Yintoni iphupha ukutshata: iimbono ezahlukeneyo

Ukuba ngesiquphe ukhe wayibona ephupheni womtshato lakhe, ngoko, kakade, uya kuba nomdla ukwazi oko ephupheni ukuba aphinde atshate. Okulandelayo siza kuzama ncwadi ezahlukeneyo iphupha ukuba uphendule lo mbuzo.

Eyaziwa incwadi iphupha Freud uthi utshata ephupheni kuthetha ukuba kungekudala uza ungaboniswa ezithile isimanga engalindelekanga. Wena, ke, kufuneka unikele ingqalelo zize kwesi siganeko kwaye uzame ukuqashela ukuba lithetha ntoni.

Dream Ukutolikwa Miller ngumbuzo ngento iphupha ukutshata, uthi ukuba kungekudala kakhulu uya kufumana indlela yokuphuma nemeko enzima, nto leyo eyaba unobangela ixhala zakho neemvakalelo. Kwakhona kule ncwadi ephupheni, unako ukufumana ukuba yintoni isindululo iphupha umtshato. Eli phupha kuthetha ukuba kungekudala kakhulu uya kukhula kakhulu emehlweni umntu akwazi ukuba negalelo ikamva lakho, yaye ku hlamusela ukusithemba.

Ngokutsho Dream Ukutolikwa Vanga, akuba ebone ephupheni womtshato lakhe gay, unako ngokukhuselekileyo ulindele isimemo ekuqaleni ukuya epatini abahlobo abadala. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba lo uya kudibana apho umyeni wakhe elizayo. Ukuba ephupheni nje akhoyo emsithweni, nto leyo azakubalulwa uvuyo ekhethekileyo, oko kusenokwenzeka, kwixa elizayo kukho ingxaki phambi kwakho, nto leyo eya kuba nefuthe isiphelo sakho.

Xa sibhenela umbuzo oko iphupha ukutshata, okanye ukuya emsithweni, ethi iphupha usapho, unako ukufunda oku kulandelayo. Xa uphupha ukuba emtshatweni okanye kumtshato ecaweni, kusenokubakho izifo nokuxakaniseka. Ukuba waphupha ukuba utshatile ngasese, ebomini kuyimfuneko ukuba baziphathe bacingisisise njengento kusongela igama lakho. Ukuba neendwendwe emtshatweni wakho bambethe omnyama, ngoko ke baya kuwa kubomi bentsapho yabo. Xa uphupha owasebenzisayo Sithi halala kwi emtshatweni wakho, uze ulindele ukuba iindaba ezilungileyo.

Ngomhla umbuzo wokuba yintoni iphupha ukutshata, incwadi uthando phupha ithi abantu abakufutshane nawe uya kakhulu isidima sakho. Ukuba wedding yakho iphupha elo yimfihlo, mhlawumbi umntu ongakwamkeliyo amarhe ngawe enokonakalisa igama lakho elihle. Ukuba abazali bakho musa kukholiswa umtshato wenu, eneneni, oku kuthetha ukuninika inkxaso usondele kwezinye mbandela ubaluleke kangaka.

Ngoku sifunda ukutolika kumtshato iphupha incwadi ephupheni osenyongweni. Ukuba waphupha of lomtshato lomnye umntu, ngoko mhlawumbi, ulindele incoko kakhulu kwaye phandle kunye nomyeni wakhe okanye lover malunga ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili. Ke amadoda, isihloko ibuhlungu kakhulu, pre-ukulungiselela udliwano-ndlebe, An ukuzama ukwakha iphezulu unkabi. Xa uphupha ubona emtshatweni wakhe, enyanisweni sisichasi: ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakho kule ngxaki. Ukuba waphupha unxibe ilokhwe yomtshato, kusenokuba kukho ezinye iingxaki ezinkulu okanye ukugula kuyoluka.

Ekugqibeleni, nguwe kuphela ungenza isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi ethi iphupha ukuze nikholwe. Kodwa nayiphi na imeko, ukuba isiganeko esibalulekileyo ezinjengezo emtshatweni, nokuba uthe waba nephupha, kufuneka zithathwe ngononophelo olukhulu.