Umyeni udade wam. Ngubani na ke kum?

Abantu abaninzi rhoqo ngokubuza: "Umyeni udade wam - ngubani na?" Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba ukususela imizuzu yokuqala yobomi, umntu alufumanayo izalamane zakhe: unina, uyise, udade okanye umzalwana, utatomkhulu - oko zonke ezakhe, abantu babo kakuhle. Kule wonke ikhokelwa ngokukhululekileyo, yaye akuyomfuneko ukuba achaze ukuba ngubani na lowo. iminyaka eziphaphazelayo, abantwana bakhule, ukufumana iqabane umphefumlo, ngokulandelelana, ngasinye siba izihlobo ngaphezulu. Indlela unciphise zonke izalamane kunye nendlela ukubiza umntu ekunene?

Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba unyana - ayikho nje igama intombi nomyeni wakhe, kangangokuba angakwazi wabiza umyeni udade wam. Ngubani na udade bomyeni wam? Lo mbuzo udla ubuza intombazana eselula egama udade ukuba uzekile, ngokuba kwincoko kufuneka ngandlel kuthiwe ilungu labo elitsha losapho. Kuba zonke izihlobo umfazi wakhe, yena - e-mthetho.

amaqabane abaninzi basoloko bexambulisana ngento ukuba baye kubabiza usapho isiqingatha womoji-zonka, ngoko kubalulekile ukwazi igama elichanekileyo nganye izihlobo isiqingatha yakhe yesibini.

Bonke abahlala kweli hlabathi yimicimbi yabo yemihla ngemihla: badle, basele, baye emsebenzini musa nokuba ucinga ngendlela kangakanani na izihlobo. Ukuba ucinga ngale elidlulileyo, njengoko umthetho, yaninzi kunene, kunye zoqhagamshelwano yonke ebomini afike into ezisebenzisekayo ukufumana kubo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Abaninzi ngaphandle lathi mayiyo kundithengela isiselo eshushu kwaye asikwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni na indoda udade esithi: "Ngubani na oya kuchazela kum oko kuyimfuneko okanye usisizalwane indoda nomfazi wam, okanye, nomfazi womzalwana wam, njalo njalo?" Kodwa ukuze bafunde bonke, musa mfuneko elide ukuhlala nabahlobo uxabana malunga amagama abo zibathandayo. Isizathu ukhumbule kuphela ngexesha elinye imigaqo kobudlelwane usapho, kwaye ke ixesha elininzi ukusebenzisa la amagama kwincoko.

Devereaux - umama (zooyise okanye koomama) mzalwana, umyeni, umhlobo - uyise iqabane ngokunxulumene abazali indoda umfazi okanye. In-mthetho - umzalwana umfazi wakhe, udade-in-mthetho - yakhe wam (zooyise okanye koomama) udade yomfazi, ngo-mthetho - i udade umyeni nonyana wakhe - ukuba umyeni udade wam. Ngubani na umama okanye nomfazi kabawo? Lowo ngumbuzo owabuzwa amadoda amaninzi isiqingatha womoji-zonka, ukuze kuthiwe, kunye nomama-in-mthetho. Svokor ku-mthetho - abazali ngumyeni wakhe nentombi - i umfazi, unyana okanye umntakwabo. Kwakhona ku-mthetho obizwa ngokuba umfazi ngokunxulumene intsapho indoda yakhe.

Ezinye umfazi wakhe nentombi, ngubani usandul 'ukutshata, akazange acinge ukuba kufanelekile ukuba ngentloko amagama izihlobo indoda yakhe, kwaye ngokunjalo incoko kunye nabanye abantu abakwazi ukubona kakuhle isizalwane entsha. Kuyinto emgceni. kakhulu, amabi, kuba incoko ukhokela umfazi omdala, kungekhona umntwana oselula ngubani na ukuthetha indoda okanye utata umyeni wam schemes unina dade.

Xa isibini zipeyintwe kwi-ofisi yobhaliso, iintsapho ezimbini bafumane izalamane ezintsha. Ingongoma ukuqala zonke okubaluleke ngayo umtshato, kuba usoloko yaye "umdaniso." Abantu abaninzi emva komtshato aqalile ukwenza umthi usapho. Kodwa inye into ukwazi zonke izalamane zakhe, yaye enye into - ukwazi amagama abo. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa ukuza ukuphakamisa umbulelo ngexesha emthendelekweni. Kubhetele ukuba sokuyila kwaye ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye ufumanise ukuba ngubani na unyoko-zala, nyana okanye umkhululi, ngoko ke musa ukudideka lihlazo kuba besazi igama isalamane, kwanokonwabela iholide nobomi.