Ngoobani win babenethemba okanye ugxeka yonk 'into?

Impendulo elifutshane lo mbuzo: "Ngubani na ke lokuhle," kuya into enjengale - ke abo, nkqu emnqamlezweni-ubone iingenelo. Igama elithi "themba" livela kwisiLatini "nguOptimus" - oyena kuthatha indawo, ubudlelwane omhle ukholose ehlabathini.

Ukuba nethemba kubalelwa njengendlela sokuba abalandeli unqulo zamaKristu, apho lithemba ezinokuthi ezinxulumene okubi, loo nto ithathwa isono ofayo. Kwaye mhlawumbi nje kwenzeka, ekubeni kutshanje kuye kwaba izihlanganisi IBHASO LOKUPHUMELELA kunye nempilo yomntu kunye meko iqhubekayo apho. Umzekelo, abantu baqhelane zizifo zengqondo okanye ngumba iimfundiso Luizy Hey, baqale ukuqonda ngcono ngoobani lokuhle. Ngoko ke sithi abantu musani ukusingela phantsi, alunamona; kwamkela naluphi na uluvo oluthile, ngaba banyanzelise ngokwayo yaye uyakonwabela yonke umzuzu zobomi. Loo indawo nga kwezinye iimeko balahle zizifo ezibangelwa kuqala inkqubo luvo.

Kwelinye icala, izifundo kutshanje lubonisa ukuba ukufakelwa loo ukusilela kunyanyezelwa ngcono ukuba ilungiswe babi, hayi ugwetyelwe. Uphando lobunzululwazi olwenziwa kwiYunivesithi Seattle, wabonisa ukuba silahle akusenzi sizive sikhathazekile emva kuthotho lweziganeko ezimbi. Ngoobani banethemba kule ndawo? Namhlanje, kukho ubungqina bokuba isicwangciso injongo entle icwangcisa umzimba wonke ukuze kufikelelwe isiphumo ezinqwenelekayo. Ityala apho ngexesha lemfazwe kwinkampu yoxinaniso yenye amabanjwa, kuba oyingcali bengqondo, wanceda abantu ukuba bazinikele elunxwemeni phantsi kwelanga ngamandla endaweni enqabeni yomkhosi, nelenyuse ukungawi eziphilayo ebandayo - yaye ezinye musa ngumkhenkce.

Kodwa apha eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ndingatshiseki ngaphandle, ngenxa kukubi kakhulu cha kunye onethemba - its kakhulu. Ungazama artificially ukuphuhlisa "HIV", oko kukuthi ubundlobongela okunxamnye nemvelo yayo, ukususela indlela entle ubomi bubonisa ukuba kukho isiganeko kuzisa uvuyo lokwenene. Kungcono ukuba realist nethemba, nto leyo eya ukujonga ihlabathi ngenxa "iindondo rose-elimbala."

Ngoobani aba lokuhle? Mhlawumbi abo pessimists abathi, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo ukuba bafunde izakhono themba (on Selingmanu). Ukuze wenze oku kancinci. Okokuqala, ukuba Ndimnike impumelelo bona, imizamo yabo, hayi ukuya iimeko kunye nabanye abantu. Okwesibini, mna ndiyakholwa ukuba nantoni na enokwenzeka kuyo nayiphi na indawo nangalo naliphi na ixesha, hayi kuphela ngokuthanda amathamsanqa kwindawo ethile yaye soze yenzeke kwakhona. Okwesithathu, baphile ubomi ethile ngemihla, kubandakanywa ukwenza ezi zincomo zilandelayo:

- Beka iinjongo article kwaye zokufikelela kuzo;

- khangela ingxaki kumanqaku ezahlukeneyo;

- mamela umculo, ukuhamba kwindalo, iphumle imizuzu engama-20 ngosuku;

- Sothuka mangaza;

- ezithile utshintsha ngokupheleleyo umfanekiso;

- babone ihlabathi lonke imiva;

- qala usuku kunye nembono ezimnandi le nto, kunye neengcinga elungileyo okanye imithandazo;

- Exercise kunye nobuchule, kwanokuba oko engazisi yona mali. Uninzi yobuciko inkcubeko yehlabathi ibonisa nje isimo magcisa;

- funda iziqhulo kwaye ukhumbule ezimnandi ebomini.

Ukuba awuyazi ukuba ungubani - lerinene, cha, realist - kunokwenzeka ukuba athathe uvavanyo, uzele kwi Internet. Aya kukunceda ukuba achaze iimpawu eziphambili uhlobo kunceda ubone indlela yomsebenzi uzinomfa.