liya kuba libhiyoza kwiminyaka emininzi kamva.